Facts: Married 7 years. No kids. Live in apartment. She CHEATED, but isn't sorry. We're getting divorced. We're still friends. She’s in college, 6 more months till she’s an accountant. Schoolwork so heavy she rarely gets sleep, never mind time for a part-time job. Accountant boyfriend won’t help pay her bills (so she says). I gave her a new car and $30,000 but she’s worried about what will happen if she cannot find a job and two years goes by and she uses up all her savings. (she worries too much). While I’m here she feels safe. I don’t want to pay her food and rent while I’m not even living in the apartment as I would feel that I’m being used as a stupid fool. If she wants my money for food and rent then she’s going to have to put up with looking at my ugly mug every day. If I go; my money goes also.
Is this fair on her? Remember, she won’t be able to have her main squeeze over if I’m still here, and if I go, so does the money. Is this the best way to help my EX wife out?
2007-03-27 13:13:39 · 5 answers · asked by honesty_counts 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This is not help, this is enabling bad behavior. I agree with the above that this is not demonstrating that their are consequences for her sort of behavior.
Personally, I would tell her I'm willing to support a willing wife, but unwilling in any fashion to support a woman who breaks her vows.
The car, the money, everything would not be available to her if she is putting out for another man.
You can't bribe her back. Get a back-bone. If she wants you, she will want you. If not, cut her from the team and get her off the payroll.
2007-03-27 15:33:11 · answer #1 · answered by camys_daddy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want to live with her? Sounds like you still care very much for her, but why would you put your life on hold to move in with her so you can help her out? and ask yourself this, how are you going to feel knowing she just came home from a date, all hot and bothered and used. You OK with that? I think it's a bad idea.
2007-03-27 13:33:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way to help your EX wife out is to teach her that there are repercussions to her actions. Leave her and stop dealing with her games. She's using you now just as she did while you were together. Let her and her new boyfriend fend for themselves, while you go on with your life and find someone who actually deserves your compassion.
2007-03-27 13:21:25 · answer #3 · answered by b0red2tears 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you serious? She cheated! She should have thought about all this before spreading her legs for someone other than her husband!
She created this mess, leave her to sort it out. She doesn't deserve to have you take care of her. If her boyfriend won't take care of her, too ******* bad!
Leave or kick her out NOW!
2007-03-27 13:23:38 · answer #4 · answered by QT 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
,you got it ,you got it. do it to it. man don't let her crap on you
2007-03-27 13:23:51 · answer #5 · answered by freeman3905@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋