2007-03-27 13:25:43 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I WASTED 4 years of my life waiting for a married man to leave his wife, but he wouldn't because of the kids.
It's now been 10 years since I walked away from him, and he's STILL with his wife! Both kids have graduated, married and moved on...the man is STILL playing his games with other women - just to see what he can get from them, but give them nothing but empty promises in return.
Men give love to get sex. Women give sex to get love.
Sorry for the bluntness, but...I'm sure he loves what he's getting from you, and chances are, you're not the only one he's getting it from! The guy I was with cheated on me with his wife and other women. I'm sure your guy is still having sex with his wife too - no matter what he's telling you, he's telling her the same thing.
Don't waste your life. Don't waste any more of your time. Move on...
I PROMISE YOU, there are PLENTY of DECENT men who will love you and give you the care and respect you deserve...just be patient...when you least expect it...the RIGHT guy will find you!
2007-03-27 13:40:31 · answer #1 · answered by japanizationstation1 2 · 7⤊ 0⤋
Whats the question here?
Can you believe it when he says he loves you, or if he loves me why doesn't he leave?
He certainly can love you but that doesn't mean he no longer loves his wife, or that his marriage has degenerated to the point that it is worthwhile leaving it.
Love can exist in different ways and at different levels. It doesn't matter whether he actually loves you, it is important to realise he doesn't love you enough to change things.
Most married men who stray do so for sex. Sure they may love their sex partner but not enough to want to turn their lives upside down. Mind you, it does happen, but usually only if there is soemthing wrong with the marriage to start with - and don't just believe what he tells you.
You will understand this better when you truly understand men don't need to be in love to have regular sex with someone. Most women do fall in love with their regular sex partners and if their feelings aren't reciprocated they feel hurt and withdraw.
So men have been trained (by women) over the years to say and do certain things to keep the flame alight, otherwise the nookie dries up.
If you want to know if he really loves just with-hold sex for a few weeks for no reason other than "I don't feel like it" and see how long he stays around.
2007-03-27 17:35:46 · answer #2 · answered by Ratsoo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes . I believe its possible. Some men adore thier children & when sex is ok w/ the wife they can't walk away. It really is hard when they have a trophy wife. These men r probably a tad bit insecure and un- adventurous. The security of a wife is more important to them than happiness.The lover provides true happiness but they r stuck because they don't want to face change!Its sort of sad really because, his wife is being cheated but he is cheating himself out of a life of comfort and true happiness w/ the one he really loves!! One day the woman he found so special will walk away because she'll realize he didn't love her enough to leave the mother of his children. Nobody wins except the good hearted woman who meets another after the fact. His misery will be his whole life! I feel sorry for his wife because her marriage was a lie and if she ever finds out she'll be devastated. When the woman he loves walks away they'll be someone eles he'll mess with. Inside he will be a totally unhappy man all because he was afraid to take the chance w/ the true love! His wife & him have a doomed marriage. It will never be what a marriage built on love is...................
2007-03-27 14:24:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
No. He's lying to his wife and kids he will lie to you as well. He wants the stability of a family but the excitement of a mistress on the side.
It's not fair to you. Move on....you deserve a man's full attention and love. Not just a quickie when the wife is away.
2007-03-27 13:54:39 · answer #4 · answered by sweetie 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am a female but I can tell you this - I am married with 2 kids to man who cheated on me years ago and I have not loved or slept with him for about 6 years now. I fell in love with another man, a wonderful man who I had an affairs with for 4 years. He kept asking me to marry him but I could never get up the courage to divorce my husband and split up my family and ruin my children's life, I grew up in a broken home.
The man I found true love with left me for another woman, he said he could not wait any longer and that I had been wasting his time. Maybe he was right, maybe I never would have worked up the courage to leave but I regret not doing it now in hindsight. Only now I realize its worse for the kids to stay unhappily married than to leave.
So yes he could really mean it when he says he loves you, but wether or not he will leave his family for you is another question, and how long are you willing to wait is another!?
2015-04-04 14:20:05 · answer #5 · answered by Kimi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What are you doing playing around with a married man? What kind of person are you? Of course he's not gonna leave his wife for you - why would anyone give up his family and stability for someone so low as to play around with another woman's husband?
2007-03-27 13:53:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
NO.
And they all use the line "I have to stay for the kids".
It's actually to eat the cake and have it too. He's got the best of both worlds. Someone to take care of his kids and clean his undies, and someone to stroke his ego. He's got it made! I need something like that!!!
He's a cakeman. If he really had to stay for the kids, he'd leave you alone, and really be there for his family.
2007-03-27 18:10:17 · answer #7 · answered by val girl_38 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't ask his wife??
of course hes making a fool out of you, he wants a side kick and your it.
Why don't you just get your own man, not a used one.
Sloppy seconds yulk, and am talking about you.
Am sure your brighter than this, men like this are not worth it, stop making your life miserable, because of him.
He doesn't love you, he loves what he does to you, wake up girlfriend, he goes home to his wife and children, and pretends his a good husband and father, what kind of role model is that.
Be glad that is her and not you.
2007-03-27 13:36:42 · answer #8 · answered by none 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
No, I wouldn't believe him .He wants his home life and a little on the side to keep it exciting. If you are waiting for this guy .... don't ! Honestly , if he's cheating on his wife he's going to cheat on you anyway. And you are not blame free in this. You are doing something that is hurtful to his family and very destructive. What goes around , comes around. You need to make this right and end your relationship.
2007-03-27 13:33:59 · answer #9 · answered by uncle louie 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Hell No! I had a friend who fell for that BS and she got pregnant by him. When he found out, he wanted nothing to do with her. So she ended up getting an abortion. Is that how you want to end up? Why would you put your trust in someone who is married anyway? If he does this to his wife and lies to her, who's to say he won't do it to you?
2007-03-27 13:55:55 · answer #10 · answered by Mrs. Hester 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋