and I dont know what to do anymore. I cant cope with this. It just happened about 5 minutes ago, and my dad openly told my mom he would divorce her. and my mom said ok fine. and I want to die right now. I really dont know what to do.
2007-03-27 12:33:41 · 9 answers · asked by ihatelifesproblems 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
and I dont know what to do anymore. I cant cope with this. It just happened about 5 minutes ago, and my dad openly told my mom he would divorce her. and my mom said ok fine. and I want to die right now. I really dont know what to do. if you can, please pray for me.
2007-03-27 12:39:43 · update #1
what is going on between your parents have NOTHING to do with you. just because your parents no longer get along doesn't mean that they don't love you. my parents separated when me and my younger sister were still in high school. the divorce was finanlized when i was in my first year in college and when my sister was a senior in high school. although it was rough back then they are much better towards each other now. besides, there is nothing that you can do about it. this is between your parents, not your parents and you. you are not the one getting the divorce, your parents are. so stay out of it. if you want to maintain a decent relationship with your parents (weather or not they stay married or get divorced) stay out of it.
2007-03-27 12:41:38 · answer #1 · answered by cfalways 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes people use the "D" word as a form of defense in a fight! You need to talk to your parents and tell them exactly how it makes you feel when you hear them say those things. They love you, and I'm sure if they realized how much it hurt you to hear it, they would stop!!
Regardless of why, they shouldn't be having those types of arguments in front of you!! Parents are human too and they can do some really stupid things! Don't think for a minute that any of their problems are because of you!!
Just try to be really mature about this and go to them with your feelings!! You may open their eyes to how dumb they have been! Good luck!!
2007-03-27 19:51:18 · answer #2 · answered by Kailey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please understand that sometimes adults get married for the wrong reasons or they just don't have in common what they thought they did. It isn't your fault and if they do get divorced it is better than living in a house with constant fighting and unhappiness. Married couples need happiness or a marriage isn't worth having. Just try to avoid being around them while they are fighting. Sorry for your pain, but it does happen more often than not nowadays in marriages.
2007-03-27 19:43:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your parents inability to be with each other has nothing to do with you, they will love you no matter the outcome. I'ts hard to imagine not having both of your parents with you but you may find you like being around them more seperately, without the fighting and bad atmosphere. When two people find themselves in different places emotionally i doesn't make sense to be with each other when all they do is fight and cause each other pain and hurt everyone else involved. It will be difficult for you but you will get through it, try to be strong and know you are not alone.
2007-03-27 19:53:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first YES I JUST PRAYED FOR YOU
second please know it is NOT YOU, adults some times dont seem so adult do they. People change, they grow apart, they quit trying, the easy thing to do it RUN OUT. I have myself ran away from teh stress, the termoil. Try to sit your parents down adn tell them they are acting like children adn need to sit adn think what made em fall in love to begin with tell them that them doing this and your hearing it is hurting and scaring you.. maybe it is just a fight you know it happens...... hang in there kid
2007-03-27 21:26:05 · answer #5 · answered by Peggy C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk with your parents about what's going on from your point of view. Let them know how you feel. If they tell you that they are just saying it out of anger, ask them if they could possibly stop saying that. If they don't know what affect their words are having on you, they may continue to keep saying these things. Hope this helps.
2007-03-27 19:44:31 · answer #6 · answered by Shandra S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get yourself help!
contact a counselor or family member!
then tell parents it's not okey to get a divorce!
Tell them there destroying the family and it seems like they don't even care!
2007-03-28 00:55:48 · answer #7 · answered by Free-Lance 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah life is a B&*^% but you know what you should give it a week or so till your parents have cooled down and i guarenty you they will be cool with each other again*******don't even trip
2007-03-27 19:48:48 · answer #8 · answered by Meika T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Threaten them with emancipation.
2007-03-27 20:05:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋