My Filipina fiance started calling me "master" after we got engaged and I told her that was a bad idea but she says it's her culture that's what the wife calls her husband. it's like "Master of the household" So I'm living in a funny episode of I Dream of Genie right now. She's not all oppressed and stuff either she is independent, smarter then me, and highly educated. She just wants to do it that way so that's how it's going now.
Is that really common in your culture? Cause I'm blushing to death and hoping she never says it in public. Also when she says it I have a sudden urge to buy her anything she wants.
Funny story, my mom was in my house while i was at work and saw one of her love letters to me where she called me that and threw a fit. it was hilarious.
I am very much for women's rights and have never been in a situation like this. I was raised by a feminist.
2007-03-27 14:20:04 · 13 answers · asked by Jim_atthedrive-in 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I have been to the Philippines and none of the married ladies there called their husbands like that, at least not in public. However they by and large did seem to be very respectful towards their husbands, and the really appreciated it if their husband was nice with them. A large percent of the guys there are losers that smoke, drink and gamble away what little money they build up, and yes, sadly wife beating is not uncommon there. So yes she might have a submissive fetish or something or maybe she just appreciates a good guy - a quality rarely present in western women these days.
I say treat her nice but watch the spending (remember Imelda Marcos that had like a few million shoes) filipinas can be sweet and loving but have no problem spending money on dumb stuff... Enjoy the ego rush and do not let you mom ruin her - remember you mom may think it is fun to spread feminazism but YOU have to live with the woman and share your future with her. And do not let you mom go rumaging around your personal papers - that is really not good.
Show hear some appreciation by giving her non monetary praise and teach her how to manage money well for herself and your family. Encourage her to grow as person, visit new places and improve her career. Filipinos are hard working and good people but they are really bad with money (read the history of the place and you can see how trillions of dollars in investment and foriegn aid was squandered whilst poorer countries around the Philippines rocketed to success with a lot less help). Be a good 'master' and teach her to be a wise queen and you will be way better off in the long run, else you may end up training a leach or golddigger...
Beware... Be smart.
2007-03-27 15:00:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I wont one of those . Let me know how it all works out for you .I'm thinking about an Asian woman to Has to be better then what I'm finding here . There either drug addicts ,gold diggers, or just plane old mean trying to run my life and make me like it .I'm a single dad with a 4 year old step son the last woman i was seeing said it was either my son or her . Whats all that about ? I'm with you I'm going Asian i could handle being called master
2007-03-27 21:42:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a Filipino and I don't call my Caucasian partner 'master'. That is not what our culture dictates us to do and I wasn't brought up that way. I believe in equality of the sexes and mutual respect for each other. I also believe that there is no master and follower in a relationship.
It is really weird that your girlfriend calls you 'master'. Maybe she is just innately submissive and wanted you to dominate her.
2007-03-27 23:24:31 · answer #3 · answered by daniella 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
-raised by a feminist?, anyway- no this is not in her culture, i have personally known philipino wives--lol- they do not call anyone master, oh you said fiance?? she'll show you her true colors once youre married, for now she 'll play the submissive quiet role.
2007-03-27 21:31:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a personal issue. I am asian and I don't call anyone "Master". It's not cultural, I don't know any asian girl that does.
That is weird and bizarre. Does she have passive aggressive issues?
2007-03-29 12:03:56 · answer #5 · answered by TiredofIdiots 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yeah dude, whats the problem with that?
It's like her calling you "honey", or something, but instead the word is "master".
Enjoy it lol ;)
2007-03-28 18:27:26 · answer #6 · answered by abyssal_nuclei 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like a game I play with my boyfriend - he ties me to the bed, pulls down his shorts and demands that I call him master while i see to him and then he sprays me with his seed.. great game enjoy
2007-03-27 21:40:20 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
yes, it is cultural for them to call their men 'master'. Enjoy the ego :)
2007-03-27 21:25:40 · answer #8 · answered by fwog_fwog 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Oh, it's cute! And, obviously working since you have no trouble bringing home some bling!
2007-03-28 08:41:03 · answer #9 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let her call u master. let her keep her cultural practices. she mihgt think that u are not letting her have any freedom ang might divorce. but its no big deal. :-)
2007-03-27 21:25:54 · answer #10 · answered by Pink123 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋