My wife and I are separating because we made some mistakes in our marriage and my wife is unsure whether or not she wants to be married or not and fall into old habits. She is open however to a separation with the idea of being friends first and maybe courting/dating each other all over again. Problem is we're older, have a 2 yr old, and know every aspect of each other. What can you do when you can't do the same things you did when you dated the first time? What do you do when your time spent together is taking care of the 2 year old? How do you impress someone who knows you better than you know yourself? How do you rekindle the spark with someone who already knows all your old tricks and isn't impressed anymore?
2007-03-27 17:48:44 · 9 answers · asked by Jason N 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Get to know her all over again and take your time. Date her and spend time with her . Fall in love all over again. Be friends at first and act like you are meeting for the first time and start all over again. I also suggest you seek marriage counseling and help with your wife as well. Think of new and exciting things to do together and have fun! I think it is great that you want to make this marriage work and to start all over again. Good luck to the both of you and you will be in my thoughts and prayers.
2007-03-27 17:55:38 · answer #1 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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My wife and I are separating because we made some mistakes in our marriage and my wife is unsure whether or not she wants to be married or not and fall into old habits. She is open however to a separation with the idea of being friends first and maybe courting/dating each other all over again....
2015-08-23 07:04:51 · answer #2 · answered by Norby 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good question. Probably many couple like you in the same boat and don't have any idea how to go about starting over. First off, you said that you can't do the same things you did when you dated......Yes you can. I bet that some of the things you did back then, you don't even realize you don't do anymore. I am talking about all the little courtesies. Hold her door while she gets in the car. Compliment her looks. Be on time. Keep your promises. Hold her hand in the movies. Its just little stuff that you did back then to impress, but the fact of the matter is, women love that stuff...and they should...its common courtesy. The biggest thing you can do is have a heart to heart with her and tell her you know you are on probation as it were, but you are committed to winning her back, not with words, but your actions. Now, you know what went wrong in your marriage to make her fly, so the next thing you need to do is to show her over time that you have changed your actions or behavior. Does that make sense? See she is to the point, where I think deep in her heart, she wants it to work......of course she wants it to work......you are the father of her child. But......big but here......right now she has nothing but your past perfromance to hang her hat on so she is very sceptical that you can do what you need to do to change. You need to show by your actions everyday that you are committed to that change. One of the biggest steps you can also take is to admit if you need some help in how to make those changes. In other words if you tell her you would like the two of you to see a couples therapist, I think that would go a long way in showing, you are serious. It also shows to her, your willingness to ask for help. I thnk if you do these tings you will greatly increase your chances that things will mend......oh and did I mention......you need to work this out also for a very important 2 year old in your lives.....and I wish you well.
2007-03-27 18:20:00 · answer #3 · answered by chcman74 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do sometnihg she would never think you could/would ever be capable of. This may get her attention and might even impress her. As far as time spent with 2 yr old, enjoy every minute. The young years are precious and few. My husband and are in the same situation.
2007-03-27 18:08:31 · answer #4 · answered by lveeyore74 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Knock on the door w/ flowers in hand, take her hand and go for a walk. Forget that you know each other so well. If you want to be w/ her date her again. Watch your p's+q's. don't fall back into complaining. try to be positive during every conversation and talk how you would like things to be not how they are. I wish you luck
2007-03-27 17:57:30 · answer #5 · answered by uknowme 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By remembering and talking about the good things about the other.
2007-03-27 18:46:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she knows you then surprise her by doing or proposing something that you didn't normally do. If theres anything that she likes doing and you don't, try doing it.
2007-03-27 17:56:21 · answer #7 · answered by just right 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take her to COURT?
2007-03-27 17:57:21 · answer #8 · answered by Joe B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, you work your butt off...prove it..actions speak louder than words..
2007-03-27 17:55:01 · answer #9 · answered by torit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋