Say you got into a tremendous fight with someone close to you, to the point where they are refusing to even speak with you. You admit you are in the wrong and try to do everything in your power to make things right again, but this other person just wants to let the argument continue and try to provoke the apologizer into losing their temper by calling them childish names and insulting them in general.
Both of these people are good people who just happened to have lost their tempers with each other and are paying for what they said to each other with guilt and depression. How would you go about making things right again?
2007-03-27 17:50:17 · 11 answers · asked by lunarlight555 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
i think the person should insist, if it is so certain about the value of their mutual friendship.
I guess if that would have happened to me.... I would sit down and write a letter. it is the best way to concentrate on the reasons, arguments and overall situation that had this consequence.. I would expose my feelings and my analysis of the problem. try to be objective and precise. once it is done, some mutual friend or relative could deliver it and see to it that the offended part really reads it. I am sure that once he or she reads it and understands the whole concept... all will be easier to control.
good luck
2007-03-27 17:56:24 · answer #1 · answered by GreenEyes 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wait a day or two. Let things cool down a bit and talk in a soft soothing voice. If I was the person trying to make things better, I would hold my temper constantly until the end. I believe the other person is testing you, and if you can end the relationship wihtout being mad, but talking softly and carefully, it makes you the mature one. The other person doesnt have to talk to you, but just get your message across. Whatever the outcome is, at least you know you tried.
When 2 people fight and argument things are said that are meant to hurt intentionally. Make sure you make the other person understand that, and rebut all the things you said that you believe was immature and wrong. Tell her what she wishes you would understand during the fight back at her in your own words with an apology so she knows that you get what she means. That's about it. Good luck.
2007-03-27 17:58:06 · answer #2 · answered by Freeak 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a cooling off period is in order. I just got in an argument with a friend and it ended badly, I walked away and it took me 10 weeks to be able to really sit down and talk to her again. It sounds like everybody is really hot right now, take a step back and let things cool down and re-visit getting things back on track at a later date. Otherwise more hurtful words will be exchanged and you can't take words back especially when they are hurtful. A lot of things are probably being said out of anger and are just communicated to the other for the sole purpose of hurting the other person.
2007-03-27 17:59:01 · answer #3 · answered by go2girl117 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
True love is unconditional, both parties need to talk this out, always the best solution for a lasting relationship. Perhaps some conditions are playing a part, money, illness? Each have to have faith and trust and most important love. There are two types. One is I love you and I am still in love with you. A little work and patients and good things always work themselves out. Ron
2007-03-27 18:14:13 · answer #4 · answered by Ron D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Communication is the key to any relationship. Without communication there is really nothing. If one won't talk to the other, then there is no communication. Say this to each one. Point out that "you" are the person who is being hurt by the relationship terminating. If "your" desire is to terminate the relationship, "you" are going about it the right way. If 'you" want to continue the relationship, then you have to communicate.
2007-03-27 17:55:03 · answer #5 · answered by judgebill 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well if the other person isn't willing or ready to work on it then give them some space. They just aren't ready. Hopefully they will be someday. Dont' allow this person to put guilt on you or talk bad to you. The arguement is over. let is simmer.
2007-03-27 17:56:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
get another really close friend to step in maybe. it sucks being the middle man, but often times they can help. Other than that, just explain how stupid the situation is and that you were both outta control and ask like "why are we still arguing about this, it's dumb"
2007-03-27 17:55:56 · answer #7 · answered by bonto 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you should still continue doing what you are doing. i think that is the best way. try to ignore the backlashing of the other friend. stay cool when you are talking to your friend. and try to be patient, causr i think that your friend still has not really resolved the fight.
2007-03-27 17:57:53 · answer #8 · answered by tb_ramon2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would go to the person i had fought with and talk with her calmly.....then i'll confess with what i've done and tell her how much she means to me and that no matter what happens she will always stay in my heart......
2007-03-27 17:59:11 · answer #9 · answered by whatever_ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems to me they both need a cooling off period away from each other.
2007-03-27 17:53:51 · answer #10 · answered by blazebrightartist 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋