How is it that the woman I am in love with gets all I got? My loyalty....My love..my attention...my affection...my only desire..She is the woman of my dreams!! Although she knows how I feel she also knows she has got the upper hand. She could have any man eating right out of her hand...She knows she is hot...and she seems to like being noticed by other men.
She often tells me how casually men notice her. This seems to bother me..and yet she say's that because she tells me everything it should be Ok...She often creats insecurity in me and since we are both divorced. I sometimes wonder If I am the right man for her and although I want to believe in may heart that she is loyal and would not cheat on me...but when she tells me about other men noticing her and what she has told me in her secret fantasy's that keep me wondering...We have been dating over two years... Are my reactions normal and should I trust her loyalty. What would U do? She seems to like to play games...Am I the fool?
2007-03-27 17:21:11 · 8 answers · asked by rickmeister 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Man tough question,as a man we will give everything to that one we love.If we dont we lose but in the end if we do give everything do we really win?Love her today with all your might.
2007-03-27 17:37:22 · answer #1 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gosh I hope your not a fool. None of us know if your girl is on the straight a narrow. Seems she wants to make you jealous. I think if you are leary of her loyalty its best for you and her to sit down and do some hard talking. Then maybe you will feel better about the relationship. Secret fantasies, I think they should be of you but different strokes for different folks. At least you know what to look for as warning signs. Talk to your lady and tell her how you feel!!
2007-03-28 00:29:43 · answer #2 · answered by ascendent2 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it's natural you would question her motives. If she cares that much about you, she wouldn't be noticing, and mentioning, other men's attentions and fantasies. If she needs that kind of reassurance and your love and admiration are not enough, then you might be better off in a long run to give her the gift of goodbye.
In a sense, this is not showing you the respect that you deserve.
Consider this: "Man almost always hates those he has wronged, and only rarely those who have wronged him.
The moment a person wrongs someone he feels guilty about it, even though he may not even be aware of his guilt. To justify his behavior rather than to amend it, he rationalizes it and tries to make it seem that the wronged person, or group, is really guilty and deserving of ill treatment."
So his treatment gets worse, and I think you deserve better, don't you?
2007-03-28 00:35:53 · answer #3 · answered by jelmar106 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some women create drama because things get boring, but it sounds like your girl isn't doing that.
If a woman feels insecure about her relationship, even if she seems 100% okay on the outside, she'll do little things to test her guy. Women who constantly talk about other guys noticing them are waiting for you to say "Hey, you're mine" and for you to assert how you feel.
Perhaps since you're both divorced, she's doing these things to see if you get jealous...which means you care about her. If you care about her, she won't have to worry about getting hurt again, and this might be her defense mechanism.
Women are twisted...we think in extremely weird ways, but once you get the hang of it, it's not hard to figure us out. One thing to remember is that women are predictable because we act on emotion. It sounds like maybe your girl is either secretly insecure or she's panicking and is scared that the relationship is getting so serious so she's creating for herself a way out by mentioning all her other "options".
Talk to her--let her know how you feel. But remember: Women love confidence. Don't be a jerk, and don't be full of yourself...but be confident.
2007-03-28 00:35:48 · answer #4 · answered by Miss Taylor 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she is trying to make you jealous, or telling you because she wants to be honest with you. The fact is you have to try to trust someone until they give you a reason not to trust them, such as cheating. Maybe all of it is just a fantasy in her head, who knows. Would you rather she didn't tell you? If so tell her not to tell you anymore.
2007-03-28 00:36:22 · answer #5 · answered by love_um_or_leave_um 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're a fool, I dont know if you're in love but you're a fool
2007-03-28 00:23:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are a fool... It is all about her and always will be.
2007-03-28 00:52:28 · answer #7 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WUSS
repeat it to yourself a few times to know your alter ego that shines out everytime you think or are near this woman
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ok
she's got the upper hand
this kills attraction
she likes to play games? what, is she taking on the male's role?
and yes, you are the fool, at least you're admitting it, most people dont.
play hard to get for a while, see how that goes,
u gotta be dynamic, man
always keep her surprised
2007-03-28 00:26:28 · answer #8 · answered by chris 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋