2007-03-27 15:04:48 · 14 answers · asked by Hot Coco Puff 7 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Whats the worst thing you've ever done?
Next time you have a hard time forgiving someone. Go back in your mind to the moment you felt sorrow for that thing.
Picture them feeling that same sorrow (whether they really feel it or not) Just picture it. Thier head down, maybe crying, maybe worrying all day about how it will turn out. Picture it.
And remember, everyone and I mean EVERYONE makes mistakes. We are human. We are all in this thing together. And to forgive helps you more than it helps the other person. People who don't forgive turn into wrinkly, grumpy hags.
2007-03-27 15:15:12 · answer #1 · answered by B 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, have they done something big that you would need to forgive them for? The little things could just be a knock on effect from that adding to the doubt in your mind.
If not then maybe you either have too high expectations or this person is wrong for you and maybe you should think about either confronting them with this or cutting them out of your life all together if they make you feel this way.
You might have heard someone say in the past "life is too short for Grudges" and a new one to add to that is "if you can't forgive, sometimes its better to forget".
2007-03-27 23:05:41 · answer #2 · answered by selfsoiler 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because they're not apologizing or showing the least bit of concern that they feel even a little bad for making you feel a little bad. Also, we live in a society with a lot of people who take advantage of weak people. If you are one of those weak persons, you will assume that this person is trying to take advantage of you, and you will not be able to forgive. If you are the bigger person who knows what you are worth and is not intimidated easily, you will find it easier to forgive.
2007-03-27 22:12:50 · answer #3 · answered by Word 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to learn to let go of the little things-if you don't they will drive you crazy!
It's hard to forgive sometimes because usually feelings are hurt, or someone has made you angry. Or, you have a lot of resentment towards the person who has upset you. I have learned that if you are that upset about it, talk to the person-explain why you are mad, hurt, etc. If you aren't upset enough to want to do that, then it obviously isn't such a big deal in the whole scheme of things.
To not sound too cliched, life is too short to hold a grudge over small issues.
2007-03-27 22:16:02 · answer #4 · answered by Lori C 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's not supposed to be easy. You only forgive what is injurious or insulting to you. You don't forgive what is too trivial to bother yourself with. It's like toleration: the term applies only to what is repugnant to you, not to what you enjoy or accept.
___This is why these virtues are held in such esteem. They're minor miracles, in which people supercede their anger, hatred, or repugnance, and make the moral decision not to hate or interfere with the forgiven or tolerated person, respectively.
___Perhaps your expectation that forgiveness is easy is the problem. If you can't forgive little things, you're going to be in trouble when it comes to big things.
2007-03-27 22:12:39 · answer #5 · answered by G-zilla 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it is little then remind your self of something you did to someone that made you sorry for it later. Then when someone offends you, you won't have such a hard time forgiving them. We all do things knowing or unknowingly that offends others, just try to remind yourself of it. Also if the person offends you go and talk to them so they know how to change it.
2007-03-27 22:12:02 · answer #6 · answered by java348 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think we need to "forgive" the little things - perhaps they annoy us and that's hard to get past - but forgiveness? That's something we reserve for when someone does something to hurt.
2007-03-28 08:00:35 · answer #7 · answered by Dee 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't beat yourself up. It's often not a little thing and no forgiveness is required. There are a'holes ya' know.
2007-03-27 22:16:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
it is not difficult unless you are a hard person to please, my girl friend just cannot do any thing wrong in my eyes even when she is wrong to me i think that is cute when she does whatever she does, she is just being herself and i love her for that and would not dream of trying to change her ways, so get over it what ever it is that is stuck so far up your behind and get on with your lives,,, life is not all about you
2007-03-28 03:50:24 · answer #9 · answered by Jedi Master 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can forgive people but I never forget it in my mind
2007-03-27 22:40:21 · answer #10 · answered by friendofb 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋