my girl friend and i have been together for just over 6months now, and i still think she is the cutest thing in the world. although we have a long distance relationship, so far we have used every possible opportunity to meet up and spend time together, but now she seems unsure, and tells me the sparkle has gone. i wonder if it's because we might not be able to meet up for several months (but after which we would no longer be long distance)? her actions show she still cares and she tells me she wants us to be like before, but at the same time her mood swings are driving me bonkers! i try everything to keep her happy, but she always finds fault with me. i thought i might be getting to much for her, so i backed off a little bit, but that made her really sad too. i just don't know what to do! is it insecurity? or is something wrong with my attitute? what could it be? what can i do? please help me put that smile back on my little devil's face...
2007-03-27 15:02:31 · 13 answers · asked by furryeyeballs 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
i will be moving over around september/ october this year.
2007-03-27 15:15:54 · update #1
it's just hard to keep a long distance relationship. you both need to want to make it work for it to work. but just be interested in her and things that makes her happy. is moving to the same city with her an option?
2007-03-27 15:11:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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Here's the hard part: Pretend she never existed, like it was all a dream, don't call her, that will make you the smaller person, be the bigger person since you deserve better, what she did to you on Valentines Day was immature, especially after dating for four years. This person wasted allot of your time and through it out the window. Go out tonight, even it it is only yourself, don't drink and call or feel sorry for yourself, this will only cause you embarrassment! I know your hurting..This will eventually will go away in time. Today is not a good day for you and your emotions are spinning all over the place.
Please, whatever you do, don't answer her calls and don't call her. If she keeps calling, which she pro bally won't, don't return her call for 5 days. Make her sweat and DO Not get back together right away if you discuss this in 5 days. Tell her since she Broke up with you, you have done allot of thinking, and had the taste of "being single again" and you would like more time being "friends" for now, so you are sure you are making the right decision. Remember "She decided she didn't want to be with you" so the door is open for you to get out and see what you have been missing for four years. You honestly need to do this for yourself.
She doesn't know, but what she did was give you the best valentines day present you will ever get! A new start and a new beginning, use it to your advantage. You will look back on this and Thank God this happened now instead of 4 more wasted years of YOUR life. Today does suck, stay Strong and I promise you your life is going to be so much more exciting and you are going to be happy. If you continue to call and call her, she will think of you as needy and won't want you. She is going to rethink what she did to you today and will be hurt, if you act like you could care less. Girls always want the ones they can't have. That is who you are now to her. Let her suffer,realizing what a mistake she made. This will drive her crazy. Right now she is on cloud 9 thinking you will take her back, OH, is she stupid!
Your life isn't ruined, hers is..She lost someone special, and gave you a gift to let to live life and find someone you deserve. You are not getting back at her, your teaching her what an idiot she is and what she lost and what you gained without her. SO when You eventually talk to her, tell her thank you for what she did...
She will be hurt and you will be happy!
2016-07-19 15:38:49 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
even though I am not great in the relationship field I give great advice so I'd say that she needs to spend some time thinking about If she wants to continue in this relationship. Maybe yall should see other people for a while and see how it works out. Whatever yall can do to see what yall both want in life.
2007-03-27 15:30:43 · answer #3 · answered by ? 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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Once you do that then you can start to worry about getting back together with your ex, other wise you will find that you are fighting about all the same things and getting no where. Do what it takes and I promise things will work out in your favor.
The funny thing is I came to the realization that I had to change a little too late. After I was kicked out and after I was about to lose the only things that truly mattered to me - her love. A funny thing happens when we truly love someone and lose them. We do what ever it takes to get them back. For me I had to drop bad habits that had caused not only our relationship to sour but practically every other relationship I had had in the past. Not only with women, but with friends, co-workers, family, you name it.
Which is why I say to you as my ex at the time said to me, the only thing you can do is change yourself. Work on yourself and improve on the person that you already are. Drop the negative things in your life that don't belong there and you will see all of your relationships start to take off to new heights.
2016-04-25 17:12:49 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like me n my gf we've been together for 3 yrs and guess what she doesn't even live in the same state let alone the same country. i live in the states n she lives in new zealand...yea there are times i jus wanna say f u c k it cuz i dont wanna wait n e more....but i dont like the fact of letn her go n i love her
2007-03-27 15:27:06 · answer #5 · answered by orange_crush_05 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your girlfriend needs to spend some time figuring out what she wants...what will make her happy. You can't make another person happy - they have to do that for themselves.
2007-03-27 15:08:15 · answer #6 · answered by fdm215 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like the distance was a turn on, some people dont like having their cake too often you know, maybe she thinks her freedom will be going to pot..
2007-03-30 07:21:36 · answer #7 · answered by juejua 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Invest in Valium.
2007-03-27 17:23:29 · answer #8 · answered by Julia B 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
sounds like she's the one at fault here. just tell her how you feel and if she's truly your girl then she'll change and be fine w/ it!
2007-03-27 15:16:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
accept that she s met someone else and find a new little devil
2007-03-31 15:47:43 · answer #10 · answered by samman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋