They don't fight everyday but once every week I can tell they are going to divorce what should I do :'-(
2007-03-27 14:29:25 · 12 answers · asked by luigiog123 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I wish I could tell you that there's something that you can do to change the situation... Sorry!
All you can do is let them know how it makes you feel... at the end you have to understand that they're adults and they are going to do whatever they feel best for themselves...
If you are very honest and express things respectfully and maturely, maybe the can at least be more aware of your presence and your feelings and be more respectful and private...
Encourage them to see a marriage counselor or anyone that can help them...
Let them know that it may be difficult for them as a couple and as parents, but it isn't much easier to be stuck in between the situation... specially as an spectator.
2007-03-27 14:44:17 · answer #1 · answered by myliz 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel for you dear...you must be holding back a lot of emotional stress. The best thing to do is find a good time when they are not arguing and have a good talk with both of them. Tell them how all this is affecting you and that you love them both so much. Ask them truthfully if its really true they wanna get a divorce and what will happen to all of you if it happens...who will you stay with, where will you stay, how often will you get to see the other parent, will anything else change eg. your school. The fear is lesser when you know what will happen next...it helps you prepare for whats gonna happen next.
Arguments are inevitable, even in a healthy and happy marriage. And sometimes...separation and divorce may do more good than harm... especially when nothing else works and the couple is practically ruining each other's life. But its always a last resort. I feel for the kids cos sometimes in the heat of the moment parents do not realise how hard its affecting their children. You must talk to them dear...let them hear your voice, your heart, your mind. It may be their turning point.
I wish you all the best and know that you are not alone...not even in here.
2007-03-27 15:05:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because they fight alot dont mean they are going to get divored. Sometimes parents forget how to talk to each other and get all wrapped up in either work, school.. whatever they have to do during the day. Which ever parent you are closer to, just sit down and let them know you are upset. Moms and dads sometimes forget that the kids need to be talked to also. Just remember, when you parents fight, there is alot more to it then just what they are fighting about. And try not to worry about what happens. No matter what happens, your parents love you ALWAYS. weather they are married to each other or not.. I wish you the best.
2007-03-27 14:42:31 · answer #3 · answered by JEANNETTE 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because they fight doesn't necessarily mean they will divorce. Right now, they just don't know how to be mature adults and just get on each others nerves.
Why don't you buy them these books called, "The Proper Care and Feeding of Marriage" and "The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands". And tell them that you challenge them both to read them and to start making each other happy so you can be happy and live in a peaceful home.
2007-03-27 14:40:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well why dont you tell them both how you feel about it? So you know for sure if they are really going to get a divorce. In marriages couples fight a lot its a part of marriage. It doesn't necessarily mean they are going to get a divorce unless you hear them say it to each other.
2007-03-27 14:34:53 · answer #5 · answered by Hi Im the village idiot 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will work itself out--one way or the other. You really can't worry about it because you have to look at it from their perspective. I'm not saying they should get a divorce, but sometimes the worst thing a couple can do is stay together. Worry about yourself and focus on your goals, their issues will work themselves out in time. Peace to you.
2007-03-27 14:39:01 · answer #6 · answered by MicG 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have no idea what your age is so I can't say what you can do. I'd say to just lay low, let the adults do what they will do and deal with the problems as they come up. Talking about YOUR feelings with a counselor can sometimes help.
2007-03-27 14:39:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Plese try to keep in mind that your parents fighting has nothing to do with you, if you feel the need to, talk to your prents one on one, maybe u can suggest family conuseling?
2007-03-27 14:35:09 · answer #8 · answered by sg79 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to them and tell them that you don't like it when they fight. tell them exactly how you feel. but if they do get a divorce you won't be able to stop that. but remember they willl always love you no matter what.
2007-03-27 14:34:12 · answer #9 · answered by misty blue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be prepared for the worst. Putting yourself in the middle of their arguments will only make them want to argue more. Unfortunately your presence won't matter.
2007-03-27 14:49:35 · answer #10 · answered by Williamstown 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋