I know that's a rather question, but some of us are completely confused about how we look. Sometimes I look in the mirrors and I look really good (I wasn't drunk, lol), and other time, I think I look like road kill. What gives?
How do I measure my true "beauty"? I don't have to walk around asking everyone regarding how I look now, do I?
2007-03-27 17:04:08 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
This is actually a great question. It's a question that there is no "one right answer" for because it is subjective. Every culture has a different standard of what makes a person attractive. Even within ONE culture, where you have a mix of generations (e.g., those born in the 60's, 70's, 80's, 90's) there isn't a group consensus or "agreed upon standard" about what makes a person attractive. However, there is one exception to this. A great deal of what makes a person attractive or not, especially when speaking of one's "true beauty," is how a person acts and feels about themself.
Look at people in the media who have had plastic surgery, and still feel that they don't measure up to a particular standard of beauty. Beauty is exuded when it comes from the inside, out. An excellent book about this is called, "Psycho-Cybernetics," written by Dr. Maxwell Maltz, who was a very well known plastic surgeon. It's worth the read. That is where you'll find the real answer to your question.
I wish you the best!
2007-03-27 17:48:51 · answer #1 · answered by Rickey M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel more like road kill most of the time. But I do believe that everyone has their own true beauty and I don't think this can ever be measured. Personal pride is important. We all have things we don't like about ourselves, all we can do is try to make the most of what we have. And dont, whatever you do, walk around asking everyone how you look!!!!!
2007-03-28 00:12:38 · answer #2 · answered by Sue 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's up to us to decide, we're probably all hunks and babes, but can we really be satisfied with that answer for sake of self-esteem?
I happen to think I'm great looking, but so what? Until it comes from other people it's almost meaningless, and what other people say is not as important as what they do.
If you find that either sex is too relaxed around you, it may be that they are not very impressed and fear no competition.
If either sex appears to be self conscious, messing with their hair and stuff, it might be a sign they aren't sure if they measure up.
When the opposite sex opens doors for you constantly and wish to be seen with you, it could mean you're hot.
If your sex wishes to be seen with you, they might think they're better looking than you are.
Watch the body language and forget what everybody says. People are rarely honest about looks.
One other thing: Confidence makes anyone look much, much better. So stop worrying. It will show.
2007-03-28 00:38:36 · answer #3 · answered by James 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that most people have an inherant idea of how attractive they are relative to other people, but this can be subject to incredible fluctuations depending on one's physical and emotional state at the moment. If you think about it, from a social and possibly evolutionary perspective, knowing where we rank in the beauty scale is probably an important tool so we don't waste time making moves on someone who is a lot more attractive than we are and probably not interested or conversely people who are less attractive than us and don't present the optimal genes for us to pass on to our children. Unfortunately, if you asked people where they thought they ranked in the beauty scale, their answers would be affected by their desire not to appear too pompous, or a low sense of self-esteem.
In my experience, people tend to be far less harsh on our looks than we are on our own, since we are often looking at our faces in unflattering lighting (eg. putting lights directly above a mirror casts unflattering shadows over the face). Rumour got around to me once to me that some people I do work for said I was "very beautiful". I was completely shocked since they had only ever seen me in work clothes without makeup. However, there is a science behind beauty. Symmetry is beautiful, and so to is clear skin and bright eyes. There are certain features that constitute a beautiful female face and a beautiful male face. People naturally respond to beauty, babies even respond to beauty. It's simply wired into us.
2007-03-28 00:24:43 · answer #4 · answered by Cybele 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i weighted 300 lbs and then i lost like 90 lbs and i still didn't feel right even when everyone around me was so happy for me. After a while i just worked on myself you have to love your self and find your self hot before anyone else and now I'm getting married and I'm pregnant and life is good not at the weight i want but I'll get there soon. I think if you see that ppl are checking you out or ppl are always smiling at you it's a good sign so i hope it helps you
2007-03-28 00:12:42 · answer #5 · answered by huff 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Instead of looking in the mirror, look in your heart..If you are a loving person with a good soul,and a sense of humor,somebody will find you very good looking. It only takes one individual in your life that loves you that will make you stop worrying about such things.After all...I don't think that Anna nichole was very hot at all.Basic cleanleness,and some reasonable grooming goes a long way..........but a nice smile and a good bit of self-confidence will see you through..
2007-03-28 00:41:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everybody has good days and bad days. And our perceptions about our looks can vary day to day, that's normal. If you were out drinking the night before, let's say, and didn't get much sleep, the next day you will look tired with some bags under your eyes. But if you take care of yourself, your looks will show it. As far as wanting to know if your features are actually attractive, the opposite sex will let you know!
2007-03-28 00:12:27 · answer #7 · answered by Gayle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no real way to measure your beauty because in order to TRUELY measure anything that can be agreed on by everyone, there have to be standards and guidelines put in place which that help determine whatever it is you are measuring. And in the world we live in, those standards don't exist.
So, I think rather then trying to find out how good-looking you are, you should try to decide whom you are trying to impress, and what they consider beautiful so that you can attempt to mimic their idea of beauty.
Or better yet, figure out what YOUR idea of beauty is - and then "measure" yourself accordingly.
...no one is going to be able to give you a straight answer, because everyone's opinion about beauty differs.
-good luck thou. lol.
2007-03-28 00:17:49 · answer #8 · answered by LIZZYYY 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think the prevailing opinion is to look on TV and in the magazines. Do you look like those people?
Yes - you are beautiful
No - go live in a cave, no one wants to see you.
2007-03-28 00:45:55 · answer #9 · answered by Isaac Brock 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder
2007-03-28 00:12:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋