Your mother is one thing, but you will never forgive your boyfriend for this. Things aren't going to be the same affter this. You should ask your boyfriend to pay for it. Ask your mother for some space. Dump the boyfriend.
2007-03-27 18:04:08
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answered by Miss Metro 5
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You have to remember that having an abortion is something YOU have to decide. If you let others make the decision for you, you'll hate them if you eventually decide it wasn't the right decision. If you're having second thoughts about having an abortion, don't do it. If you're not ready for a child, try giving it up for adoption or find a couple who would like to have children but can't. There are websites dedicated to this. Just make sure you find a reputable one. That way, you won't have it hanging over your head if you get the abortion, you gave an incredible gift to another family, and you gave the child a chance at life.
The way you talk, your boyfriend really isn't someone you should be with. He'll end up breaking your heart if he's really that bad to you. Don't cave on something you don't want to do. You can never take back an abortion or the emotional strain that comes with them.
2007-03-27 18:07:58
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answered by Miss Informed 5
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An abortion is a very big step in life. No one can make that choice but you. Once you become pregnant you begin to have a bond with your unborn child right away. An abortion will make your boyfriend and your mothers life easier finacially, but will wreck you emotionally. If you want the baby keep it. Its hard work but its all worth it..And everything will work out, it may be hard in the beginning but it will work out. I am not a religous person at all but God works in mysterious ways. Go with your gut feeling, and dont let anyone tell you what you should or shouldnt do when it comes to a baby. As for your boyfriend, man enough to get you pregnant, needs to be man enough to take care of the responsiblities of being a father. I am a 25 year old father of 2 and its still a challange, but I can't imagine life without my kids.
2007-03-27 18:11:47
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answered by xcaliber1117 1
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The question is........Do you want the baby ? I was faced with the very same situation many years ago. I refused to do it !!!!
And I did not marry the baby's father either. Sounds to me that he doesn't want to take some responsibility for his part in this, not to mention he doesn't treat you well and is impatient.
It takes two, you was not alone in this. Get rid of him, and if you don't want to have abortion there are always a good family out there that would adopt your baby. Plus a single family parent is not unheard these days.
There are many after effect's of having a abortion one is long term guilt that could last a life time. ry some counsleing this may be of some help to you.
Wishing the best !!!!!
2007-03-27 18:17:09
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answered by Anonymous
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No no no. It is YOUR DECISION. It is your decision alone. I am not going to tell you to do it or not do it. You must go see a close trustworthy relative who is more compassionate and objective. Your boyfriend is partly responsible and he has to accept that. If you decide to keep this child, then he is financially and emotionally responsible for the child as well. You must not act subservient to anyone. You can consider what they are saying, but it sounds like they are putting too much pressure on you. Please go see someone at Planned Parenthood for some real help and guidance.
As far as adoption goes, this must be your decision as well. It is another option to look at. Understand that it will be hard to get the baby back and that you will not have a say over how the parents raise the child. You may get to see the child once a month, maybe. If you decide to raise the child, you will need the support of your parents and the father to make it easier.
2007-03-27 18:05:11
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answered by Anonymous
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You should be asking for his support. This is your child ,you made together, a human life , how wonderful ,there are thousands of childless couples who would be glad to adopt this baby. If you have an abortion ,you will be taking away the life of an innocent being who without your protection will not survive.You are both responsible for this babies future and you owe it to him/her to do the right thing.Its time to face up to your responsibilities as future Parents.Your Mom will come round to the Idea never fear.You cannot bargain with this babies life to get what you think you might want ,you have to accept what you have been given which is this Child.
2007-03-28 06:06:19
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answered by Lindsay Jane 6
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You need to ask yourself some serious questions. You have a vision of what you want your life to be like with your boyfriend. Ask yourself if your boyfriend wants the same thing? Have you asked him what he sees in the future for the two of you? Ask. Ask what future he sees if you have the baby. Ask what future he sees if you don't have the baby. If you're afraid of the answer then you aren't being honest with yourself. I'll bet you already know the answers to these questions. Trust your instincts. If you have the baby, you may have it alone. If you don't have the baby, this is your decision. Your mother can't make that decision for you. This is your decision. You made the decision to expose yourself to pregnancy...now make the decision how you want the consequences. This may sound harsh but believe me, I'm praying for you and wish you the best.
2007-03-27 18:12:43
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answered by judgebill 7
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You are a mother now, too, and your first responsibility is to the child inside you, not to your mother or boyfriend. If you kill your baby for them, not only will you never forgive yourself, you will likely end up hating them as well. Statistically speaking, most relationships break up after abortion. What will you do if you kill your baby for him and he ends up leaving anyway? Killing an innocent human being is NOT an acceptable compromise. Are you really the type of young woman who will kill one person to avoid upsetting another? You need to be stronger than this. Your baby is depending on you for protection, and you are the ONLY one who can protect her! Take a look at this information before you do something you regret the rest of your life:
Photos and Video of Abortions, Including 1st Trimester Abortions:
http://www.abort73.com/HTML/I-A-4-video.html
http://www.cbrinfo.org/Resources/pictures.html
http://www.cbrinfo.org
Information on All Aspects of Abortion:
http://Abort73.com
Photos and Facts About Prenatal Development:
http://www.justthefacts.org/clar.asp
http://www.abort73.com/HTML/I-A-2-prenatal.html
http://www.studentsforlife.uct.ac.za/foetal%20dev%20photos.html
http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/in_pictures/3847319.stm
Abortion Stories:
http://abortiontv.com/Words/truestoriesfrom-mothers.htm
http://www.abort73.com/HTML/I-G-2-testimony.html
http://www.teenbreaks.com/abortion/girlswhoaborted.cfm
Abortion Risks:
http://www.teenbreaks.com/abortion/complicationsgirls.cfm
http://afterabortion.info/complic.html
http://www.abortionfacts.com/reardon/effect_of_abortion.asp
Abortion Deaths:
http://www.lifedynamics.com/Pro-life_Group/Pro-choice_Women
http://www.afterabortion.info/news/abortiondeaths.html
http://www.nrlc.org/Factsheets/FS15_pilldanger.pdf
http://www.lifeissues.org/ru486/deaths.htm
Free, Confidential Pregnancy Help (including referrals for financial, medical, legal, and housing assistance; free pregnancy tests and ultrasounds; free maternity and baby supplies; pregnancy, parenting, and adoption information; counseling and emotional support):
http://www.optionline.org/advantage.asp
http://www.heartbeatinternational.org/worldwide_directory.asp
Support for Pregnant Teens:
http://standupgirl.com/site/index.php
2007-03-31 13:26:19
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answered by Anonymous
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its okay if you dont want this child but i totally disagree with having an abortion. that is not fair to the baby in any way. ther is always adoption as one way to go. i think the only thing you should ask of your mother and boyfriend is to support you through the decision of adoption. comprimising involves you getting something out of the situation and you have yet to state that. at least if you give up the child for adoption, every one wins. otherwise , honey you gotta be a woman and follow through with the choices you made. and dont ever think keeping the child is gonna keep this guy in youe life. he already treats you bad as it is. let him go. you have much more important things to be thinking about right now.
2007-03-27 18:13:24
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answered by Anonymous
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These times in a women's/girls life is so hard. I dont think they are being very fair on you. I would do what you want to do because if you dont you will regret it one day. My daughter had a abortion and it was such a hard thing for the 3 of us to go threw. It was a decision she was sure about and at the time I was upset. She did the right thing for her and that makes me proud to know she is smart enough to know what she can manage with.. I look at her now and know what she is doing now she never could've done if she hadn't made that hard decision.
2007-03-27 18:13:15
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answered by karena k 4
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How old are u honey?? not that that matters at this moment.
U must be seeing a pattern within ur behavior: U like to please people. U need to stop that if u want to grow more independent ¬ allow people to trample over u.
Else ask for those mothers support &understanding. Its also a shame that u got pregnant by a impatient man, u can demand his patience &ask him to support u. & ask them for proper abortion facilities, i mean top notch.
Genrally i dont believe in abortions (unless the pregnancy was caused by an unfortunate incident such as rape) u also have the option of a adoption u know...
Try &pause yourself, &figure out what u want!! &what u need, what is ur mind set!!!
2007-03-27 18:12:16
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answered by Phoenix21 7
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