i know its mean to talk about friends behind their backs.but i have this female friend..as the title says it...she keeps on throwing herself at guys/men.shes acting like a tart even though shes not.me and some others are worried that shes going to get talked about or worse because of the way she acts around guys.we do try to talk to her but she just wont listen and insists that she is right and we are wrong.its kinda dividing up the group too.
2007-03-27 12:17:57 · 13 answers · asked by conner_conner11 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
i'm sick and tired of her conner.to be honest,i dont really like her.i just put up with her for marie,beth,vicky,john and stu.nothing you and i can do about it.we tried to talk to her,but she wont listen.so just ignore her.
2007-03-28 07:29:10 · answer #1 · answered by dream_hawk22 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i had a friend who always wanted male attention. when she did have a boyfriend she would cheat. she often cried because she was so desperate for a boyfriend but men treated her badly and used her. but its not suprising by the way she acted. she would meet guys off the internet for sex, pick up guys from clubs and have sex with people she did not know in the park, in their cars or even in the street! she rarely did it in a bed! she wouldnt even bother to use a condom most the time as she was on the pill.
i guess some girls just need the attention. they dont care what it does to their reputation -the nastier their reputation the more guys they will have interested in them (they cant see the guys only want them for sex)
its worrying for their friends though as anything could happen to them with this sort of behaviour!
also, its a sad fact that often their friends get labelled as being the same as them. theres nothing you can do about their behaviour. its up to them to realise its wrong and change the way they behave. you can talk to them til ur blue in the face, they will nod and agree with you but the next chance they get, they'll be throwing themselves at another guy.
2007-03-27 20:12:29 · answer #2 · answered by sparky 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gee, nothing like live and let live any more? Nothing like being judgemental a bit but what are friends for? With all the rest of the world judging why not also have a circle of friends who judge you too. Reexamine your convictions and priorities. Stop trying to change her. If your that embarrassed by her then cut her loose. She'll find other birds of a feather and won't need you. You worrying about her sounds more like your worried what people are saying about you all being her friend. WOW. It's no wonder our country is going straight to h-e-double toothpicks. If you are a product of this generations youth then we have no hope.
2007-03-27 19:33:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Show her what it feels like to care about somebody like maybe you could be a tart so you call it around girls and maybe she will think hey.... he might get talked about behind his back at school i should really talk to him. And when she tries to just say look I tried to talk to you and you would not listen, she will feel really bad so when she starts to fall on her knees and beg tell her see I tried to help you and you are helping me now and it was all a joke to get you to see how it feels, she will probably get mad at first but I promise she will get over it...... if this is not right to you then sorry i got nothing else for ya.
2007-03-27 19:28:25 · answer #4 · answered by Allison 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her and "candycoat" it if you gotta. Tell her you overheard some guys talking about how she acts and you are worried that she is gonna have a bad rap b/c of the way others "percieve" her and her actions...as a little "loose"
say that you are worried about her self-esteem and her actions may wind up getting her raped or worse, murdered..help her ASAP. If she refuses to listen, warn the guys that if they hurt or take advantage of her, their @ss is grass...
2007-03-27 19:29:19 · answer #5 · answered by heatherclhn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to show her how she is acting instead of just telling her,you need to show her how other girls act vs her when guys are around.if she is that hard headed then you are going to have to let it go and tell her that you aren't going to be around someone that just throws there selves at guys all the time.when she losing her close friends then she will realize that she was in the wrong and you were in the right.i hope this helps you.
2007-03-27 19:26:37 · answer #6 · answered by whitnee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have this problem with a female friend who does that and I told her she needed to take a break from dating since she keeps throwing herself on complete jerks who play her. She's embarassing herself and also because she's inable to live without a man and take a break.
2007-03-27 19:22:16 · answer #7 · answered by nabdullah2001 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be straight with her, don't be friendly about it - I take it you've already tried that approach. Tell her "you're acting like a tart" - simple as that. You can be as rude as you want about it. If she doesn't get it, than you've tried your best. She would then have to experience something to teach her not to act like that again.
2007-03-27 19:24:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave the tart alone. she knows what she is doing. your not going to tell her what she doesnt want to hear. when she finally hears what other people are saying about her, she will either stop what shes doing or she wont. nothing you say will make a bit of difference.
2007-03-27 19:22:24 · answer #9 · answered by zsaffireblue2003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I have this problem as well, that is a sure sign of insecurity, are you a good enough friend to sit her down and just pour your heart out, tell her how you feel, and that she is degrading herself.
2007-03-28 01:35:29 · answer #10 · answered by Little miss naughty 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋