I hate our house . It was a fixerupper that has cost us too much money and turned out plain. The expense of water problems, electrical problems and heat means that we haven't put any money into nice flooring /ceilings, etc. I would like to move someplace that is finished and pretty. Recently, the docs said that the water problems caused some bacterial infection in 3 of my organs. The house is too small. The property awkward never looks groomed or finished because of a creek on one side and a steep slope on the other....I have had enough and dont want to pour any more money into fixing or finishing this place. My husband says he has invested and sees us paying it off and living the good life... even at its best the place wont sell for much more than we paid for it so it wont be a good investment toward retirement. How do I get him to change his mind? Do I sell without him? Its in my name. Is this a deal breaker for our 23 yr marriage? Can't believe he wont even consider this
2007-03-27 15:57:59 · 10 answers · asked by Sweetserenity 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
seems sort of silly to throw away a 23 year old marriage over a house......
2007-03-27 16:02:27 · answer #1 · answered by abc 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He needs to understand that the house is causing you health problems, and as we get older we cannot afford anything added to our already dwindling health.
I too would hate to see you throw away a 23 yr marriage over a house....but he really needs to understand that the house is not and will in the future continue to affect your health and his as well. Personally I think in the long run you will end up saving money if you sale and buy a home that is already fixed up and does not need new plumbing and so fourth. You could just tell him that since the house is in your name you are going to sell it and buy one that is in good shape, but that you were counting on him to help out and understand the health effects you were haiving, and that they are not going to get any better. I wish you luck
2007-03-27 16:12:39 · answer #2 · answered by mrs_endless 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it is causing you health problems then I would say you have a problem , but why sell go ahead and move finish fixing it up and maybe rent it there is your retirement problems and a nice bonus for inheritance for the children. My better half and I came to that conclusion not to long ago when we realized we were having a problem with the size of our house and really need a bigger one!
2007-03-27 16:09:29 · answer #3 · answered by catherine marcrum 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
appears like there is extra to the tale right here. once you've been married 13 years, then your husband has been on your son's existence on account that your son became 6. i'm assuming that they do no longer have a superior relationship. At 19, your son is taken under consideration grown, if no longer nonetheless slightly youthful. in my opinion, i imagine your husband is being unreasonable. besides the indisputable fact that, you may stay with him. sounds like you all opt for to sit and talk--per chance provide your son a time reduce on how lengthy he can stay as a compromise. Or, you may call your husband on his bluff.
2016-12-02 22:25:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like it's a deal breaker to me. Were the rolls reversed I'd be doing exactly what you feel a need to do. Get out from under it and move on.
2007-03-27 16:06:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I miss living by a creek. I lived in the country and used a multi pure water filter, even to rinse the vegetables and cook noodles. I believe you and your husband need to talk this over and rent it to someone who appreciates it.
2007-03-27 16:31:57 · answer #6 · answered by ♫ Melody 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's both your marriage, so you both need to make the dicission together!
We bought our home after the contractor went bankrupt and it went unfinished!
I bought it for a song and after 3 years of work on it my wife LOVES it now ,but the way she complained about it after two days of hard work you would think she would have left!
Like I said she love it NOW!
2007-03-27 17:42:41 · answer #7 · answered by Free-Lance 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you do not break up a marraige over a house, but if the water is destroying your internal organs you need to move, just have a realtor come over and talk to him, a male. he's got to consider what you doctor has to say also.
2007-03-27 16:32:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
can you move & lease it out to someone? if it's making your health bad then sounds like he's being selfish.
heck if it's in your name he really doesn't have anything to say about you selling - stand up to him & tell this is how it's gonna be
2007-03-27 16:13:13 · answer #9 · answered by ms_debbieg 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If u have children dont trust me it will hurt them more then it will hurt u
2007-03-27 16:04:39 · answer #10 · answered by Shumara! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋