Gay marriage?

Question

Do you think we should have it, or not?
I personally feel we should allow them the legal benefits of marriage. It does not have to be through the church, as marriage was originally and will always be between man and woman to the church (as it says in the Bible). Any arguments for or against this?

No, I am not. That should not influence your answer in any way though.

About adoption:

Hanging out with gay people does not make you gay. Hanging out with tall people does not make you tall.
Straight couples obviously don't always produce 'straight' kids.

Two same sex parents would have no bearing on the child's sexuality.

Answer 1

Yes any union between two consenting adults who wish to live together in peace and benefit from what society allows (health benefits, life insurance) to "spouses" and "common law" married people should be recognized as whatever it is that defines "marriage" by a law, not a religion.
In the eyes of the laws of this country marriage provides many things for two people who wish to live together.
In reality heterosexual marriages are not always the most "normal" ....ie: some are 'open' marriages, some have so much dysfunction they end up in court for breaking laws. Marriage is many things to many people. But if two people.....no matter the sex of either...wish to unite legally.....then there is no law that can give a clear reason for that not to be.
Any religion may or may not agree..but this country is run by laws, not by religion...it even gives us freedom to be or practice any religion we wish.

Answer 2

I think we should all have the same rights... women fought and got it, blacks fought and got it.. why must America turn their hate onto a group in general?

on a lighter note, if a man and a woman can mess up enough to get married, allow our gay brothers and sister do the same lol.

I'm bi so either way could work for me, but I believe we're equal.

even if the church is against it, just think about it. The bible was written by MAN, even if it is the holy word, men tend to lie. every time they tell that fish story the fish gets bigger.
For all we know Johna (sp?) (I think it was him) could have been bitten by a guppy on his pinky toe, but the story changed to a whale.

And one of Adam's sons went off and came back with a wife, if Adam and Eve were the only people int he start of it all... where did the wife come from?... a monkey maybe? Could evolution be remotely right?

this is all an opinion and my rant really early in the morning lol. just think about it people, we're equal no matter what you want to think. We all eat, sleep, and breath alike.

Answer 3

For the record I'm staright and married to the opposite sex. Don't Americans pride themselves in being free? What's so free about not being able to marry WHOEVER you want?! And I say to the 80% of christians in this country: Mind your own business!!! How do you know that there wasn't Adam and Steve, were you there? There are no smoking areas in most places anymore, you can't sleep with a prostitute (unless you're in NV), you can't use drugs, you can't love and be married to multiple partners at the same time, AND you can't love and live with a persons who loves you and respects you and file a joint tax return simply because they are of the same sex!? But you can have an AK-47 on your passenger seat if you have a permit! This country has a long way to recovery to being truly a free country again! People need to be more openminded, and realize that gay marriage is the least of our problems. Afterall, if it does not concern them personally - why are they against it? They need to realize that they will never make everyone in their likeness, or it will not be a democracy anymore, it will be boring. Celebrate diversity and respect other peoples' lifestyles just like you want them to respect yours!

Answer 4

Absolutely marriage should be allowed. I'm always pondering why we even have to separate groups to ask what's right for them to begin with.
Marriage should be allowed between two consenting adults. Period.

So many of you have posted references to the bible. one even said something about a requirement by god to produce children. I don't have children. I don't want children. I don't want the responsibility of raising them in this society filled with polar hatred. And I am in a straight relationship. So for those of us choosing not to have children...are we any different than a gay couple because they can't have children? Many monogomous gay couples wish to adopt. While that's an entirely different question, I support that as well. Why wouldn't anyone support two loving people offering a home, love, security and stability to a child who otherwise doesn't have it?

To bring focus back to the question at hand, why wouldn't anyone support two loving people joining together in a committed, legally recognized union? It baffles me, and saddens me, that there are still people out there citing all kinds of ridiculous and outdated "biblical" reasons why someone ELSE shouldn't do as they believe.

Why is any relationship anyone else's business to regulate?
Seriously.

Answer 5

First of all, you’re reasoning is flawed. You are generalizing too much. There is a difference between “direct” and “indirect” effects. Yes, you are correct in saying that hanging out w/ gay people doesn’t make you gay. That would be a direct relationship. But there is an indirect relationship that exists. Better stated (key words needing to be added in caps)…"hanging out w/ gay people GENERALLY tends to make kids (i.e. impressionable young minds who mimic their elders) gay MORE THAN kids who are raised in traditional homes. Your reasoning if applied to other issues is like saying that kids won’t grow up to be violent just because they were raised in a violent environment. Or like saying that parents who practice bestiality won't have kids who do the same. Or parents who sexually abuse their kids won't have kids w/ sexual deviances. Many of the close-minded people who answered only consider the extreme cases. Sure, some of you are saying that there are some kids, who abhor the violence so much that they commit to being peaceful. Yes, you are right. Or not all kids of bestiality parents will commit bestiality. And so on and so on. But statistics show that besides these exceptions, that most of the time, when you put kids into an environment, it AFFECTS them. So a violent environment tends to make kids more violent. HELLO ratings for movies, games! Likewise a gay environment TENDS to influence kids towards homosexual thoughts/tendencies, etc. MORE than if they were raised in a straight parent relationship.

Furthermore, look at your own definition. If you're concerned about rights, then allow civil unions, but let's not taint the concept of marriage w/ homosexuals. Marriage is between a man and a woman…that's what you acknowledge as a definition. If a gay couple wants legal benefits that affect them. Ok, that's one issue. But be careful on smudging the line. Being able to adopt now affects SOMEONE else. Someone who can't make the decision. i.e. the kid being adopted. HELLO! Again, you "rare-cases, small minded types" will now say, "well, some gay couples will provide a better home than fighting straight couples". Correct. But there will always be an exception. Generally little Johnny or Tina would rather be like MOST of the other kids and have a traditional family. Growing up is hard enough.

just for all of you anti-"fundies" out there, i used the examples of bestiality and incest as an extreme case to drive the point home. kinda hard to do that if you're talking about raising kids in an environment where the "hot button issue" is vanilla ice cream vs chocolate. think people

Answer 6

i believe that gay marriages should be legalized, but not in the Church though. because in the bible it says that the couple must reproduce. A man and a man or a woman and a woman can't physically reproduce and create living beings. For this I believe that Gay marriages are acts of FREE WiLL but should not be put in the church.

Answer 7

Oh I am so tired of the slippery slope logic when people argue against legal unions. If we applied that logic to everything we would be afraid to walk out the door. There is no 'cure' for homosexuality, it is just a way of life and really it causes more problems when people try to 'fix' it or deny it's existence. I see no harm in allowing homosexuals from having the same legal benefits as heterosexuals and potentially much harm in denying them this right.

Answer 8

I agree with Jeff O answer. As for Rosie P - educate yourself on common law partnership/marriage. They (man and woman) who live together for more than several years are considered married in the eyes of the law. Entitling them to the same benefits as married couples have So they are the ones who have a better deal than the gays and lesbians.

Answer 9

I am not gay. I have friends and family who are. Some of them have children.
First, the children certainly appear happy, healthy and well adjusted.
Second, no one chooses who they will love. It just happens. So long as two people love each other and are happy, and want to spend their lives together why shouldn't they have the same rights and protection the rest of us enjoy? Who am I to say they can't? Isn't this still America, land of the free?

Answer 10

i think if two people no matter who they is should be allow to marry.but i feel not in the church. i think gay marriage should be as a commitment to each other.i think they should all get together and write up a commitment and get it pass by law. i think they marriage should be more of a commitment.but its like a marriage.yes they should get some legal benefits.