I am because I want to her know she was the only women in my life and will always be the only women in my life. I think she'd like that.
2007-03-27 16:52:07 · 12 answers · asked by varsfootball44 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
yes, i am saving it for my spouse. it simple, just because i love him and i want him to have all me where i only available for him.
2007-03-28 17:05:12 · answer #1 · answered by ~~simply me~~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good effort and she probably will think that's sweet and all. But you'll never know what it's like to be with anyone else and trust me... as your marriage gets dull and old, and it will, you'll wish you would have done more. My wife and I have had this talk and this was bothering her cause I was her first and only. She had a big desire to experience something new and different. Everyone is different I guess but think about it. It's not as big a deal any more and is rare. I don't think many women would look down on you if you've had sex before. Plus it'll be very rare to find a woman that is as pure.
2007-03-28 00:45:40 · answer #2 · answered by mac_attack_51 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is commendable, but I would highly advise you to ask her if she has done the same. Most women have done all sorts of things they don't consider sex, like hand jobs, oral, receiving oral, mutual masturbation, etc. It sounds crazy, but women these days think that oral is not sex and if they have not been penetrated vaginally, then they consider themselves virgins even though they may have performed oral on a dozen different men a dozen times each. Some women are crazy. I'd check it out before I got all happy. The disappointment of finding out you've got a nutcase could be more than you can bear.
2007-03-28 00:06:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Noble, but rare, and not valued as much as many people would suggest.
No, I didn't "save myself" because I don't see the point. I can understand if you want your wife to know that she is the only woman in your life, and I feel the same way. I just don't get how having sex with a woman that is no longer in the picture reflects that sentiment, as it shouldn't matter to her who WAS in my life before she came along. It certainly doesn't matter to me who WAS in her life before I came along.
Honestly, a virgin has never been all that much a concern for me when considering a woman as a potential girlfriend. I fail to see any correlation between virginity and morals or purity or virtues or respect or values, sex has nothing to do with any of them. Lots of nonvirgins I know are good people; lots of virgins I know are not good people.
Besides, sex is a huge component of any healthy relationship (along with money and children as the top three topics that couples fight about), so why would I want to marry someone if I don't know if we can be sexually compatible. Would you invest in buying a car if you hadn't taken it for a test drive?
2007-03-28 00:09:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many people say that saving yourself is not as valued today as it was in "the old days", but that is not true and was probably said back then too. I saved myself for my husband and trust me I did not need to be experienced for him. I learned with him and because of that there is an extreme amount of trust, openess, and closeness that would otherwise have been impossible to achieve that easily. I will always be glad that I was a virgin for him and could offer that gift to only him. YOU ARE RIGHT ON!! I have a lot of respect for you to make that choice! Not many will be that unselfish and mature.
But I would warn you to make sure that she is a virgin too, or at least that her past is in her PAST, and that it won't be a threat to your emotions and maybe even marriage.
2007-03-28 00:29:32 · answer #5 · answered by Heather 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well that's very romantic and she'll love that. However its naeve you'll both regret it later, especially if you find out 'she' has been with someone before.
I think the olde fashioned concept of saving oneself for marriage quite ridiculous these days.
Gaining sexual experience allows each partner the opportunity to explore their own feelings and sensuality before acclamating with another persons needs and wants. This can help strengthen things in the bedroom as each person will have some idea of what they like or dislike.
2007-03-28 00:06:57 · answer #6 · answered by Ratsoo 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think she will like it too.
My husband waited until he was 28, as he wanted to wait for a girl he truly loved rather than just do it for the sake of it as some of his friends did. And no, it wasn't me. But there is a part of me that wishes it was me. In my experience, simply having done it plenty of times does not make you a better lover than someone who has not so much experience. My husband showed that he cared for the first girl, cared enough to find someone truly special.
Best wishes.
2007-03-28 00:28:28 · answer #7 · answered by sharon b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how can you seriously not have sex til marriage??? its not a matter of that so called "respect" because its really a beautiful and human thing to do. Plus, you sleep in the same bed and cannot touch her...doesnt she want to be touched and made love to? Im no biatch or anything but i'd love to try before i buy :)
2007-03-28 00:46:37 · answer #8 · answered by Val® 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hell yeah..if I ever have sex beside anyone but my spouse I can kiss my marriage adios!!!
2007-03-27 23:57:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you are a true gentleman.but if you are a man how will she know if you are a virgin or not?
2007-03-27 23:56:41 · answer #10 · answered by atahsina 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋