why do i have to be single and watch all the other kids in highschool walk around as a couple and i cant have that because i am gay and there is no other gay people even if there was we couldnt show affection i just want to have that type of a relationship what can i do to just find someone to date i am soooo tired of being single?
2007-03-27 14:07:27 · 20 answers · asked by lookinhard 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Sorry. -- your post literally made me cry. It's not easy, I know, but just hang in there. If you can't feel safe in high school, it will all be better once you've graduated. I was lucky enough to have other gay friends (though I didn't even self identify as gay until I was in the last few months of my senior year of high school, we found each other). If that isn't likely for you, just be patient. I don't know where you live but check around and see if there are any Queer teen support groups or networks. Try your local LGBT Center or Stonewall or whatever they call it there. If you live in a rural area, try online support (just be careful & don't get duped by anyone who may be a predator) Good luck...you have a lot of people rooting for you now. I know it's not the same but you're not alone!!!
2007-03-27 14:24:40 · answer #1 · answered by SDTerp 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel! I have been in the same situation for a very long time. You just need to find joy in being single, you don't need another person to justify yourself with. I have been single for a long time now and it just takes time to find someone but you are still in high school don't worry it will happen. If you go to college you will be able to meet tons of new people and some of them will be gay. Life is a festival have fun with it and try not to worry about things like that and when you least expect it BANG it will be right in front of you!!
2007-03-27 14:23:38 · answer #2 · answered by Countb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Read Anthem by Ayn Rand.
Read The Third Life of Grange Copeland by Alice Walker.
Read The Screwtape Letters by C.S. Lewis.
Start listening to Tammy Bruce on the radio. Here are some streams:
http://streamingradioguide.com/radio-show.php?show=769
Start listening to Neal Boortz. here are some streams:
http://streamingradioguide.com/radio-show.php?show=351
Realize that you are a child of God, sibling to every other child of God (even the idiotic ones). Realize that God loves you. Realize that you are an individual human, and do not define yourself or allow yourself to be defined by others as anything else (i.e., be a 'man who happens to be gay', not a 'gay man'). Realize that you have innate talents, and a responsibility to be a moral upstanding citizen. Give with intelligence, but without expecting anything in return.
Don't drive yourself crazy trying to find someone to share affection with. There is plenty of time for that. Allow the Lord to work in your life in his own good time. If you serve him, he will bless you.
Go with God.
2007-03-27 14:59:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi there, ummm... is that YOU in the pic? you look amazing.
OK and 4 ur Q-- umm..
1. Going to a place of gay rights association
2. Going to a gay forum meeting
3. Showing ur gay (act gay) but don't say you are... than if you see someone talks to u, be his friend and when he comes to ur house you will feel if he is too
4. tell your best friend (be sure he won't tell) and ask him/her is he/she knows someone who is gay too and wants to have a BF.
I did number 1 and I am good now... My friend did #2... I don't know anyone who did #3 (maybe you shouldn't) and I tried #4 but it didn't work. and guess what, nobody knows! So try out those things, OK?
If you wanna u can send me an e-mail
2007-03-27 14:36:28 · answer #4 · answered by Jack D 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is different for us man. There are place you can show affection. You can date. You don't have to be single. Because you cannot hold your man's hand at school does not mean you have to be miserable. You will find a guy. Look around. You are not alone. When you get a guy. Just because you can't hold his hand at school does not mean you cant when at home, in the car, in park, when out eat, etc... Hang in there. It is not as bad as you think.
2007-03-27 14:12:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
well are you openly gay i assume you are if your brave enough to post your pic on here anywayssss. It wont be an issue setting up a gay date if your open go to like yahoo personals find a local guy Hint HINT your 18 lol set up a date have fun you can meet tons of hot guys that are online i rcommend talking to him on the phone first though lol. Be safe and if that fails wait until college everyone bi curious in college and there are tons of gays soooo..
2007-03-27 14:18:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
you may have to be gay, but you do not have to be miserable.
i know you think that you are the only gay guy in your school... i used to think the same thing. now that i look back from mt high school days, i realize how many of those guys turned out to be homos as well. (the football team captain for god's sake!) BUT there are resources available to you now that were not around when i was in school... there are gay/straight alliance groups, counselors who can help you deal with it and not try to convince you that you're not gay... community groups... internet groups... so many places you can go to feel better about yourself.
i know it sucks to see other kids coupling up and not be one of them... believe me, i know EXACTLY how that feels. i even tried going out with a girl once just so i wouldn't feel lonely, and that felt even MORE wrong.
but like i said, there are lots of places you can go, or people you can talk to to help you dela with it. try visiting http://www.youthresource.com or www.cafepride.com, or try searching the web for resources in your area. or, talk to a school counselor or trusted teacher.
good luck, and hang in there kid. it gets better, i promise ;)
2007-03-27 15:41:57 · answer #7 · answered by pceej 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give yourself some time. You will meet someone, and if you feel like showing affection then show it. Don't let being single get you down. Things will get better; maybe you're trying too hard. Relax and roll with the flow. For AMAZING - You have no clue as to what you are talking about. It is NOT a choice and there IS some scientific research to show it. Please ignore Amazing's answer.
Paramedic
2007-03-27 14:18:28 · answer #8 · answered by JD, MAPSY 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Honey, gay or straight, we ALL feel this way sometimes, believe me! It's tough in high school, I know, but one of these days you'll find someone who'll make you happy and when you do, all this time will have been worth it. Life really opens up after high school, so enjoy the time you have now, look forward to the future, and be happy with who you are.
2007-03-27 14:37:15 · answer #9 · answered by OhKatie! 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
frist i won't to say this guy coffeead well marry his cousin an don't listen to that homophobe try going in a lgb teen group
remember in the words of Simon Le Vay did prove only 4% is truly gay and only 4% is truly straight every one als is just kind of bi so don't feel alone
2007-03-27 14:51:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋