I'm finishing my undergrad. degree this May. I have an opportunity to come back and do my Master's for free. My bf is here but my family is far away.
My parents want me to stay here and finish my education and are worried if I stop, I'll never go back. My bf wants me to go home and do my Master's up there with the support of my family.
I'm confused about what to do but I'm not sure I can handle having a baby in the middle of the semester and still manage to stay in school. I'm thinking I should take a full-time job now to have money for the baby and worry about school after another year. What do you think?
2007-03-27 13:17:27 · 7 answers · asked by Freaked out 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
That's really funny - you're in the exact situation I was in. We even had the same due date! I would definitely not suggest having a baby in the middle of the semester. Aside from the class you'll have to miss to have the baby, you also have to keep in mind that for the first couple of months after that baby is born, you're going to be exhausted all the time. For that matter, you'll be exhausted in the days leading up to the birth. Your mental capacity will not be at its best, and your grades will probably suffer for it. I would say take at least a semester off, maybe two. But DO GO BACK! Don't let your baby be an excuse to quit, because it will be tempting. Once you settle into a routine and get used to how much time a baby takes up, you'll be ready to go back to school. Good luck...and congrats!
2007-03-27 13:24:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I'm in a similar boat, working on my undergrad and due Oct 3rd. I have no family where I live either, and my husband is gone for months at a time for work. I am taking the fall off, and returning in the spring. I would stay where you are, especially if you can do the masters for free, wow! what an opportunity. I have seen perople have kids mid semester and be fine, but with no close family, I feel taking the semster off is the best option. so close to being done, you will definatly want to go back and finish. have some faith in yourself. you will do just fine. Talk to a school councelor, or your advisor and see what your school offers as far as child care, or other assistance. that can help too.
2007-03-27 21:36:52 · answer #2 · answered by **0_o** 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Complicated--- especially by conflicting wishes of family, bf etc.
But it seems to me, if you do decide to continue school you should go wherever you will have the best help in caring for your baby. The baby's needs are number one--- And if you are not going to be staying home with the baby, you might want to know that whoever is caring for it loves it as much as you do.
It IS hard to return to school after a break and starting a family. On the other hand, the older the baby is before you have to put it into daycare the better.
What do YOU want to do?
2007-03-27 20:27:57 · answer #3 · answered by Rani 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I quit school to have a baby and am just now going back...after 12 years! It's my biggest regret because I had to work very hard in low paying jobs because I didn't have the right education to do what I wanted. It would have been easier to struggle for the first couple of years and then have it easier for the long haul.
My advice - finish school. It's short term, then you have the rest of your - and your child's - life (the years that they'll remember) to spend together enjoying the benefits.
2007-03-27 20:29:14 · answer #4 · answered by dbackbarb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am in the exact same situation, except i have 15 credits to finish my undergrad. i have decided to wait unitl i have my child to finish school despite INTENSE pressure from my family to finish over the summer and fall semester. at the end of the day i have to do what is best for me and my baby. i am working and going to save $$ thru the rest of the pregnancy and go back to school next year.
your family will always want u to continue ur education. it will never end. you have to do whats best for you and now ur child. YOU WILL GO BACK im sure u intend to and its not like when our mothers went to school . now they have a bunch of options for parents night school, classes that meet 1 day a week, ONLINE and WEEKEND classes. parents dont consider that stuff cuz it wasnt around back then. do whatever you feel u can handle. i have been terribly sick my whole pregnancy and couldnt handle going to school last semester or summer semester. and i dont want my gpa to go down cuz i tried to be wonder woman and couldnt focus on school. i had to pick what was best for me. u do the same.
2007-03-28 03:08:20 · answer #5 · answered by Not here 2 make friends 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I want to say good luck to you before I say anything else, because I am in the same situation, except this is my second child I say to do what you feel is best i wont tell you to give up though if you already have a degree pursue what you have now when your child is older go back and further your education. congrats and my heart goes out to you.
2007-03-27 20:29:30 · answer #6 · answered by mrs matti 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey Fellow mommy!! im due October 20th!! and I actually just got my high school deploma not too long ago! and im work at a resturant part time (I've worked teir all therough school) and im going to get my bnursing degree in three months! and im still working!
Dont stop your career because your baby is going to need that! you need that for you baby!
2007-03-27 20:22:26 · answer #7 · answered by Amanda 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋