It amazes me just how emotional I feel. Sometimes I feel fine, and sometimes everything just ticks me off. I can't look my friends in the eye, and those with small children or pregnant... well... I just want to leave the room, break something and have a screaming fit. Most of all, however, I just want to get away from myself. How does a woman get through this?
2007-03-27 12:57:24 · 3 answers · asked by Christine H 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I had a miscarriage early last year and i was the same way. I ran out of the doctors office in tears whil waiting for my doctor to call me back when a woman came in pregnant. All i can say is take it one day at a time and dont try to concern yourself about getting over it because i dont think you ever get over it but you will get through it. Im pregnant with #3 now and i still wonder about the baby i lost and im afraid that it'll happen again. I dont know if you believe in God but please pray about it and understand that it happened for a reason, your baby probably had a defect and nature took its course. Its gonna get better trust me, but dont be suprised if your still feel a little sad from time to time. I'll pray for your baby you lost and for the health of your future children.
2007-03-27 13:33:23 · answer #1 · answered by marinewife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I'm so sorry for your loss. I know EXACTLY how you feel. When I lost my first baby I was only 18, but she was my world. I was never happier than when I found out I was pregnant with her. I was so attached, loved her so much, and when I lost her it was just about the hardest thing I've ever been through.
It is going to be hard for a long time, the only thing that ever really helped me not 'get over', but 'move on' from that loss was having another baby. I remember feeling angry towards women with babies and pregnant women, almost blaming them for my loss. Grief works in weird ways. It's normal.
For me personally naming her was very important to me, for some women making a place they can go and grieve, or planting a tree, or releasing balloons etc. can help. I also wrote a lot, in journals and poetry, I cried a lot, I drank a lot.... and for over a year it was very hard.
Time does help heal though, people would always tell me that, "Over time it will hurt less", and I never believed them. BUT for the first few years I was a complete wreck on the anniversary of when I lost her, and her duedate.... over the years it's gotten easier and easier. I still remember of course, but it just doesn't hurt so rawly anymore.
Again, I'm sorry for your loss. I don't know what else to say, but good luck and god bless.
2007-03-27 20:43:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is normal. My son was born still on Nov 9th and it wasn't until about a month ago that I could stand to see a pregnant woman at all. I suggest you pick up the book "empty cradle broken heart- surviving the death of your child" it deals with miscarriage and stillbirth.
2007-03-27 20:03:52 · answer #3 · answered by iampatsajak 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋