Im 18 and me and my boyfriend have been toghther for 4 years and he loves me just as much as when we first met and more he says.
He wants a child and so do I but im scaired of the pain and the process that the body has to go through, What if something gose wrong?
Im scaired to go through a pregnancy, very scaired.
Can anyone help me?
I have already go a name picked out,
Like if it's a boy: Ivan and a girl: Indy lol
That's how despret iam, I really want kids but really too scaired, are there any mums out there that can explain the pain?
Thank you if anyone can help.
2007-03-27 15:34:10 · 7 answers · asked by Tammy848 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
well i am scared shitless of the pain but im just putting that thought aside and thinking of the beautifu result...the baby. i was just like you, through my entire life since i can remember i always said, i am never getting pregnant and i am never having a baby, but here i am 20 years later 14 + weeks pregnant. yes it is scary and ye it does hurt (so everyome keeps telling me; and it is true as im getting baxton hicks contractions already...ben confermed by the doctors) but i agree with the first answer... if it hurts so bad, why do woman keep having children? the answer you forget the pain the moment you hear/see/or hold the baby for the first time. thats the beauty of it.
my mum always told me - its a few hours out of your life that your going to be in horribe pain to bring another life into the world. its an amazing feeling knowing that your going to be parents i would highly reccommend becoming mum only when your ready. good luck
2007-03-27 16:01:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I will start off by saying that you are only 18! you still have so long to live!! please take my advice, i was VERY young when I had my first baby, and I missed out on a lot of my youth. You and your boyfriend do not NEED to have a baby to stay happy with each other. A baby brings on a lot of stress, the midnight feedings and poopy diapers, the LOTS AND LOTS of clothes, diapers, wipes and formula, not to mention the countless trips to the doctors before, during and after your pregnancy, the stress of having to find a sitter if you and your boyfriend want to go out. And all of that says NOTHING about the pain. Yes there will be pain, and more than likely LOTS of it, but there is WAY more to consider when thinking about bringing another human into this world...Are you and your boyfriend mentally and physically, and finacially able to care for a child? I personally think you should wait. Wait until you have established your self in a good job, let him do the same, get married, (but not just so you can have a baby) Live your life, you have plenty of time left to make babies, if you start having children too young I can almost garuntee that you will have regrets. Good luck in making the best decision.
2007-03-27 15:46:14 · answer #2 · answered by ♥shannon c♥ 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Im more worried about your age. You are still a young women with many fertile years ahead of you. Your feelings of wanting to be a mother are normal but I think there are more important things to get in line before you start having children. Can you provide a safe home? Can you afford the medical costs of a child through out their life, what about your childs college eduaction, what about yours?
I would say wait at least a year before you start trying. See if you and your boy friend are still together, a baby stresses even the best of relationships. Get settled and start saving and planning, you owe it to your future child. Also what about getting married first? Im not some hot headed religion person but being born into a married home would be ideal for a baby. What about other dreams you have in your young life? Was college one, was travel? Why not explore some of those first. How about meeting up with other young single mothers and ask their opinions. Remember you will have babies some day, focus on getting ready for them with a good solid education, solid job, solid income, solid health care, and solid home first, then you are set up for success
2007-03-27 15:43:20 · answer #3 · answered by laura n 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What does her age ought to do with something? A bachelorette occasion isn't an criminal duty and it particularly isn't any longer a necessity. particularly do no longer plan your person...that spell cheesy each and each of ways. Why no longer carry at the same time your bridal occasion for a ladies night at your abode. Get a pizza and a few soda, some munchies, and watch chick flicks and gossip all night.
2016-10-20 02:39:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be scared of the pain; think of all the women that have gone through childbirth. If the pain was really that bad, then would people continue to have children? I think not.
2007-03-27 15:41:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
if you are scared of the birth then you probably are not ready for kids, labor hurts like hell, and your body goes thru alot, i would really think hard about this
2007-03-27 15:42:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i had my first child at 22 i dont regret it but do wish i was more mature to handle things.
2007-03-27 16:01:23 · answer #7 · answered by hugo76 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋