my baby father wasn't there to support me any during my pregnancy, he didn't bother to help me with my car problems when I was pregnant, and he was very inconsiderate of my feelings, he disrespects me and thinks he can come by my house and wash his dirty clothes.....so NOW he wants to get his act together and be a family and move in togther and all that crap. I feel fed up and don't feel like dealing with his crap when he might just be having a bad day or whatever the case may be. do you believe people change?? could there be a chance? afterall, we do have a child together. Am I wrong if I don't give him another chance when he is trying to get his act together.?
2007-03-27 17:16:29 · 13 answers · asked by boredoutmymind 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Since you are asking this question, you have some reservations about the two of you getting back together. Let him get his act together and then let him into your life slowly. If this is really what he wants, he will do it your way. Your child needs a mom and dad, but deserves better than the way you were treated, so don't put your baby in a situation like you were in before. Let the Dad show his changes first. Good luck.
2007-03-27 17:59:49 · answer #1 · answered by Dyan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you are not wrong. People dont change unless they really want to or unles something traumatic happens that causes a change. I would suggest you waiting to see what he will do in the next couple of months. Just because you have a child doesnt mean he is really ready to be a husband and father. Playing the role and having an out is better than really being a man and taking care of your responsibilities. (That goes for women too). If you are skeptical just wait. A persons true colors will always shine through.
2007-03-27 17:40:02 · answer #2 · answered by joyfulndiva 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as he wants to be a part of the childs life let him as he is the father and has rights to see the child and get to know him or er as his child. The child needs their father in their life. Do not let him wash his clothes at your house as he can go to a laundromat to do this. Does he even have a job if i may ask? He also needs to step up and start paying child support for this child. There may be a chance later on down the road BUT i would not rush into anything with him if it were me.
2007-03-27 17:22:36 · answer #3 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We can't change people, but if that person wants to change himself...of course he can. Should you give him another chance? It all depends on how you feel about him. If you love him, then give him the benefit of the doubt that it's possible he wants to start over. I wouldn't be moving him in right away...take things slowly and see how it goes. If you see he's really putting forth an effort, then you may trust him a little more.
2007-03-27 17:23:50 · answer #4 · answered by Miami Lilly 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't settle for him. I have never once felt disappointed or let down by my husband. Never once felt abandoned or unloved by him. He has always treated me with the utmost respect. You deserve the same kind of treatment as well, whether you are pregnant or not. Do you think he can change? Or has he always been like this? If he has always been this way, I would get rid of him and find a real man.
2007-03-27 17:23:42 · answer #5 · answered by His Angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is he in your house ? If he wants to see his child let him go to court and start paying support and prove he wants to do the right thing. Moving in with you is not getting his act together... If you are fed up then don't let him in and stick to your decision.
2007-03-27 17:36:19 · answer #6 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him get his act together first before committing or moving in together. If he sticks with it then consider your options. If he truly intends on being there for you and the child then he will understand. He needs to do it for himself not for you.
2007-03-27 17:27:01 · answer #7 · answered by MS. O 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him another chance by having him prove how much he's changed....BEFORE you agree to let him move in.
He shouldnt need YOUR assistance to get HIS life together.
And he can go to a laundromat to wash his dirty clothes.
I'm serious. Let him prove something to you, before you provide him with clean clothes and a warm bed.........
2007-03-27 17:23:32 · answer #8 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alright... you've lived independently without him for a while and you seem to get by on your own. Before making any crazy decisions, make him PROVE to you that he's for real and his act really is together. Then make your choice.
2007-03-27 18:12:33 · answer #9 · answered by can_you_accept_who_i_m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
would you marry him? If you would not marry him, don't move in with him it will never work. It will just put the last nail in the coffin of what already sounds like a bad situation. Your baby deserves more.
2007-03-27 17:23:24 · answer #10 · answered by Toolegit 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋