My girlfriend grandpa is in the hospital and its kinda not looking good. If something was to happen 2 him what are some things i can do to make her feel just a little bit better
2007-03-27 18:15:51 · 13 answers · asked by Ray J 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i just went through a death on my fiance's side. it was her grandfather! rough time! just be there! make sure you can hear her if she says something, hold her when she hugs you, smile at her when she looks at you, give her a shoulder to cry on, etc. Be her rock!
2007-03-27 18:26:22 · answer #1 · answered by krazykubes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, right this is the terrific i will grant devoid of understanding her. If she is comfortable-feely, hug her and kiss her on the CHEEK. If she isn't comfortable-feely, ask if she could like some area. If she needs slightly of convenience nutrition, ask if she could like some ice cream. If she likes to verify, getting her a e book which will help her with grief would desire to be a stable concept. If the buddy died because of the fact of a illness or some thing, donate even $10 to a company that money analyze for locating a treatment, etc. If she is crying and not speaking nicely, purely carry her. in case you think of she could enjoy extra advantageous interest and affection, call her or deliver her a text textile perhaps as quickly as an afternoon or the different day telling her that she's alluring and asking if there is something you're able to do for her. I even have experienced friends passing away... and that's certainly devastating. the terrific possible element you're able to do is make your self obtainable to her. If she likes your loved ones and vice versa, tell your mothers and dads with reference to the placement and perhaps you all could have her over for dinner sometime this week or this month. stable success, and in case you sense mushy doing so, please grant her my condolences.
2016-11-23 20:41:58 · answer #2 · answered by buckman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a very difficult question. Some people want to be left alone to grieve. Others need plenty of companionship and comforting. Just try to be sensitive to her needs. Let her talk, and reminisce. If she appears to be extremely depressed, try to take her somewhere, or do something she might enjoy to relieve the pain. Only time will heal the pain in her heart.
I admire you for being so concerned. Good Luck!!
2007-03-27 18:25:37 · answer #3 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can just be there. Spend some quiet time with her. Let her talk, or not, as she chooses.
The thing that eases a crying heart the most is having someone there who can hold her, and listen - really listen - if she wants to talk about her feelings, or her memories.
Don't try to take her anywhere fun, or to make her laugh. It won't work. She has to work through the sadness first.
Be with her, and take your cue from her. That will help the most.
2007-03-27 18:22:35 · answer #4 · answered by kiwi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be there 4 her
2007-03-27 18:19:10 · answer #5 · answered by crengle60 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you got to get her mind of it dude.
tell her that They are in a better place and we are the ones stuck here on Earth.
In New Orleans, the morn the loss at first and then they celebrate the fact that their loved one is in Heaven.
Take her to her favorite place and tell her you love her.
Hug her and make her know that you want her to be happy again. Time is short and you both need to enjoy your life to the fullest the same way her relatives did. That's what they would want I'm sure.........(we could all be dead tomorrow)
Praying never hurt anyone either........
peace......c dog from Indiana
2007-03-27 18:24:52 · answer #6 · answered by Craig B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be there for her. Also remember that you're helping her grieve, you are NOT trying to stop her from grieving. She needs to cry and get all of if it out. So if she starts crying on your shoulder, just let her, hug her hold her (or whatever she prefers), and allow her to choose when to stop. Also, if she's moody or snaps at you, remember that she loves you. Let her know that you're there for her but be careful with your words. Many people get offended if you say "it'll get better" or "how are you doing?" if she needs to hear it that's great, you know her better than me, but many individuals look at those words as pushing them to get better. I hope this helped!
2007-03-27 19:30:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep her company whenever you can . . .
Your presence and maybe holding her hand should be of great comfort .
This kind of pain is something each of us will have to ride out some time in our lives.
You are a very good person to show this kind of concern . . .
Thank-you
2007-03-27 18:21:57 · answer #8 · answered by kate 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be there for her. Let her grieve. Let her talk and get it out. And while she's talking, shut the f--k up! Just listen. No platitudes about the Lord giving and the Lord taking...
2007-03-27 20:11:28 · answer #9 · answered by Taharqa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be there for her. Do the things that will make her appreciate your being present . Take her to the movies, dinners, Nice drives, you know the routine. just be yourself and she will love you just for that .
2007-03-27 18:22:44 · answer #10 · answered by triple o.g. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋