I was married for 2 yrs and some change. Well I left my husband in Germany (military) got out the army and got a divorce knowing this whole time I still loved him even though we were having mad issues in our marriage. I left him in 2005 during this time he went on a year deployment to iraq and back then he came back to the states for school. well he thinks i abandoned him during the deployment which I didn't, I thought he was amd at me for divorcing him and leaving him.SO how do I show him that I won't leave him again( now we are doing better even though we aren't married) and I won't abandon him?
2007-03-27 12:19:24 · 9 answers · asked by marla b 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
oh I forgot. We are currently working on remarrying and all that good stuff but i know in the back of his head he is thinking why should I try i again? and yes we both do still love each other thats why we are trying again.
2007-03-27 12:29:02 · update #1
would you believe him if he did that to you?
2007-03-27 12:24:54 · answer #1 · answered by zsaffireblue2003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he thinks you abandon him then you should honor his feelings they are HIS feeling. Trust has been broken and that takes a lot of time and action to prove again. Sometimes trust is never gained. I would ask him about the past and how it hurt him, be honest that is what a healthy good relationship is all about. Tell him what part you played in your relationship and why you left. Most of all be openminded and 110% honest.
2007-03-27 19:26:12 · answer #2 · answered by Rosa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All sounds good to me whats the problem ? Just keep doing what your doing if you love each other it will work out.
You know you really did abandon him if you really look at it but we all make mistakes now its time to start making baby's
2007-03-27 19:37:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, uhhh there is really no way to show him since you left him already and in his eyes you have abandoned him before. Best bet is be very open with him, honest, stuff like that
2007-03-27 19:23:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just come right out and apologize, tell him you really love him, and you'll never intentionally hurt him, explain to him why you did it before...just do all you can to make sure he knows how you feel and that you honestly love him and want to be with him...honesty and trust would be the best things...
2007-03-27 19:25:06 · answer #5 · answered by IndiHippi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him something & a card that says I love you and stuff like that. Then, put I'm sorry and I'll never leave you again.
2007-03-27 19:24:45 · answer #6 · answered by claudia V 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time heals all. Just tuff it out if you really love him. If you do and he does you, it will all work out. Maybe try some counseling.
2007-03-27 19:28:48 · answer #7 · answered by Ginger 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he has every right to feel that he was abandoned and every right to be cautious about it in the future with you since essentially it is what you did
2007-03-27 19:32:54 · answer #8 · answered by zether 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's going to take a lot, but if he's willing to try again go for it
2007-03-27 19:23:49 · answer #9 · answered by nabdullah2001 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋