my girl friend is pregnant, help me?

Question

my girl friend is pregnant and she has been eating alot. is this normal? she eats more than me. she's always raiding the refridgerator, and sending me out to get fast food or things she craves. Then she gets mad at me, and wants to hit me. Then when i start to yell, she starts to cry. i need serious help, i love her so much but when i don't get her what she wants to eat all hell breaks loose! like yesterday night, she woke me up and sent me to the store to buy some m&ms candy at 1:00 am. all of the stores were close i searched through town for a store that was open and i didin't find one. i was so scared to go home without the m&ms that i traveled an hour away from my house, just to get the freakin m&ms from a 24 hr walmart. when i got home, she snatched the m&ms, and yelled " What took you so long!" she didint even say thankyou. i just don't know what to do, i love her so i get what she wants, but i'm tired, i work all day then come home just to be her slave. are you like this when pg

Answer 1

This is coming from a woman who has had six babies, and had her fair share of pregnancy cravings and mood swings, sometimes simultaneously-- your girlfriend is taking advantage of her pregnant state not only to eat whatever she wants, but also to keep her attentive boyfriend a-hoppin'. She doesn't need every little thing she's craving. It's not even good for her, unless she's craving a *salad*. I had enough respect for my husband to not send him out for stuff in the middle of the night. Ever. I did ask him to pick something up for me on the way home, or bring me some take-out if he was eating out w/ co-workers, but never at 1 am. Shame on her for pulling that old trick! It gives pregnant women everywhere a bad name.

What her body is actually in most need of, is PROTEIN. Babies need protein to grow; protein are the building blocks of life. Pregnant women need a LOT more protein than non-pregnant, and most don't come near getting enough. If she gets some more healthy, high-protein foods in her diet, most likely those other cravings are going to calm down. Protein lasts longer as an energy source, satisfies longer, while sugar gives an instant high, but is burned up quickly, and leaves the body craving more. And more.

The best thing you can do for her, is go do the grocery shopping and buy some healthier foods for you both to eat, and refuse to go running around at all hours of the night for her sugar cravings. She is putting herself at risk for so many pregnancy complications by eating the way you describe; gestational diabetes and pre-eclampsia to name two, not to mention obesity!

Congratulations on your impending arrival, and best of luck with the demanding girlfriend! (My guess is, she wants to test how much you *really* love her by seeing what crazy demands you'll give in to...)

Answer 2

You're a good man. To make it easy for you: STOCK UP. She will have cravings, fortunately the cravings usually don't vary much, so fill that pantry with M&Ms!

However, here's the thing - she should not really eating for two! Her hormones are pushing her into overdrive, leading to this obsessive behaviour - for the most part, they will get it right, particularly if there are nutritional requirements which aren't in her diet. Otherwise, she runs a big risk of getting severely overweight. YOU SHOULD NOT TELL HER THIS - SHE WILL HATE YOU FOR LIFE. If the quantity that she eats stays really high for more than 3-4 weeks, have one of her girlfriends casually suggest to her some gentle exercise.

Otherwise, carry on and enjoy the ride - keep a diary and you guys will have tons to laugh about after the bub's due. Enjoy.

Answer 3

LOL! Sorry...but to think back when I was pregnant, oh what a laugh. I had my husband, sister, best friend...everyone getting me the food I wanted. I remember this one time, I wanted DEBBIE snack brownies w/ nuts, but couldn't find them so my sis was like just get regular brownies and a bag of nuts. I think my eyes turned red and I yelled "no! I want debbie snacks!" Anyways, she's eating for two...or three. Also, depending on how far along she is...she can't eat large meals, so she's going to eat small ones more frequently. If a pregnant woman goes too long without eating, she literally gets sick. If she's hungry, she's got like 10 minutes b4 it gets bad. Her hormones are out of control and her body needs certain things, if she doesn't get them...it's a problem! Sweets also help with naseua. Was she mean b4 she got preg? If not, don't take it personally. She's going through a lot physically & emotionally. Maybe just POLITELY say that you feel unappreciative and its hurting your feelings.

Answer 4

Awwww! Wow your g/f is one lucky girl to have a man like you. Try to be easy on her. Pregnancy is rough time for us women. When your pregnant its like a monster takes over. You want to cry for no reason then scream for no reason. Then laugh the next min like nothing ever happend. Cravings are very very normal during pregnancy. Be patient with her. Her body is going through so much. When you start to feel yourself getting upset remember that she wont be this way much longer and in the end a beautiful baby will come from all of this. You can tell your little baby boy or girl how daddy went and got mommy mm's at 1 clock in the morning =)! I can barely get my hubby to me something from the fridge! I wish you the best. Just pray for her and your little one thats growing inside of her. Try to make this transition for your g/f as easy as possible. I have a 5 month old and trust me pregnancy is no walk in the park. Your miserable 24/7. Hang in there!! Sounds like your doing great so far.

Answer 5

hmm you do go through some major hormonal changes when you become pregnant. You definitely get a little more hungry because your body is a vessel for a new human. You have to eat healthily though. I'm not sure that she is being completely reasonable when it comes to her wants and needs. I think you need to support her, but also let her know that you deserve a little respect too. Yes you need to be supportive, but don't let her walk all over you. Are you both happy about the pregnancy? Perhaps she is a little bit worried and stressing out a bit. I suggest you sit down with her and talk to her calmly about yours and her concerns. Good luck!

Answer 6

It's her hormones that make her moods change so quickly. And as for eating a ton, she is eating for two. I eat every hour and a half (unless I'm sleeping obviously). I know it's annoying that she sends you out for her cravings, but when she craves something, it's because her body needs something that's in the food. I know it's annoying to have to slave over her, but in all fairness, she is carrying your child. And it will only last until the baby is born. Try not to get mad at her. And talk to her about how cranky she gets (but do it nicely so you two don't argue).

Answer 7

I never really had bad cravings for any of my children but I am 25 weeks pregnant now and have never woke my husband up to go get me anything. If I want something that bad I can get it myself ... I'd rather get the exercise since I am the one eating eat and gaining weight and also he works at least 12 hours a day and I don't. He will have plenty of nights of waking up all hours and having to go to work when the baby comes.

Answer 8

Let me first assure you that IT'S NOT YOU!!!! I'm speaking from experience here. I'm a mother of 5 children. It's just her hormones in over drive. That's it. It goes along with being pregnant. It will be over when the baby arrives, but till then, just remember that it's not you at all. You sound like a perfect gentleman to drive an hour away just for some M&M's. Just continue being supportive and it will be ok.

Answer 9

::lol:: I am truely sorry. I'm sure my fiancee' knows exactly what you are going through. But yes, pregnancy has a horrible effect on a womans hormones. She isn't intentionally being this way. But she sounds really lucky to have you. Just hang in there. I know its going to be tough, cause us pregnant women can be almost unbearable at times. But knowing that you guys still love us and want to be there for us can make all the difference in the world.

Answer 10

well mood swings and cravings are a normal part of pregnancy but i would say there is something else going on hang in there you'll make it i am sure she loves you she is just moody and everything will be ok so don't worry so much she may have bi polar dissorder which will increase the moods when pregnant because as it is your hormones go bizurk you may want to see if she will do counsling. but you should never be afraid to go home.