he used to hold my hand all the time and kiss my forehead and my hand when he held it. Well when we broke up he ended it with me to be with someone else, but what I found out was he spoke negatively about me to this girl. It hurt me to the core. She called me and told me he told her....that he was never attracted to me and never really loved me. When I confronted him, he said it wasn't true, he said that because I lived a couple hours away he didnt think it was going to work. But if this girl lied, why did he continue to be with her. Anyhow, they are not together anymore. But they both made me question if he really loved me and cared about me. When a guy does those gestures I mentioned in the beginning, doesnt that mean he did love me and care about me. Why did he say these things? We dont speak anymore, I guess my ego was hurt, and wondered why guys do these things. Was it to impress her at the time to say these things about me?
2007-03-27 18:25:30 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think she made it up to make you feel bad. The fact that he was with her does not mean he said those things. Why would she want to say positive things to you, you're the ex? Why did she even talk to you? I'm sure you know why it didn't work out between you two but that doesn't mean at one time he didn't care about you.
2007-03-27 18:31:53 · answer #1 · answered by strawberry 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look lady it's over stop living in the past. Live in the moment and forget about it. All you doing is reliving moment after moment trying to hold on to something you don't have. That's life it sucks. You now single and available. Once you get past the past you will find your happier without him. Out of curiosity did you make such a note of his gestures when you were together?
2007-03-28 01:42:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably said it, to make her feel better and to show her that she is the only girl in his life and to also show her that he is over you.... Well if conversations came up about you there still must be some strings attatched with him.. Maybe he did not say it... and she just lied to cause rucus, because she was worried that you might go after him.... He prolly did like you but realized he messed up later and really wants you back..but what ever you do, don't take him back.... and he prolly did love/like you... he was just tryin to be tough and show off for her..
2007-03-28 01:33:39 · answer #3 · answered by tuffchevy86 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My instincts tell me, don't trust the new girl. They're always a little jealous of the previous girl (you) and will do anything to make you feel worse. As a guy, telling this type of stuff to the new girl doesn't make much sense...
So don't sweat it and move on. I'm sure you'll find someone better.
2007-03-28 01:31:39 · answer #4 · answered by HaLF_BaKeD123 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hunny the new gf is always trying to put a wedge between the bf and the former gf..the fact that they could still be friends is revolting to the new gf..take my word for it....my ex-hubby and i split up 12 yrs. ago and no matter what i said about my ex-hubby she could not seeing him doing or saying that. and she tried to get him really turned against me by saying i still owed him money..of course she got really angry when he told her i did not owe him anything...if anyone owed anyone he owed me...so see he might not be saying these things..and maybe it just took him longer to see what she was really like than anyone else could. it is always easier to see what is going on inside the circle when you are the one looking from the outside..you can see what no one else can because it is not happening to you...i hope you understand what i am trying to say. oh yeah my ex-hubby is treating his gf the same way he treated me and now she comes to me for advice...i just tell her oh well,tried to tell you..lol
2007-03-28 01:51:41 · answer #5 · answered by myninny54 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
FIRST OF ALL IF HE REALLY AND TRULY CARED ABOUT YOU HE WOULDN'T LIED TO HER ABOUT YOU. YOU ARE BETTER OFF WITHOUT HIM.YOU DESERVE TO BE TREATED WITH RESPECT DON'T EVER LET ANYONE MAKE YOU THINK ANY DIFFERENT. WHEN A MAN LOVES A WOMAN THAT MEANS HE TREATS HER GOOD ALL THE TIME AND RESPECTS HER.
2007-03-28 01:39:36 · answer #6 · answered by tinac 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i myself have said that i really didnt love someone, but never to the new chick but to myself, and mainly to help me deal with the hurt
2007-03-28 01:30:41 · answer #7 · answered by Chrystopher P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most people do not always speak the truth particularly when they are with the opposite sex.
2007-03-28 01:59:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to have tough skin over time to be with men because they will do and say whatever it takes to get their way with females.
2007-03-28 02:31:26 · answer #9 · answered by msthinkpositive 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't matter any more !
He said, she said ...
He left you for her... she called you ...lies/truth ...he denies, but is still with her ... now they split ...
They both are obviously not mature enough, you should be!
2007-03-28 05:23:24 · answer #10 · answered by GBH 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋