ok so my friend at my school and he asked me if i was gay because he'd picked up some "vibes" and wanted to know if i would want to come over to his house to hang out , this is one of my good friends though i have never been to his house , we usually go to one of my other buds houses if were hanging out , and i dont want to lose his friendship , i must admit that i am bi-curious but do not want to develop a physical relationship with another guy, let alone a good friend, what do i do? What would you do
2007-03-27 13:24:44 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Men's Health
Hey Mister man--there's no need to get all crazy over this. First and foremost, the two of you are friends. Understand, his bringing up your sexuality is more about him then yourself. He's opening up to you; he trusts you enough to bring up homosexuality in a mature way. That's a tough thing to do.
That doesn't mean you have to go to sleep with the guy. It only means that you can be good friends and learn to trust each other as real friends do--regardless of Anyone's sexuality.
Just be yourself. Even straight guys have to come out of the closet and be themselves. You don't have to know who you are right now--you'll have a whole lifetime to figure it out. Have fun and build the bonds that will carry you through your teenage years--do well in school and make yourself proud. While these years may be some of the most confusing of your life, they are cherished by all of us who didn't make the most of our youth.
2007-03-27 16:00:21 · answer #1 · answered by Phil 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really think an honest answer, very similar to what you wrote it appropriate. I am uncomfortable with underage people having sex-- gay or straight. That sounds very prudish, I know... but as I age, and understand consequences on more levels than I used to, it seems like the best thing to do at a young age is make good friends, and focus on getting into a college.
2007-03-27 22:47:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need too tell him how you feel, just like you said here in your question, However since you seem to be bi-curious, why don't you use this friend too talk about stuff. I found someone not in my social cirlce too talk with so i didnt make a ny problems there.So if that make you uncomfortable send me an email and we can talk about it, that way you won't risk that friendship.
2007-03-27 22:29:04 · answer #3 · answered by dragonsz7 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell him EXACTLY what you just said. You want to keep his friendship, but you are not interested in a physical relationship with him.
This is your truth, & you have a right to boundaries. Good job!
2007-03-27 20:42:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want to do gay stuff with him then calmly and nicely tell him no your not into it. Try not to hurt his feelings or whatever, but still make it known that your not into it.
B
2007-03-27 22:33:11 · answer #5 · answered by B20Mac 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For goodness sake, just decide what you are. If you are straight then say you are not gay and you are not into that. If you are then just tell him he is not your type that he is just a friend. If you are bicurious then who better to do it with than a friend. so take your pic forgoodnes sake. I pray you choose straight.
wasabi
2007-03-27 20:38:16 · answer #6 · answered by Wasabi 737 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just how many times are you going to ask the same dumb questions
Do whatever
2007-03-27 20:33:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
sweetie just calmly tell him how you feel he will understand if he is a good friend if he doesn't then he doesn't deserve your friendship !!!! well i hope everything goes well sweetie!
2007-03-27 20:31:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest about how you feel. No one can fault you for that.
2007-03-27 22:40:51 · answer #9 · answered by Jezabel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him blow you and then after you are done. Tell him "I'm not gay, thanks for helping me realise it."
2007-03-27 21:39:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋