He's an only child and grew up spoiled without consideration to anyone's feelings but his own - he's in his 50's and still throw temper tantrums if he can't get his way or things are out of his control - he will yell and threaten to become violent.
He gets over - involved in people's business and doesn't realize he how overbearing he is. He will go through everything in my room (without consideration that you don't snoop through anyone's things) just to find what he was looking for. He'll reorganize completely my CD collection because that's what he "wants to do" and is "right"; even though i strongly oppose
he is obsessive and i want him to stop - how?
and don't tell me to talk to him because it's not going to work...
2007-03-27 15:00:06 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
nooo i'm not a teenager btw, im in college - i'm not moving out because financially, it's impossible. My mom is fine because even though she'll still be strict with me, she's given me the respect i deserve as a young adult - my dad is just an inconsiderate spoiled brat even to my mom...
2007-03-27 15:08:20 · update #1
maybe you shouldnt be so sensitive
you already identified his charecter traits that took him 50 years to develop, and you want HIM to change?
2007-03-27 15:05:26 · answer #1 · answered by Ted 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you have done something in the past that has made him feel this strong about being involved in the small things in your life. At some point you both will just have to accept each others ways and that could take some time.
Here is a trick. If you know what he wants, do it before he says anything. Once he has gotten comfortable with the fact that you are already doing the things he wants, he will surly stop getting so involved. Try this for a month and see how it goes.
He will not attempt to fix something if he doesn't think their is anything wrong.
2007-03-27 15:08:14 · answer #2 · answered by Education1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your school councillor about it and see what she or he might have to offer for you and or your dad in your area.He sounds like he is going to need some outside approaching towards his behaviour and yes you are right this is ridiculous and if he is your soul parent he needs to be setting a better example for you then this.If you have other family members you can go to that you confide in and think will understand your concerns and situation get them involved and even if you have to be away from your dad right now go to a girlfriends or something.- do it because he sounds unstable and needs some major counselling without you around to take out his anger on-if he threatens to get violent there is not telling if or when the breaking point may be and yes you approaching him and his behaviour on your own is not going to do it obviously you have been dealing with this for a while now-so yes get talking to your councillor or Friends parents and or other family members around-he needs to be helped.
2007-03-27 15:10:32 · answer #3 · answered by sweetsmiles69@jennieask-me 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-10-20 02:37:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So, you're a young female between the ages 14-18.
Welcome to the club of teenager-hood. We've all thought that, from time to time. Its just a part of growing up. Just learn to say, "yes, sir" once in a while, at the very least, it will confuse him.
Don't worry, you'll soon be cured of the nasty teenageritus virus.
2007-03-27 15:05:50 · answer #5 · answered by Captain Moe 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I wish you told us your age. I would suggest putting a lock on your door and hopfully it will keep him out. If he breaks the door in, he will have to replace it.
If he hurts you, get help right away. What does your Mom have to say about all this?
2007-03-27 15:07:38 · answer #6 · answered by Nort 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once you turn 18, unless you can emancipate yourself by proving you can take care of yourself by living independantly of your parents, you no longer have to be under his thumb. But until you turn 18, unfortunately, your stuck because he is held responsible for you.
2007-03-27 15:06:06 · answer #7 · answered by Master Ang Gi Guong 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well, ask him how he would feel if you did the same thing to him. and let him know that every one needs there own privacy.
2007-03-27 15:06:13 · answer #8 · answered by jacksamlucy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋