Why do we find it so easy to hate others and find things we don't like about them to hate them for?

Answer 1

May be laws of gravity applies to human nature as well. It is easier for things to fall then for them to rise and stay above; a stone when thrown into water find the shortest way to the bottom. Similarly, as all things in general nature find the most stable settling position most easily and quickly, we also find that our emotions are in most basic and therefore stable form when rigidly, or ‘safely’, settled in form of hatred that would last longer than any other emotion involving uncertainty of hope and expectations. To love, to be friend, to be kind and caring means responsibility, and responsibility is what we natural like to have as little as we can.

When we hate someone, I think, we gain a state of single mindedness, or decisiveness about him or her. Then we no longer expect anything, or hope anything for them and therefore feel free from any disappointment. Hatred can also be a part of defence mechanism in human nature as if is wonderful material to build wall in the mind among people where we can keep things in our life that we dislike but cannot get rid of. We can lock things into this prison, and often get ourselves locked.

I would however like to mention here that sometime it is easier for us to love someone. There are instances where we simply cannot hate someone however we may try we tend to gravitate towards them as if under a spell. The nature of human heart is based upon the fact that it attracts the likes of itself; it prefers company upon isolation. But things in this world are not as simple for the simple original nature of our dear heart. And when relations and affairs in among people get complicated a distortion in hearts order can take place, making it easier for us to hate than it is to love, trust, forgive or accept someone anew.

There are things and of course people in our lives that we either love to hate, or we hate to love. This ambivalent attitude can last a lifetime. I have seen people unable to decide whether they like someone of dislike them; they are often unable to fully make a relation or break it altogether. Hatred can work wonders when it is targeted against habits we like and at the same time dislike. For example, I like smoking but hate it at the time. I know if I am able to make up my mind, I will be able to give up smoking for good, and for life, but I can’t, and this is the problem.

Answer 2

I seem to hate every body I don't see much redeeming features in anyone , or very soon they will fail an integrity test , But i know I'm a ***** and out to spot and crush any I come into contact with
I'd even like to fix some up I'd never met but are reported in the newspapers daily . I don't think men would even dream of trying on some things that women do Men would think it was beneath them Women think well life has done me down because of my sex anything I do is justified because of this

Answer 3

the truth is that you probably hate yourself or your own life and hating others makes it easier for you to get on with your own life , sorry but that is a sad way to live to. the only person you should really worry about is yourself not what others are doing. me personally i dont hate anybody i just get on with my life and try to help others when i can and treat the people around me as good as i can

Answer 4

Hate's easier than love. It's just human nature, going back to primal instincts when first you had to be suspicious of strangers. What it means is that love is worth more than hate, as you have to earn someone's love - it's worth the effort.

Answer 5

I think this is a matter of the mind and thinking too much. It seems that when we think too much our thoughts tend to steer toward a negativeness. If we are able to train our minds to clear itself on a normal basis then chances are we are very happy as well as "positive" people. The mind tends to break everything down to the worst eventually if we keep thinking about it. :) takecare

Answer 6

Alot of people who do that are so insecure that they only feel good about themselves if they degrade others.

Other people can't deal with anything of anybody that is different.

Some other people learn to hate from their parents & other people around them.

Answer 7

Because lets face it, some people are just asking to be hated.
some people dont deserve to have friends, and have flaws that they arent prepared to change.

but it's easy to hate other people if they dont fit in with our moral guidelines and whatnot.

but saying that we all have friends who we absolutely hate right?!

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Answer 8

its easier to push people away rather than ask them to connect with us. The fear of rejection is a scary concept and one we dont want ever to happen to us. Pushing people away before they've ever got close enough to hurt us by rejecting us, is an easier solution.

Answer 9

because by and large people are selfish arrogant b*stards who would stab you in the back if it would benefit them,so hating them is a safety device, people have to earn trust

Answer 10

Because we are afraid we aren't as perfect as we all wished we were. And by picking out things we don't like about other people, it diverts the real problem - why we don't like things about ourselves.