Past- I marry my husband and he already has children, he claimed he wanted more children. We had one quickly, unplanned. It's been rocky some, but what marriage doesn't have it's issues? Almost 6 years later, he says he wants another one, but when I say let's have another he says,"uh...no". What the heck??
2007-03-27 16:41:55 · 10 answers · asked by lv2bmom 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
it's a big responsibility.....he changes his mind back and forth........
2007-03-27 16:45:28 · answer #1 · answered by abc 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If I understood correctly, your husband has 2 (or more) children from first marriage and 1 child with you ?
Although you have a right to enjoy a family with more children of your own, it is still a decision of the both of you ...
Your husband wanted another child (4th one) 3 years ago, but know changed his mind ? Correct?
Well, he is older ..., children are a big obligation ... not everything in life is as smooth and easy as we wish for and there comes the time when we want to calm down, relax and have it easier ... a newborn is not relaxing !
2007-03-28 05:57:47 · answer #2 · answered by GBH 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wanting another one and having another one are two seperate things.
Take the time to concider your financial situation and your housing situation, along with the other children and the two of you. Can you all handle a new baby at this time?
And talk to him about those things.
2007-03-27 23:46:48 · answer #3 · answered by Annie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To bring a child into the world involves commitment on the part of a mother and a father. If one party is not ready to commit..better to put it off than to have the chlid and then regretting it!
2007-03-27 23:48:44 · answer #4 · answered by mopjky 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
probably afraid of going through the entire process again,the diapers the two hour feeding the potty training the whining temper tantrums lets face it kids are wonderful but also a big resposibility and a lifetime commitment.
2007-03-27 23:47:14 · answer #5 · answered by resigned 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think can be too a letter of egoism from him , because he had all ready his first kids , so he do not like to have more , i had that problem my self with my husband , and we have the other child any way ,He was OK letter but he wasn't all exited , i think because he had in off of kids , and some men just like to have easy life with out responsibilities , all the good thinks tha came from a wife with out the care of the child's. but if they have al ready kids , is good to find i good woman to take care of them.
2007-03-28 00:00:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like theres a lot on your plate now!
I would suggest talking to a financial adviser, and asking can you afford the child!
2007-03-28 00:33:11 · answer #7 · answered by Free-Lance 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he misrepresented himself so you would marry him. i think you should divorce him immeidatly and go live ur dream of having kids. can u imagine if u wait til u are 40 and too old to have kids and you have spent all these years wth this man then he dumps you for some 18 year old tart?
2007-03-28 00:22:20 · answer #8 · answered by lady26 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have to sit with him an ask him why he doesn't want to have another child? There might be many reasons why he doesn't want one now.
2007-03-27 23:47:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe your husband thinks his getting old to have anymore
2007-03-27 23:47:07 · answer #10 · answered by cat 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋