i am fourteen and have been dating this guy for like five years. i didnt think it would last. but around december. he is seventeen and he asked me if i wanted to have sex with him...i told him i wasnt ready yet...so two days ago we were at a party and i was a bit tipsy and he wasn't and next thing i knew i woke up with him next to me. I am confused and I feel akward around him and barely want to even talk to him and I also found out he forgot a condom.
I should probably leave him. but i feel like if i do i wont be able to go one but i can't stand to look at him either...what should i do about this because i love him but i wasnt ready for such a big step? And even though he only has two percent chance of having kids what if i end up pregnant?
2007-03-27 12:05:45 · 16 answers · asked by *Breana*Banana* 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
i was with him when the doctor told him that he only had a two percent chance of having kids.
2007-03-27 12:12:19 · update #1
ok.....first of all...there is no.....ooops i forgot a condom thats bullshit .
if i was your boyfriend i would have just held you i my arms and let you sleep off the boose.then when you woke up you would see that you still had clothes on and i would ask you if you are ok..and take you home...leave that guy ...he is a jerk and really date raped you for sure.
although i am an adult male now you are old enough to be my kid and i would personally kill him if you were.......
best answer from me....tell your parents they might seem mad but it is just cause they are hurting inside too.
2007-03-27 18:31:31 · answer #1 · answered by chris w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, if you've been dating him for 5 years then that means you started dating him at the age of 9. That's way too young. And what he did was rape you, that's why you don't feel like you can look at him. He is officially a criminal now. And why do you think he only has a 2 percent chance of having kids? He's lying to you about that, he would have no way of knowing that unless he's gone through fertility tested, and trust me, he hasn't! The guy is a scum bag, even though it hurts you are better off without him. I'm not sure when this happened, but you need to find out if you are pregnant. I truly hope you are not. If it was two days ago you can try to get the morning after pill, it's good for up to 72 hours after having unprotected sex, which means you are still in that zone. Try to find out a way to get it, even if you have to tell your parents. Or call your local Planned Parenthood, they'll know the laws for your state about dispensing the morning after pill to minors. I wish you good luck. Leave this loser who violated your trust and focus on friends and school for now so you don't end up in this situation again.
2007-03-27 12:12:58 · answer #2 · answered by nimo22 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are way too young to be having sex! And technically that is rape, he knew you didn't want to have sex, and he did it while you were drunk, and depending on where you are that could be statutory rape. You are 14 years old, you say you've been with him since you were 9?! Do your parents know this? And if this guy is 17 he must be a loser to be with a 14 year old, no offense to you at all. Darlin, you need to forget about guys for a while, you don't know what it's even like to not have a boy by your side all the time. I think you shouldn't only break up with him, I think you should press charges on him also. Take a few years to have fun with your girls.
2007-03-27 12:14:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are clearly not ready for this, but lets not get heavy on him. He`s older than you and IS ready for sex, so you need to end the relationship and let him find someone his own age. Also you put yourself at risk by getting tipsy, this is the kind of thing that happens when you are not in control, so stop drinking until you are mature enough to handle it. It still isn`t too late to get the morning after pill, you have three days, go to family planning straight away. If you do not see your next period get a pregnancy test. You need to speak to him and tell him how you feel about it, he has to know the consequences of his actions.
2007-03-27 12:30:29 · answer #4 · answered by helen b 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
two words. leave him.
if you clearly told him you werent ready
and he did anyways. then he is NOT worth it.
especially to do such a thing when you were not fully there. thats not right. if you stay with him, things will most likely not get better. they will actually probably get WAY worse. It could become dangerous for you, and no one wants that. you need to be safe, and live your life happily and with nothing bad like that.
hun, take my advice. there are way better guys out there for you. you need a guy who respects you and who listens to you. not one that forces you to do things your not ready to.
dont freak out, your probably not pregnant. but if you are worried, take a test. you might want to talk to your mom though. its not your fault that he did that, but you should get tested for STDs since he didnt use a condom, just to be safe.
So heres my solution, dump the guy before it gets worse, get tested, and move on in life. it wont be that simple, but some day you WILL find the guy that treats you the way you should. and when you do, you will know it.
2007-03-27 12:38:01 · answer #5 · answered by beach_chica199 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if this guy doesn't respect you enough to back off when you say no. then he doesn't really care for you first deep down. you just got a valuable insight into his nature (and it definitely is "him first"), and now's your chance to find a nice guy who will respect you. you must have been having doubts about staying with him before or you would'nt have said "i didn't think it would last". yeah, it'll be tough at first but which is worse: feeling like crap for a month before you move on, or locked into a relationship where the guy does'nt treat you well. go for one of the guys that treat girls like princesses, you'll be happier with one of them next year. i know from experience. definitely leave the guy you're with, and good luck!
2007-03-27 12:22:24 · answer #6 · answered by Roberta S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you know he only has 2 percent chance of having kids? This guy just took advantage of you, he's a jerk and most likely a liar. Leave him.
2007-03-27 12:10:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you can't trust this guy at all. First of all, he shouldn't be letting you drink so much. It kinda seems like he wanted you to not know what you were doing so he could take advantage of you. You need to confront him with your feelings and see what he has to say about his actions. After you hear what his explanation is, you'll be more clear about your feelings for him. But if you can't trust him, get away now.
2007-03-27 13:09:14 · answer #8 · answered by Josie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have been dating one guy since age 9? where were your parents????!!!! #1, he is 17, that is rape, either way. #2, STOP DRINKING! YOU ARE 14! #3, get tested for STDs, and dump his a*s. he raped you, since you didn't give your consent.
doctors can be wrong, and then you can be pregnant. how about that chance? are you willing to stay with a guy who raped you and says he still loves you? if you are pregnant, think about adoption, NOT abortion.
2007-03-27 12:30:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would leave this guy, u said u werent ready for the big step but he took advantage of u, there r better guys out there for u. he doesnt deserve u and plus he seems not to care about ur feelings.
2007-03-27 12:14:50 · answer #10 · answered by marta d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋