My boyfriend (17) is living with his mother and his little sister. His parents divorced when he was about 7 or 8 and ever since, he has held a deep-seated hate for both his mother and his father. As of now, he has about 6 months until he turns 18 and can move out, but he's feeling desperate and doesn't think he can deal with living at home anymore. His mother never treats him very well and from an outside point of view she doesn't seem to care about him very much...how can he overcome this without taking drastic measures?
As of now, he wants to leave and just run away from it all...his grandmother lives close and he's thinking about living there until he turns 18 and can buy his own place. So far what I've told him is that maybe the best thing to do is stay where he is so things don't get complicated...and when he turns 18 do what he will. I told him to just find something that makes him happy and to think about it every time his mom does something he's angry about. Will this work?
2007-03-27 15:20:25 · 3 answers · asked by Miss Taylor 3 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
P.S. He as of now does not have a job, but his grandmother is in oil...she is probably the only member of his family that cares about him and has offered to pay for an apartment when he comes of age...until then, he works for his church for no pay and even then it's only on sundays...
So he's pretty much stuck with what he's got.
2007-03-27 15:41:07 · update #1
You are absolutely right. Tell him to put all that anger into working extra so that he can save up some money to move out when he is 18. It will help him to have a goal that he is moving towards, so that he doesnt feel stuck there.
You are very wise.
2007-03-27 15:30:07 · answer #1 · answered by B 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I say if he has an out, take it now. All he needs is a bed and his clothes. I don't see the "complications"
2007-03-27 22:28:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah...
Sounds good to me.
2007-03-27 22:27:38 · answer #3 · answered by Lauren 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋