We're LDS, believe in being married forever, but my husband blames me for my failing finances, even though I have always worked and made us debt free three times in our life, he's chased away our 18 year old girl, etc. When do you give up?
2007-03-27 17:50:33 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The best thing to do - Pray about it to your Heavenly Father. If you truly want a divorce, ask Him if it is the right thing to do. If it is, then so be it. If it's not, pray for help, maybe even seek counseling...it's not always easy to work through problems in marriage...but try. Especially if you feel as though you really need to. My husband and I went through some things a few years ago and I was pretty close to leaving because we didn't want the same things out of life and didn't have the same goals. I prayed, prayed, prayed and prayed some more to know what to do. I always had the same answer of work it out. We did and eventually were sealed in the temple and our marriage couldn't be better.
Maybe put your names on the prayer roll at the temple...
Good luck to you.
2007-03-28 06:23:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get counseling. Seriously, there are marriage counselors and there are financial counselors. Think about what's not making your marriage work and fix it. If you are willing and he is absolutely unwilling, it is time to give up. Do it without guilt. You will have tried. You cannot be both sides of a partnership.
You need to give details on the chasing away your 18 year old girl. If this was about sexual abuse, you should have already left.
2007-03-28 00:57:01 · answer #2 · answered by friendlyadvice 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Try counseling.....We go into marriage with the preconceived idea that it will be for ever unfortunately that is not always the case. Could be that he is having a mid-life crisis. They do tend to do that. And then there is the issue of your daughter.
I was told by my x-husband to make a choice between him and my children. I told him not to make me make that choose just he would come out on the loosing end........and he did. I refused to make a choose my children or him...no way.. I divorce him and have no regrets about it. You will do the right thing. These things are never easy.
2007-03-28 01:02:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
That would be one factor to look at in thinking about divorce, but there are so many others too. Make sure that every thing has been tried to save the marriage before just giving up on it because of issues that can be resolved. Time can't be relived, and if there are second thoughts on any thing, it's not time to make that move.
2007-03-28 01:16:25 · answer #4 · answered by msthinkpositive 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
In my humble opinion (IMHO) I'd say yes. You will of course be living in a less then ideal situation and there will always be temptation to return, but I'd say you've reached that point. Not sure about your LDS believes.
I knew that after 32 years of living with her (we're Catholic) I still loved her but couldn't live with her any longer. Kids were grown and out of the house, sort of, and she could support herself. We are better alone than together.
2007-03-28 01:19:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm Catholic and we believe in that, too. Unfortunately, it takes two people to be married.When one of them isn't treating the other with the respect that they deserve, then, my opinion, that is not a marriage. If you want to stay married then you have to try and see if you can work it out. Since you're asking the question, though, I have to believe that you've had enough.
2007-03-28 00:55:59 · answer #6 · answered by Jessica S 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
i dont believe in staying married just for the sake of being married but you have to be sure. is nothing about the marriage good anymore? have you tried counselling? if you've tried everything to make it work then maybe being apart is the only way you can both be happy. if you both regret it you can always get back together.
2007-03-28 00:55:06 · answer #7 · answered by zimba 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
julie your asking a question, that is really the "answer: Never ever let even your husband run your children off.you've done your best and it isent good enough, nor will it ever be for him, so take pride in what you've been able to do,being somewhere You really dont want to be is nothing but a Living Hell down the road hun....good luck
2007-03-28 00:58:04 · answer #8 · answered by rpoker 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Get some debt counseling and try to get your daughter and her father to talk about whatever made her leave. There is hope. If you are somehow contributing to the lack of money, its time to think about whats really important. Save your marriage. You'll feel better if you try! God will appreciate it too!
2007-03-28 00:57:33 · answer #9 · answered by FemFatale 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
What do you think would be best for you? Put yourself first and decide what you want. Don't worry about what others would think as long as you are happy in life. If you ate something you didn't like,would you eat it again? Got the picture? Good Luck.
2007-03-28 08:28:23 · answer #10 · answered by seahorse 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋