2007-03-27 13:39:26 · 22 answers · asked by Sue 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Schedule time in and make plans for the two of you on the weekends. After marriage, guys tend to slow down on the plans and leave it to thier wives. Take the initaitive and do something together that you both will enjoy...movies, coffee, eating out, ect... Good luck. If he still just wants to stay home or hang out with the guys, then have a chat with him. You have to stay connected or you may start going in different directions.
2007-03-27 13:45:21 · answer #1 · answered by Shanna h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have been doing the same things that made him want to be married to you in the first place. Keep courting. It is not just your responsibility, but his as well. Communication (positive) is key. Nagging, and *********.i.n.g, repel togetherness. Keeping a marriage happy and together takes a lot of work. Unfortunately, after many couples say "I do", they "don't"! Due to the lack of information you have given, a lot must be known to give you a truly honest and more concentrated and direct answer. If your marriage is in trouble then you are way past due for marriage counseling. If it is headed for trouble, then there is still time for you two to work it out between yourselves. Good luck!
2007-03-27 21:04:43 · answer #2 · answered by macfifty06 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him - quietly and gently - tell him you'd like to make plans for just the two of you to have a romantic dinner and watch a movie at home.
If that's not suitable, ask him what he'd like to do. If he likes car races, and you detest them, surprise him and buy both of you tickets to go and in the meantime do some research on car races and really try to develop an interest in what he likes.
He might think you no longer have anything in common and that might be why he chooses to work rather than spend time together.
If he says he has other plans, NICELY ask him when he would be available to do something together.
In the meantime, spoil him - cook his favorite dinners, do nice things for him - fix his lunch for work - put little notes inside. Call him out of the blue to tell him you're thinking of him. Make his favorite dessert.
Perhaps in his mind you are "nagging" him by repeatedly asking him to spend time with you. Make some changes within yourself. If he realizes you're not asking him constantly, and you are doing little things for him, he just might surprise you and spend that time with you.
If he refuses to spend time with you and is spending time with other people doing 'fun' things, then I'd suggest you go to counseling - for yourself - in order to learn how to better deal with the situation at hand. Your counselor will know how to best advise you as to the proper steps to take.
Good luck!
2007-03-27 20:51:43 · answer #3 · answered by japanizationstation1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do things with him that he likes to do. If he is into watching sports then pop up some popcorn and get his favorite snacks and drinks and sit with him and root right along with him or even watch a good movie with him that he would like to see. Get to know him all over again and take time to learn what interests him . Also go out on dates once in a while as well.
2007-03-27 21:23:21 · answer #4 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop making all the decisions. Let him lead sometimes.
Stop being the one thats always right. Let him be right for once.
Stop saying you have a headache. Give him a little H ead.
Stop adding more needs to his list. Recognize his efforts.
Stop spending all the money at once and leave a little bit in the money bag, don't spend it dry. Let him know ur saving money.
Don't ever say " We need to talk." just start talking.
2007-03-27 21:04:46 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go out on dinner dates with him once a week. Spend time in the bedroom when the kids are in bed. Take a walk with him to be alone to catch up on things, just enjoy the time with him when you two are alone!
2007-03-27 20:51:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you guys go out..do you do things he wants to do? or things YOU want to do...
do you think that he wants to go to Michaels or Joanne's Fabrics?
yes i know you might take it for the team and do some stuff that you don't care for...but if you compromise...then he might be willing to do stuff he'd rather not,,,
I HATE GOING SHOPPING WITH MY WIFE...she is not the reason...I just hate going..it is the first definition of boredom in the dictionary.. it is an ETERNITY....it takes FOREVER..
i can go into a store..find what i want and leave within 10 minutes regardless of the store..i don't try on EVERYTHING with my size on it..and I can set a budget and leave happy knowing I spent 5 dollars less than what i budgeted..
I HATE going to Michaels or Joannes...but if I expect her to even go into a CD store or a ball game...then I might have to do things I'd rather not in order to get that time together...so I go through the excruciating pain of Michaels if she'll go to the game...but when we want to do something we like together..we go to get a dinner and a movie..cliche?? maybe..who cares! we like movies!
2007-03-27 20:58:07 · answer #7 · answered by juanes addicion 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start doin' things w/o him and when he comes around just look busy. If he wants to do somethin' make up a reason that you can't. Than one evening he's going to sit you down and ask you whatz up. And just give him a look like what, what do you mean whatz up? Than he'll go into it. And just give him the most sexy but serious look and say DOESN'T FEEL TOO GOOD TO BE NEGLECTED!!!! THAT INCLUDES SEX TOO.
2007-03-27 20:48:07 · answer #8 · answered by DADDYS' GIRL 4LF 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Open your legs more often. THe stress level in our house is in direct proportion to the unaccessability of vagina.
2007-03-27 21:09:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Add more details. Need to find out what's bothering him. Or find something that you both like to do.
2007-03-27 20:44:05 · answer #10 · answered by LIZA 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋