Does the relationship have a chance at surviving?

Question

I am a 20 year old soon-to-be college graduate and have been dating my 22 year old boyfriend for two years now. We have had a bit of a rocky relationship in the past. We have been through his infidelity, an abortion, and a serious of break ups and make-ups, yet throughout it all we have managed to stay together. 1.5 years ago he decided to go to college and has racked up about $20,000+ in debt for this venture, which has only resulted in him earning 3 college credits, as he either fails or withdrawls the classes. For most of our relationship I have been 100% financially responsible for both of our expenses (which now includes his new 2005 jeep payment as well), and currently he is employed yet I still cover about 75% of the expenses. I am also 5 months pregnant with his child. I try to be a good girlfriend (making sure he always comes home to a clean home and cooked meal, etc. and he seems to get all the things he wants) yet he tells me he is unhappy ("40% happy, 60% unhappy)

I fear that me being very serious about saving money and getting items for the baby is starting to sound like less fun and more work and he will leave me to continue to be a fun-loving, no-worries college kid. I have asked him to sell his jeep and get a more affordable vehicle but he hands-down refuses to. I feel he is being very selfish because the money that is going to pay for his vehicle makes it difficult to afford food and basic necessities, and as a result I have had to apply for temporary family assistance (WIC and the like), which further infuriates me because accepting any help is hard on my pride. I know quite well it's not going to get any more "fun," in his definition, anytime soon and was wondering if anyone else has been through this and if things will get better or if he will bail out on me, of if you could give me any advice.

Answer 1

If you were my daughter I would tell you to leave this jerk & come home for awhile.

You're going to need a good support system so you can start off being a good parent.

Stop supporting him because you will soon be responsible for a real child....good luck to you.

Answer 2

Well, i don't want to be mean about it.. but i know a friend that sort of is in this same situation.. and it has just went down hill and he just doesn't care anymore. I honestly believe that you deserve so much better then what your boyfriend has to offer you. I understand you are carrying his child, so its very hard. But it sounds like you do so much for him by paying the bills, buying cars, keeping the house clean, cooking, and tons of other stuff and you don't need to be hearing that all the hard work you are doing isn't good enough. He treats you like crap and you need someone to take care of YOU not the other way around.

Answer 3

Your first responsibility is to the baby that you are carrying. It is so sad that he is happy 40% of the time. Boo Bloody Boo for him. You get yourself organized. Have your baby. Concentrate on your pregnancy and getting what you need. If he is struggling now he wont know whats hit him when the baby comes. By the sounds of it you will do better without him!

Answer 4

only way this wll work is if you start to put your foot down, first
you need to stop support him he has to make some decision'
he has a child on the way he need to grow up and start \
being a man. as long as you play the game the harder it
will be for you and this child and the child come first.
he need to get his act together or time for you to really
look at this for what it worth.

Answer 5

why do you think hes not happy, you pay all his bills, you buy him whatever he wants, you even have his kids and he dont even have to marry you id say hes pretty happy the way things are, girl wake up as long as you keep giving hes going to keep taking