Fathers: HOW DID YOU IMPACT YOUR CHILDREN?

Question

Did you decide to distance yourself from your kids because of a relationship or yourself? How did it affect your relationship with your children

My father was not hands on and i still have issues with that felt like he could have done more

Answer 1

I gave my kids a good role model of what a man, and husband, should be to their Mom. I tried to give the best advice I knew, and always be available to talk at any time. I worked for their betterment, night and day both, to provide a good living for them. I made a POSITIVE impact on their life.....3 well-adjusted kids, all grown...2 with kids of their own now, and are good parents!

Answer 2

Understand that when we all become parents we don't get an instruction manual with it. And there is no set guideline at what a father or mother is supposed to do or not do. No parent is going to be perfect. Ask yourself and be honest with the answer could you have been a better more understanding and caring child to your dad? Before you start casting stones look into a mirror at yourself and determine what your faults might be. The last person I ever heard of that was supposed to be perfect was crucified.

Answer 3

I am a daughter impacted by a father. He used to tell me he never called because it hurt too much, etc. Lots of other issues more serious than that, but I know it caused me to look for more guy friends and to be a little too concerned with dating a little too early. He used to turn us against my mom and lots of other crap. He never really cared about us, just wanted to hurt my mom, and I am sure it worked though none of my business.

Lucky for me I did find the right guy and we have made a wonderful life and daughter. He has been a wonderful dad for five years and running. I had to seperate all of my dealings and feelings from him, and am doing much better now. But it still is a challenge, and now I just accept him as he is, other people do have it worse, and I look to other ways to find acceptance.

My brother and sister are much worse, I think my brother is actually him now, and my sister got so far into her boyfriend to a date rape and life beating and worse.

Parents aren't all good ones, and my mom has done her best I am sure, she still keeps on trying with my ciblings. But nothing really can replace the love of a dad. Just to look to other ways to find satisfaction...I volunteered with children.

Answer 4

Well my dad followed the idea of "let me show you how much I love you by being mean to you". When I really needed him he would be there, but other than that it was a trial and error youth.

With my daughter I am very hands on and involved in everything that she does. She is only 3 1/2, but we read, play, learn, etc...

But I have a very odd feeling that when I do have a son, I will treat him more like the way my father related to me, rather than how I relate to my daughter.

Answer 5

I have always been a hands on father.I have two girls and we have always been close.When their mother and I divorced both of the kids wanted to stay with me.There were times after the divorce that we all needed space but I wouldn't say we were distant.We each had our own space but we always sat at the same table and ate our meals.We went to movies together and shopped for food or cloths almost every week end.

Answer 6

Everything i do and say will impact my children as well as what I watch on TV. Everything I DO NOT do or say will also impact my children.

Divorce is its own evil...I am sorry if your father was not as involved....some men are simply not as hands on..whether they are present or not.

while he is alive..try to be grateful for who is NOW and don't look too far back searching for resentment

Answer 7

No impact whatsoever. My only child died at two.