I am 28 years old now. And eversince I always follow my dad's instructions. I always obey what he wants. Right now I am working and I am the breadwinner of my family since my mom move ouve out because she cant stand my dad's attitude. I have a boyfriend and my dad doesnt want him with no reason he told me that my boyfriend is ugly and too old for me. He even told me to dump my boyfriend. I both love them and I am happy with my boyfriend so We hide our relationship to my dad. What will I do??? Help me
2007-03-27 16:36:31 · 15 answers · asked by Anna M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
MOVE OUT!!
2007-03-27 16:52:42 · answer #1 · answered by love_um_or_leave_um 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your Dad is a little jealous of your boyfriend. Not in a sexual way, but in a way that he expects you to take over where your Mom left off. You are 28, you have to do what makes you happy. He sounds like the type of person that no matter what you do he isn't happy with you. Stop trying to make him happy..he is a miserable person with or with out your help. He will have to learn how to be a better person. and he will never do that until he is forced to. You should get out on your own if you can and let your Dad grow up too. Some people are just miserable no matter what. My X husband was like that...he's still like that. They dont change...EVER. So go on with your life. You dont need his o.k or permission to be happy. Just because he isnt doesnt mean that you shouldnt be.
2007-03-27 17:07:49 · answer #2 · answered by skipper 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey, I'm gonna be harsh but this really needs to be said to you: grow up. Your father has no right dictating your life anymore. YOU ARE 28! Move out, meet some new friends and take control of your life. Since you are the breadwinner, don't worry about what will happen your dad once you move out. He is an adult who can (and should) take care of himself & any other younger children in your family. He's NOT your responsiblity. But it is your responsibility to GROW UP and do something in your life...
2007-03-27 16:44:22 · answer #3 · answered by ScarlettBegonias 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry, sweetie, but it's time to cut him loose - if your mom's leaving him taught him nothing, there is not much hope that he will ever be worthy of your love and care. Move in with your bf, and let your dad fend for himself - It's the best thing for both of you .
It will show him that he can't expect to keep mistreating people and keep them around, also that he might need you, and for more than being the breadwinner, but as a daughter. It sounds like you've more than done your duty as a child.
Good luck!
2007-03-27 16:43:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sit your dad down with the two of you but don't tell him that or he may refuse. Tell him how much you love him but you are moving into a new stage of a relationship and you love him too. It doesn't matter if you dad thinks he is ugly it matters what you see and what your heart wants, try to explain this to him and see how it goes when he can't deny it in front of you both. Take care Heather
2007-03-27 16:41:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Remember you dad loves you although he doesn't show it. If you can talk to him about how you feel, that will be good but he is the kind that refuses to listen, then I'd say leave him alone. Youa re already 28 and old enough to think for yourself. Whatever you do, think it twice over. Take care.
2007-03-27 16:42:30 · answer #6 · answered by happy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
u should definitely talk to your dad boud it, tell him things that u dun like boud him and u want him to change for u. tell some reasons that u want him to change, like why did ur mom left ur dad (no offense) n u can't stand his attitude also that u always do what he wants n probably just this once u should ask him 2 follow sumthg from u. also bout ur boyfriend, tell him that now u'r old, u'r 28 years old, and ready to make ur own choices and now u'r happy with ur decision for choosing ur boyfriend as ur boyfriend..
2007-03-27 16:54:22 · answer #7 · answered by institutionalized 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
28 years ? you are old enough to leave home
when I saw the first line of your Q I thought you would be 13-15 years old
fly away little bird you can be free
2007-03-27 17:04:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
move out, get your own place, and do what adults do. you're old enough. I moved out because I could not stand BOTH my parents. I was 21, and now I'm an engineer making 100K+ a year. get with it.
2007-03-27 16:42:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you are 28 you have a right to make your own decision i mean he can not control your life forever you need to start making some decision on your own.
2007-03-27 16:41:00 · answer #10 · answered by Tummy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're a woman and should start acting like one.
Your father has problems that you can't fix.....take a tip from your mother and leave.
2007-03-27 16:40:18 · answer #11 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋