Well, basically, for a big deal of my life i've been the quiet kid who if in a group alot of people wouldnt even know I was there. I find it hard to express myself to other people and just be myself because I have this fear to open up to other people. There's many reasons why I'm like this, deriving from past experiences with people putting me down and my fear to socialize due to my consiential negative outcomes that might occur if i try too hard to fit in. I've become alot worse over the years, even being quiet around family members and essentially losing my own character and becoming like a stoic robot. I use music as a way to calm my thoughts and my depression and it's just overall starting to get really bad. My request is, however, if there is a way to revert this downward spiral I call my life and become more outgoing? I'm just tired of living everyday in solitude and I want to be able to be around people without getting nervous of what people think of me.
2007-03-27 14:41:49 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
i know what ur talking abt..but really, u just hav to learn to love urself first, before expecting others to love you. Revisit the good traits that u have and say to urself, 'i'm a good person, i'm charming, i'm helpful, i'm likeable etc..' a few times a day.
Also, don't coop urself at home, GO OUT. Have fun with ur friends, laugh with them, joke with them, ENJOY! u gotta try and don't be afraid. just cos u wanna enjoy life, doesn't mean ur trying to fit in.
Take my advice. (:
2007-03-27 14:51:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I too have been shy for most of my life, but have found that confidence comes with practice. Next time you're with people, even strangers in the grocery line or elevator, just try and say whatever is on your mind. I know that it's much harder than it sounds, but just try it out a few times and you'll be able to express yourself better. Therapy will also help to change your thoughts so that you realize that people will appreciate hearing your unique thoughts and opinions. Try it, it's fun!
2007-03-27 14:51:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel the same exact way, and i try to talk to ppl and I do have friends but i think that I would have more friends if i open up more and I do hold myself back ALOT from friends and family and I got it in my head if i were to say this to this person then she/he would say this and in the end every1 is against me and I think that i need to stop that, but yeah, I think that you should hang around friends and be urself because ur bff will always love you no matter what, so if you act urself around ur friends then ppl will notice you. If that doesn't work for you then you could just say what you got to say because that's ur oppnion and can't nobody fault you for that.
2007-03-27 15:16:14 · answer #3 · answered by Aaliyah 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just lighten up, most ppl go through lesser cases of the exact same thing...if u just speak ur mind and not fear whaat others think of u, you'll do fine...everybody loves a comedian, so try to think of funny things to say around ur classmates...often its easy to get to know a person sitting next to u in class
2007-03-27 15:01:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all love yourself. know that you are a person deserving of the friendship of others. show interest in other people. ask them questions about their work, kids, life and really listen to their answers. read a lot. it really helps if you are interested in the life around you and are informed. people like to talk to interesting people.
2007-03-27 14:48:19 · answer #5 · answered by Diana K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋