and I was called out last night to go to East La. I called my boyfriend up to tell him I wouldnt be coming over since I have to go to see a patient. Now should he have offered to go with me being it was 7pm at night 1hour away and in a really bad area. I got mad at him for not offering but he said I should have asked him to come along, that he cant read my mind. I feel that if he really cares about my safety I wouldnt have had to ask. what do you think??
2007-03-27 14:27:27 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I think he should have gone without you asking. I am a man, from the deep South, and we tend to be more chivalrous. Here, we would have volunteered, and it would be up to the lady to decline. He should have gone!!
2007-03-27 14:32:29 · answer #1 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Providing on-the-job security is not your boyfriend's responsibility. Whatever gave you the idea that your boyfriend should give up his sleep when you're on call?
You need to talk to your employer about this situation. Going in the middle of the night into an unfamiliar area alone and as a woman can be dangerous. Your employer needs to address this problem. Maybe have a professional security person go with you?
Leave your boyfriend alone on this. This is your job, not his. Plus, chances are that your boyfriend has his own job that's during the day. To expect him to run out the door whenever you get an emergency call, be it at 7 p.m. or at 2 a.m., is completely unreasonable!
Resolve this with your employer or speak with other night nurses about these safety issues.
2007-03-27 21:38:00 · answer #2 · answered by Nina 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
OK - it was a work assignment so it is up to your employers to ensure your safe passage. If you wanted him to come along then it is up to you to ask him. We dont read minds - there is little in a womens mind that would interest us anyway.
I'm sure if you had asked him he would have been more than happy to accompany you.
Games are played with dice not other peoples feelings ...
2007-03-27 21:33:30 · answer #3 · answered by zappafan 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you're being a bit hard on him. A lot of girls would get angry if their BF wanted to come along because they would see it as the BF not trusting them or as it meaning they can't look after themselves. Does it really hurt to ask?
2007-03-27 21:33:17 · answer #4 · answered by homer28b 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think that it pertains to your job. So yes you should ask. Because he does not know if the person you are seeing is ok with others in his home. But it would make him feel good about him self if you asked him to protect you. It would make him feel needed.
2007-03-27 21:33:46 · answer #5 · answered by franksprung 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you wanted him to go you should have asked . As far as hinting , did you phrase it like you were scared or like you could handle it ? Don't play games , just communicate. Especially if your [ or his] life may be in danger.
2007-03-27 21:33:58 · answer #6 · answered by htuch2000 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
True I agree with you. But men have a different way you have to spell it for them. However, next time ask him please come with me it will be easier. good luck
2007-03-27 21:57:08 · answer #7 · answered by Cavaillon 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Men don't think about things like that although they should. You have to tell him.
2007-03-27 21:37:42 · answer #8 · answered by kathy 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Well are you an independent woman or what? You can't have your cake and eat it too.
2007-03-27 21:33:29 · answer #9 · answered by Egg Bagel 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You should have asked him to join you.
How is he supposed to know that it is alright to escort you on your rounds?
Do you go to work with him?
2007-03-27 21:31:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋