We have always been close.2yrs ago she started a Lesbian rltship, she went from this fun loving girl who always looked good, worked & now she has no job & doesn't care what she looks like.I hav supported her & tried not 2 b judgemental but i hav lost my way.The other girl has always been a hermit and now my daughter is doing & acting just like her.I feel that they r more sole mates than anything else & she was their 4 my daughter when she needed some1.I thought i had accepted them but i find it harder everyday that i hav 2 watch my daughter ruin her best yrs when she has so much potential.She is just getting closer & closer to this girl when she has told me that she is confused & if she wasnt with this girl she would be with a guy.I try and be positive with her but vrytime she cums in home i nag at her about jobs & her clothes then later i think i should just keep quiet.i am moving interstate as i feel what i dont c or know wont hurt me.Is there any1 out there with sim prbls or advice.
2007-03-27 15:47:03 · 2 answers · asked by debraricho 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
she's finding her way in life and the all you can do as a mom is be there when it is time to pick up the pieces (and never let the words "I told you so" cross your lips)
oh send her cards telling her how much you love her, and every chance you get to talk to her, just make sure you tell her you love her....
2007-03-27 16:10:21 · answer #1 · answered by abc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have to realise that no matter what you say or do she is going to make her decisions on her own.
Whether this lasts for a short or long time won't be influenced by you so much as her friend(s), peers or inner feelings.
As hard as it must be I agree that moving away is the best thing for YOU. What is best for her can ultimately only be determined by her. It is possible she having her own little time-out after school/work/etc. Eventually she may begin to miss looking nice and so on, and she will move on.
The comment about being with a guy is possibly just to make you happier.
As for her being confused, she is probably more confused about how to explain her life to you than she is living it. Most people who settle into the lay-about lifestyle can only say "I dunno" when ask why they like it or if they would change it.
2007-03-27 23:15:16 · answer #2 · answered by Ratsoo 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋