We have been seperated legally for almost two years. We are on a friend basis and I can see so many changes in him as well as myself. I need some good advice on this one.
2007-03-27 16:29:32 · 10 answers · asked by That Girl 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
FYI, he left me for his job in a different state. He had a different home, friends and life there.
2007-03-27 16:44:57 · update #1
Follow the laws in the BIBLE!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-03-27 16:34:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
The grass always looks greener on the other side. There was a reason he left you in the first place. Would you want to get back together again, only to have him leave you again. If he could abandon you for a job, what else could he abandon you for? Make an end to this chapter in your life and move on. Some people are great friends and not marriage material.
2007-03-27 16:57:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
legal seperation is not the right to have a man move in...... sounds like ho. you need to talk to the husband and get rid of the boyfriend. I hope you don't have kids... what kind of an example are you of a wife? darn, woman get some morals and standards. You sure he wants you back?
2007-03-27 16:35:56 · answer #3 · answered by Patrick G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Changes in him?
Who cares about his changes? I don't since you haven't described them.
I'm thinking about you, since you like to write about you: you aren't divorced, you let a guy move in with you, and apparently you are using this guy because you are still on the fence with your marriage (which is why I tell everybody to never date anybody not officially divorced).
That makes you a User, a kind of predator.
I don't know what is wrong with your husband (again.., because you talk only about yourself), but it is telling that you only talk about you, and do not consider the feelings of this live-in boyfriend.
It's safe to say your husband had a problem... because you have a problem.
2007-03-27 16:54:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quit going from man to man. You should be waiting a year after the divorce is final to even think about dating again. If you have kids - wait till the youngest is 18.
2007-03-28 01:28:35 · answer #5 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First I think it's wrong to live with someone when you're still legally married....separated doesn't count.
Second....if you're having second thoughts...put the boyfriend out and see if your husband wants to try again.
If he does....get some marriage counseling to fix whatever was wrong in the first place.
2007-03-27 16:35:34 · answer #6 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a good therapist, one that you are very comfortable talking to to help you sort this out.
Your new BF may just be a fling and a thrill. You do say you still love your hubby.
2007-03-27 17:00:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I vote for a three-some. Invite your husband over, introduce him to your live-in boyfriend, get some drinks going, some music, and start giving them lap dances. Bet it won't be long until your fantasy date starts rockin.....
2007-03-27 16:43:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Center who you are and then make and stick with your choice Husband or Boyfriend!
2007-03-27 17:15:11 · answer #9 · answered by Free-Lance 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go for your marriage.
2007-03-27 17:08:34 · answer #10 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋