I want to quietly take care of a situation.I never told my ex. bf that he got me pregnant is now the father of my 5.5 yr old son because i wanted to avoid problems.He was really immature at the time and was dating someone else.Anyway i graduated from college and got married .I ended up seperated from my hubby have been for a year. I had a fling during this time with my ex.bf who i met up totally out of the blue.Result is i am now 7 months pregnant with his child again.I have not told him this yet because he is married.How take care of the situation?
2007-03-27 13:08:00 · 8 answers · asked by Megan C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I do not want to have an angry wife on my back.!
2007-03-27 13:14:10 · update #1
Well, I'm guessing that his marriage wasn't your biggest concern when you were having an affair with him. He has a right to know that he has two children. Maybe his wife will let you have him.
Did you think about the angry wife when you were fooling around? I would have thought the first child would have taught you about the importance of condoms.
2007-03-27 13:16:02 · answer #1 · answered by QT 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you see the father of your children at anytime during the course of your normal routine life now?
If so, does he know you are separated from your husband? If so, surely the thought has crossed his mind whether or not it's his baby you're carrying. So, if you see him, and the subject comes up, be honest with him and tell him that he's the only man you've been with since you separated from your husband.
The result of that conversation will tell you how he is going to react to finding out that he also has a son with you. No matter, he's going to be really pissed with you about not telling him because he missed out on his son's earlier life.
He will either react positively and do the right thing - which would be to offer financial and emotional support, or he will want nothing to do with you or the children.
Another thought, he could be a real jerk and try and get custody of them being that he is married.
You're in a tough spot, and I don't have all the answers for you. I understand that you have made the decisions you have because of the situations surrounding the events. That shows maturity on your part, and it also shows you must deeply care for/love this person to have allowed him to father two children with you.
You obviously do not wish to break up his marriage or you could have already done that.
If he has truly matured and if he cares for you, his wife and the well-being of his children, he will do what is right for all.
Best wishes for you!
2007-03-27 20:30:01 · answer #2 · answered by japanizationstation1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW That sounds like a nightmare .You sure you wasn't dreaming . Just tell him the truth the hole truth and nothing but the truth and end this nightmare
what a rude awakening hes in for I just wish i could be there to see the expression on his face . maybe record it and send it into most funniest video
2007-03-27 20:14:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't you believe in the term fool me once shame on you fool me twice shame on me.
Why are you messing around with married men even if his was your ex, unhealthy for the children, what are they going to think about you.
Hard to believe you have a college education, come on use the knowledge.
2007-03-27 20:56:46 · answer #4 · answered by none 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you've already caused the drama....now it's time for the final act....tell him
guess you should have thought about the angry wife before you screwed around with a married man...your kids deserve to know who their dad is
2007-03-27 20:13:43 · answer #5 · answered by abc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow tough one, tell him about the child and about this one and take him for child support.
2007-03-27 20:14:32 · answer #6 · answered by Awakened 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to be honest with him....he has the right to know about the five year old.
ok..he is married now and still screwing around? damn, girl...get your child support check and run!
2007-03-27 20:12:55 · answer #7 · answered by Hello Kitty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what you should do? Haven't you ever heard of a condom??? Your child needs a father. Find one somewhere.
2007-03-27 20:18:52 · answer #8 · answered by krash 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋