Has anyone married or stayed married "for your kids"? Do you regret it?

Answer 1

My parents are doing that now. They seem really annoyed with each other, but they want my sister and I to have a good childhood. I think that's really thoughtful of them. It really depends on how you feel about your spouse, I mean, if you guys fight every second for every little detail, then I would say think deeply on how you want to spend your life with them. If you don't like your spouse in that way, but still can get along, see how it will work for a little while. Just go with your instincts.

Answer 2

I am staying married at this point for my children. I love my husband and I am best friends with him, just not in-love (I am still hoping this will change). I haven't regretted it thus far (over 7 years) but lately I feel like something is missing. Also, he is refusing help and support for anger management which is becoming a problem. So now I need to re-evaluate the whole situation. I have to be happy because I only have one life to live and my children deserve a happy mom and home. Plus growing up as a child in a home where my mom stayed because of us kids placed a lot of guilt on my shoulders and I resented her for not being strong enough to leave my dad who was mentally and physically abusive. Now, I can understand but I live with the emotional scars.

Answer 3

I am currently married just for my kids, and I don't regret it! I got married, had four children and made the decision to raise them in a 2 parent home. Those were my choices and I am responsible for them!

However, my husband and I don't fight and disrespect each other, and we can agree when it comes to the way they should be raised. Our problems have NOTHING to do with our children, and they shouldn't suffer because of them!!!

That being said, I wouldn't necessarily suggest that you do it! It is completely dependent upon your relationship and your level of commitment to your kids! It isn't easy, and there are many days that I question my ability to continue it, but for now it works. You need to do some major soul searching and decide if the problems in your marriage are too great for you to live with! Divorce is way too easy, it is much more difficult to remain committed to your family! Get some counceling and try absolutely everything else before you decide on divorce!

Answer 4

I know of a married couple who stayed together for the kids. They are still living in the same house, but not sharing the same bedroom. When I look at their relationship, I feel saddened by this. But it is their choice, they would rather do this, then hurt God, and their children.
I for one am happy that I'm not in the same predicament. If a couple really love their kids, they will try to keep the family together, even if they don't love each other anymore. We should not judge them for their decisions, it's up to the couple really.
It would be good for them if they tried to rekindle their first love for each other. Alot of times lack of communication, forgiveness, and patience. Have caused many to lose their love for each other. If a couple sees this type of problem arising in their marriage, they should try to work on it together, with love, so they can save their marriage. Children today are smart, and they know what is happening with their parents, even when the parents are trying to hide the problems.
Children learn from their parents example, they need to have good role models. They need parents who will fight for love, and work hard to please, and be happy with the one they are married to. Especially since there is so much divorce in to days world.
If a marriage mate has committed adultery then this is a different story all together.

Answer 5

I've never been married and don't have kids, but it's not a good idea to stay together for the kids. It only makes everyone miserable and gives them a bad example of marriage and relationships.

Answer 6

If we might have regretted being married, do you think of we might nevertheless be married? you're youthful(er than i'm) and it appears that evidently such as you do no longer quite recognize a stable courting or marriage. you won't have function fashions in that branch to look at, i recognize i did no longer. yet that did no longer end me from wanting it and desirous to verify what it became all approximately. What "great majority?" Divorce is 50/50% risk, that's no longer majority in my e book, this is ineffective even. No no longer "quicker or later one gets drained" it is unlike that for each guy or woman, don't be so d*mn cynical approximately marriage. that is not any longer a dying sentence, in spite of if it does end that is not any longer the top of the worldwide in spite of if it sounds like it. people have been meant to be at the same time, in spite of if that is for existence without marriage or for existence with it. And as for the place "does your dignity bypass?" the place it is in many situations been except you enable a failed marriage outline you and what you're for something of your existence.

Answer 7

i have a different take on this question. i am divorced. we were married 8 years and had three kids together. the marriage was miserable. i left him five years ago. as for the kids, they now have two houses, two families (he is remarried) and me and the ex get along wonderful! my kids do not feel like they live in a "broken home". they feel more special because they have more people that love them. AND they are not watching their father treat me like garbage anymore. that is worse on a child than a divorce.
the way i look at it is that i was unhappy for 8 years. did i want to be unhappy for the rest of my life? i don't think so. now i date a wonderful man and i am happy, too. :)

Answer 8

Oh yes, I was married for 21 terrible years for my kids. My parents were extremely religious and made me promise to stay together until my kids were grown.

My kids used to pray that we'd stay together. IT was the stupidest thing I ever did in my life.

If i had it to do over again, me and their father would've been divorced after about 10 years and I think we all would've been happier.

He's now 48 and dating girls 18-21 years old. I am married again. My kids are caught in between.

Do not ever stay together for the kids when you fight and cheat constantly. It does not help them in any way whatsoever. I think they hate both of us. We didn't do any favors for them.

Answer 9

When two people get married and decide to have kids they should make it their number one priority to support the kids together.The kids never asked for the head and heart aches of divorce.Parents should make their relationship work and not be selfish.The kids will grow to be more stable and well grounded if they are brought up with both parents in the same home.
I wanted to work things out with the ex just for the reasons above but she had made her mind up that she was leaving me for another man. I suffered enough but my kids were the ones that suffered the most.Because of this they had to endure the pain of separation.They also had to deal with another man in the ex wife's life.To much drama for early teenage kids.

Answer 10

I did, for several years. I finally said enough, and filed for divorce. It will be final in 2 weeks. BEST decision I ever made. I am a thousand times happier and that is definitely reflected in my relationship with my son. Before, I was always so angry and stressed that I found it difficult to be patient with him. Unfortunately his dad decided to move out of state so he doesn't see him much anymore, but until he moved they spent MUCH more time together than they did when we were married (because he always was glued to the computer or the x-box and barely acknowledged our existence).