for women who have had an abortion?

Question

how far along were u when u had one? and why did u have one? im not thinking of abortion,this is just for a personal assignment.

Answer 1

I had an abortion....I was 10 weeks along at the time.....and I was 14 years old......my father molested me from a very young age and when I was 14 he got me pregnant......I told my mum and it was very scary.......my mum's side of the family decided abortion would be best for me....after the abortion my family never mentioned anything about what happened again.....I went to live somewhere else and was told it was over....forget about it.......I was 30 before I ever told another soul....

At 26 I was married and we were expecting a baby......I went for my 9 week ultrasound and I was asked if I would like to see my babies heartbeat........excitedly I looked and to my devastation I was taken back 16 years ago......I had seen that flicker before.......for me that was the moment I realised that the bunch of cells I had removed from my body was actually a living being......with a heartbeat.......it never stops being devastating for me......

I finally told someone at 30......I lived with the shame of how evil I was ....and how I had taken a life.......I actually was led to a study called Forgiven and Set Free by Linda Cochrane....that was the path to my forgiveness.....although I still live daily with the consequence of what my belief is sin......
the day that I lost a precious child. Because of me, he will never know life beyond my womb. He will never know the love of a mother. I will never hold him, I have never told him how much I love him, and while God has forgiven me and promised me a place in Heaven he cannot take away the consequence of MY SIN.....but one day I will see my child and I will hold him....and God will rejoice when he can reunite us....This is my belief.

Too many people have an opinion without caring about the woman.....they want to save babies......I am now pro-life.....but these women need saving too...without saving the woman how can you save her child.......no-one knows but the woman faced with a crisis pregnancy what her situation is......but everyone judges.....good or bad......God is my one and only judge.....and he would rather have me as I am than not at all

Answer 2

Boo, isn't it funny that the only people so far to respond to your question are Pro-lifer's who have never had an abortion and are spewing their dictum that abortion is terrible.
I have never had an abortion but just yesterday I was watching a video in class about women who have had abortions. One woman was married and she and her husband did not want to have kids so she decided to get one. She said she was confused and nervous but in the end she said it was the right decision. She said the biggest thing to her was that her family and friends supported her through it even though some did not agree with it. Another woman was single and said she was not in the right place in her life to have a baby. She like the other woman said she was nervous and confused, she said the worst part was feeling like she was be ostracized by society and condemned. She went ahead with the procedure but began to feel depressed. After a while she finally came out and told her friends about her abortion and she was shocked to hear that two of her closest friends also had abortions. She said it was so good to know that people knew what she was going through and that she had someone to talk to and help her get through it.
Both women emphasized the point having an abortion was not an easy decision to make and that women need supportive people around them that will not judge them or condemn them for their choice.

Answer 3

7 weeks. I was 20 and it was an unplanned pregnancy (while on the pill) when I was living with a man who was not yet divorced and much older than I was. His children were already grown and he convinced me that I was not ready to have children and that I needed to finish school.

He was right and I am grateful that he was able to be strong and unsentimental enough to see me through it. It was not traumatic and I seldom have thought much about it over the last 21 years. I went on to marry a different man five years later and we have three beautiful daughters.

At that time, it was the right thing for me to do and I'm glad that things happened the way they did. I have come to peace with my decision. I'm sure that there are people out there who will say that I was wrong and mislead, etc., but abortion is a viable choice and should definitely remain so.

Answer 4

i had one when i was 17, at barely 8 wks. i was serioiusly messed up at the time, self-medicating & trying to deal with being raped several months earlier (about a year later i found out i had post traumatic stress syndrome)-- i was somewhere between anorexic & bulimic, on drugs, constantly drinking & smoking. my boyfriend at the time (the father) also didn't want it. tests & ultrasounds between 6 & 8 wks showed evidence of fetal damage. so i had one.

it was one of the worst experiences in my life, i sobbed the whole time, so much that they had to stop the procedure for a few minutes. and i vomitted repeatedly after, from the pain & experience. i got two infections afterward. and, of course, i felt so bad about it i was depressed for a couple years.

i still support a woman's right to choose, but i think they should at least try to inform her fully about the repurcussions & what she's actually doing before she has the option. i also discourage anyone from doing it & would never do it again, even though it was probably the most logical choice at the time, it doesn't make me feel any better about it.

Answer 5

I was 22 and 10 weeks pregnant,,,I had to wait until the 10th week, because that is what the Dr had told me. I was going through a divorce. Call me crazy, but its been 12 years and I have no emotional problems over this. It was a personal decision, I made it and I stand by the decision I made. To me, it wasn't such a big ordeal as everyone makes it sound.
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Answer 6

I am Pro-Life. To save the Babies, we need to save the women and the men.
Abortion happens because of despair and lack of hope:

1. Woman has low self-esteem.
2. Man has low self-esteem & woman senses this.
3. Family doesn't support woman's baby.
4. Friends don't support baby.
5. Society freaks parents out - Can't get support (health care, day care, ect) ... bad out look like war, child molesters, infidelity, divorce, creating disparity.

Even in marriage, a woman is usually does major thinking about telling her husband about the arrival of the baby. "I love Lucy" the TV show did a funny spoof on all the stress Lucy went through to tell Ricky she was pregnant.

Now, if the sex happened out of marriage, this increases the stress. The woman has to deal with the stigma of a man saying, “She’s trapping me with a baby” ... or she‘ll worry “Does he love me enough?” This is where many women role-play and come to a conclusion without ever having a discussion with the man. “Despair ” … “Hope” is the feeling that the man loves her and will move mountains for her and this new baby.

In some cases some men do get violent when presented with unplanned pregnancies. Who was that man who killed Lacy one month before she gave birth??? Other less drastic examples is the man just wanted sex ... or he doesn't feel he can support the new family (Despair) Other times, the man has the hope to share with the woman and this hope crushes the disparity and spares the babies life. Some times the man want’s the baby more than the woman (lots of hope).

Then we can move down the list to the family. Some families get angry too that the woman was reckless (despair) ... while other families make arrangements for the grandparents to raise this new baby. (hope)

Friends also play a huge part in the expectations and hopes they have for their friends. Some friends are rude and sing stuff like "Mary had a little lamb" (despair), while other friend’s support and encourage life.

Lastly, if 1-4 all agree a woman may look at society and conclude that it would be cruel to bring life into a world with war … world that’s material oriented … world that doesn’t defend children from child molesters (despair ) … or she could see a world with good medicine … a world with good schools … a world with a future (hope) …

See … to save the baby we must find ways to save the women, save the men, save the families, save the society. The movie, "North Country" does a wonderful job showing how a woman who was rapped (despair) overcame all obsticals and found blessing with the child (hope). I can see why so many want "Choice" however, it is my opinion that society has isolated (despair) the woman when she's making the "choice" off wrong information or out of fear.


(hope this helps you)

Answer 7

ah sorry,i accIdentally open your question..im not had abortion..its a SIN