is that too young or just right?
2007-03-27 17:40:07 · 11 answers · asked by violet 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes get a couple of years before you tie the knot!
2007-03-27 17:45:33 · answer #1 · answered by Free-Lance 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Twenty is awfully young to make a lifelong commitment like marriage. Nowadays people easily live into their 90's. That's a long time to commit to another person without having experienced much of life beforehand.
Only twenty and together for six years? That means they started dating at 14. They probably do not have much of anything to compare this relationship with. How do they know this person is the one unless they have any comparisons? Have they continued their education? Do they have jobs that can support any children that come along? BTW, Two minimum-wage jobs are not enough for one adult, let alone the needs of two plus children.
I think people should not get married until they are of legal age to drink at their wedding, which in the US is age 21. That sounds silly, but think about it. If society thinks a person is not ready to handle alcohol until the age of 21, how can a person handle the much more serious matter of lifelong commitment called marriage?
Sometimes young people see marriage as a necessary right-of-passage to enter adulthood. There are other ways to prove one is mature. Getting an education, finding a job that one loves, buying a house or getting an apartment, volunteering to help the less fortunate, are all ways to "prove" one is now an adult. I would urge this couple to work on bettering themselves for awhile and then if they are still of one mind, to marry.
But only if they are legally able to drink at their own wedding!
2007-03-28 01:32:02 · answer #2 · answered by debisbooked 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if they have been together for 6 years they must be in love. and if there gonna get married be happy for them, just because there 20 doesnt mean they dont kno if they should or shouldnt get married and if there doing what they think is right. Im 20 and im married and got a baby on the way and I have been with my husband now for 4 years and I wouldnt change a thing! so just congratulate them!
2007-03-28 00:49:35 · answer #3 · answered by Stacey22 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i got married first time when i was 20 i hardly knowed him so it didn't work out but i stayed married to him 10 years because we had two kids if you love him 20 is a good age so you can start having kids before your too old
2007-03-28 00:45:45 · answer #4 · answered by sweetgranny06 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I was married at 19 and I had been with him for two years. We're getting along great and it was the best decision ever.
It depends on the couple but if they're ready, then all the more power to them.
2007-03-28 00:55:50 · answer #5 · answered by can_you_accept_who_i_m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well ... If your friend is happy wit it, and her boyfrined loves her and wants 2 get married than be happy 4 her. And when it comes to 6years 2gether and love. age anit nothing but a number honey. i gat married @ 17, she is older than me.
2007-03-28 00:55:55 · answer #6 · answered by faduma a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some state sy if your been with someone for 6 years your all ready married
2007-03-28 00:45:03 · answer #7 · answered by biggirl59 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's too young, and she really started her maturity too early to know what life is really about.
2007-03-28 00:46:10 · answer #8 · answered by msthinkpositive 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it its too young . You never know...it may last forever,
Best Wishes
2007-03-28 01:09:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it will give your friend at least a couple good years.
2007-03-28 00:46:48 · answer #10 · answered by gi joe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋