Has it also made you have any less respect for your wife? Has it made your sex life less satisfying?
2007-03-27 17:43:49 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Don't get defensive- be honest. I'm not judging...just asking.
2007-03-27 17:48:38 · update #1
Good question!
Sex has string no doubt about that!
Sex in marriage belong to that ,marriage because it has many different aspects that function as a glue!
2007-03-27 17:48:17 · answer #1 · answered by Free-Lance 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've had sex with at least 49 girls before I married.
All the previous sex:
DID NOT matter at all in my marriage.
Sex is a big portion, a big deal in marriage... but IT IS NOT ALL THE DEAL in marriage. There are a lot of more important things to attend to. There's family, children, vacations, going places, improving the house, improving the yard, improving the interior, doing healthy activities, watch a good movie, relax and play with the kids... etc. Also, why would my previous humping of all the vaginas matter to my current marriage?
DID NOT affect the respect I have for my wife.
If I had sex with 49 other women before I got married, I do not understand why it would have any effect on RESPECT for my current wife. What's the connection? I mean, I was the one screwing many women, so why would the respect for my current wife be lessened? She had nothing to do with my screwing before, therefore - it must not matter to my respect for her.
DID NOT make my sex life less satisfying.
Of course, I can definitely compare which vagina is tighter - and all, but if I found out that my current wife does not have the tightest vagina compared to all the 49 i've tasted - then I'd find a better sexual position to satisfy myself and her. This is very easy to do. Oh my God, even a high school student knows the answer to this simple question.
If sex is the central point or the focal point in a marriage, then it is a mistake, and it is simply marrying for the wrong reason.
If a husband is affected by all the sex he's had before the current wife - then - the truth is - the husband has other reasons why he is affected. Sex is only his alibi.
2007-04-04 16:40:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish that I was a virgin when i met my wife. When you have sex with other women , it can lead you to compare women. its not a good thing to compare women, everyone has their attributes.
it has not made me any-more-or-less attracted to my wife as I have literally forgotten about the other women that i have been with.
it is more satisfying to have sex and share that personal bond with someone that you know that will always be there. In marriage its beyond sex, it then becomes an almost spiritual experience each time. Intercouse feels much more private, pure and connecting when you are married to the one that you love.
2007-04-04 03:32:01 · answer #3 · answered by lazazeen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I did, and believe me it had no effect on my love for my wife or attachment to her. My God, how many people marry the first person they have sex with. I wouldn't have married her if the sex wasn't as fulfilling and satisfying. Loving someone always makes sex better, and being married, and having a good marriage makes it even better. When people are happy in their marriage their sex is always better, and fewer cheat on their spouse. I'm glad my wife and I were not each others first lover, and, the old adage, "try on your clothes before you buy them" holds true with people as well.
2007-04-04 17:07:04 · answer #4 · answered by hazel a 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think anyone really thinks about this if he or she is truly in love. But marriage is different because it is a lifelong commitment, not something to be thrown away. I figure if you love someone, this person is a friend and companion and not just a lover or someone you're in love with. It must be more.
That is hard to find, but so are good relationships and good friends. Whatever has happened before cannot be changed. I am more concerned about the divorce rate than I am about some guy getting laid when he's seventeen or dumping his first girlfriend because she isn't experienced. Who thinks about that in a marriage? I can't see it.
2007-03-28 00:52:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My fiance has had sex with a good amount of women before me...he regrets that he did and wishes that he has waited for me. It actually made him more attracted to me, because I stand out from the rest. He has no less respect for me and it actually made the sex MORE satisfying because the sex is SO much better and more meaningful because we are deeply in love.
2007-03-28 00:50:23 · answer #6 · answered by justpeachee22 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you really love your wife that isn't a big deal.Where is love the sex is more satisfying.But all those questions seem like the sex with that other girl was while you were married.
2007-04-02 10:48:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually, to be really good or (dare I dream) great at sex, practice makes perfect, so it made my sex life (when I was married) much more satisfying for both of us.
Respect has little of nothing to do with sex, so it's kind of silly to attach the two.
Similar with attachment. While sex can bring people closer, it is infact more of an expression of that attachment, not the basis of it. With this in mind, it matters little or none that I had "gotten around" before metting her (she did too, btw).
2007-03-28 01:23:04 · answer #8 · answered by fromorto12 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No not at all. I was glad for the experience it helped make me who I am and made me more comfortable with myself sexually and I think it enhanced the sex I have with my wife. I don't really see how it would effect my respect for her. Hope this helped.
2007-04-04 13:43:22 · answer #9 · answered by jdw1970 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope. After the first 300 or so the novelty wore off and their faces becames a blur.
2007-04-03 22:48:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋