Hi i am 24 yrs old and have been married for 4 yrs most of which was happily. I have a son from another relationship who is 5.5 yrs old gets along great with my hubby the only dad he has ever known. Before my seperation with my hubby we were trying to get pregnant for almost 2 yrs. This put a lot of strain on our relationship causing a lot of fights he wanted us to have a baby to complete our family.He started accusing me of trying to prevent pregnancy which was not the case.Then it became that i was working to much he accused me off having an affair not true at all.Currently i have been seperated leagally from my hubby for a year.During the seperation i had a fling with my son's bio-dad(though i never told him he as a the father) who is also married.I am pregnant again 7 months along.My hubby called to say he wants to work things out?
2007-03-27 12:47:04 · 11 answers · asked by Megan C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My hubby has been living in calfornia and has told me he is moving back to N.J.I have no idea if our relationship can survive?Edit i never told my ex.bf he fathered my son or my current baby to avoid drama.
2007-03-27 12:51:24 · update #1
He wants to perhaps reconcile, and try to salvage your marriage. So, he's hoping. Think being pregnant is going to help your marriage? I don't suppose you mentioned being pregnant with a different guy's baby, when you spoke to your husband. Girl, give it up. Besides, exactly why did you pick the same guy who fathered your son? After all, there are millions of men- but you slept with, AND got pregnant AGAIN, with the same guy. I must say, that if you care enough about this guy, (not the husband- the guy you have chosen AGAIN, to have kids with) why haven't you bothered to marry him? Apparently, you have feelings for the Sperm guy, if you have two kids with him. Is he OK for a father, but not worth marriage? Oh, that's right- he's already married. He obviously is a prince. You and Spermy sound like a perfect match. Why not just tell his wife that her husband is the father of BOTH your kids. After all, there is NO good reason to make your children go through life never knowing their father. And, since he meant enough to you that you chose him to screw, out of all the thousands of available men, he must be a wonderful guy, who will happily pay support for his children.
2007-03-27 13:24:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow...that's tough.
First off, the baby you're carrying: your ex-hubby's or ex-boyfriend's?
If it's your ex-hubby's (I don't think so, right?) then you've got a great chance of getting back together with him, because the very thing that tore you two apart is now going to bring you together.
However, if it's your ex-boyfriends(pretty likely) then it's going to be more difficult. If you really love your ex-hubby, you've got to try to patch things up or you'll regret it. Call him over the phone to set up a date, and sit him down and explain things. When he realizes you're pregnant, he'll be pretty upset knowing you had sex with another man, your married ex-boyfriend no less. But make him listen to your whole story and tell him how you feel. If he needs time and space, give it to him, but make sure to tell him that you do love him and he's the only one you want. Tell him to call you when he's had time to mull things over.
With any luck, you'll be back together.
Hope I helped and good luck!
P.S. Just a little note that you might want to know: your ex-hubby's going to feel insufficient and his ego gonna take a hell of a knocking down at the fact that you were able to get pregnant TWICE by your ex-boyfriend in just a short fling while two years with him brought no success. Be sensitive!
2007-03-27 12:55:11 · answer #2 · answered by Sofishortss 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sorry to say this but I don't think you can work things out with your hubby unless he love you unconditionally witch it should be like that. When he finds out that you are pregnant and not by him it will be thee end, he tried to get you pregnant for several months and then you have a fling and get pregnant it's not right. Maybe it's your hubby who has a physical problem and should go to a Doctor to check himself out. technically he can't get mad because you two were separated for 1 year so he has no right to reproach you anything....
2007-03-27 12:59:41 · answer #3 · answered by Monica A 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First, you NEED to be honest with yourself. What do YOU want ? Why did your husband leave ? Then, you need to be honest with your husband and your child's (now children's) father. This is not the road to happiness that you're living. Even though you're separated from your husband, I don't think you should sleep with other people, especially other people that are married !!! (baby's daddy or not) !! Maybe ALL of you, (except MAYBE your husband) are too immature to be in a commited relationship. This is something to think about.
2007-03-27 12:57:05 · answer #4 · answered by heather d 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is no way to find out without trying. But I see problems: if he was not understanding before, why would he be so now? Possibly he has changed, but I would approach the matter with some care. Of course, you will need to discuss the current pregnancy immediately.
2007-03-27 12:54:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your "Hubby" hasn't seen you for a year and now you are pregnant again. If he knows you are pregnant by another man and he still wants to work things out, he is a stronger man than I. What ever happened to self control!?
2007-03-27 13:02:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your husband knows you're pregnant by another man and is willing to be a family, then get back together for the sake of the children.
2007-03-27 12:53:01 · answer #7 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are screwed up!!!!! You need to file for divorce and allow your husband to be happy!! Damn girl, are you trying to completely destroy him??? Just for one minute think about how you would feel? He would be an absolute idiot for staying with you!!!!! Go back to your ex boyfriend and let him take care of HIS kids!!! I would say it is past time for you to start being honest with the men in your life! You are asking for big trouble by playing with their emotions like that!!
2007-03-27 12:59:38 · answer #8 · answered by Kailey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well all you got in this world is hope, but i say you need to have a game rule,, for, if he say you was messing around once he going to do it again,,,
2007-03-27 13:21:30 · answer #9 · answered by ghostwalker077 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow your life is jacked...uhhh I would say no,
2007-03-27 12:50:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋