I dont kno wat to do???

Question

iv never had a chilhood because of family problems ......ive never even learned how to ride a bike ...im 12..so ive become shy and im isolated from the other kids...im also going through puberty and cant trust my own feelings...i dont kno wat to do?????

i dont have friends

i dont trust anyone

Answer 1

talk to an adult that you trust

Answer 2

I was in a similar situation when I was your age (I am almost 25 now and I feel so old!), the most important thing to do is to keep trying. Unfortunately, sometimes people your age (and older) can develop something called social anxiety disorder, which makes them afraid to deal with people they don't know and/or trust. You don't want to feel like that. Fortunately, you're not alone, many people feel the same way and there are places where you can go to help you become more social. You can look into big brothers and big sisters in your area (www.bbbsa.org), you can try a mentoring organization in your area (www.mentoring.org), you can look into church activities, you can talk to your guidance counselor at school, you can even join the girl scouts! (this may seem corny but it has lots of benefits, and it will look good if you decide to go to college in a few years). The most important thing is to remember that at your age almost everyone feels that way, even if they don't seem like they do, and make sure you find the support system you need. When you learn how to ride a bike (and I'm sure you will) you may realize it's a lot like life; you have to keep trying to get whatever you want done. Good luck and I wish you the best!

Answer 3

Ask someone you trust, your counselor in school or a good and wise adult. I had a very good childhood friend who's parents really cared about her. I learned from hanging with her family how a really good family can be. Read some good books from your local library geared toward adolescent life. Make friends with people who laugh a lot and enjoy good wholesome outdoor activity and sports. I'm not talking about the "in" or popular girls or boys necessarily just the fun ones who don't look down on anyone and are happy just to be kids.
Best of luck to you, don't grow up too fast.

Answer 4

I don't have friends

I don't trust anyone

I see, so I'm the first one you've trusted? Or something like that? Well what type of family probs? I had a crappy as hell childhood (this is not a lie) but I had some help and pulled it together. If your parents are divorced or such, then you still have a chance at a normal life. Now if it's something worse like they were killed or one got raped then it's understandable. I'll continue in the next email.

Answer 5

learn how to ride that bike. now is better than never. start distancing your self from these problems and don't let them bother you. start playing a sport or get involved in an extracarricual activity, that will help you to get your mind off of the problems and help you meet new friends who are encouraging and motivating. you will meet a group of people that feel like a good family. i didnt have a hard life, but my family was sooo screwed up. i was raised by my grandparents and no one in my family liked each other so it was very hard emotionaly. my friends from my softball team were the best things that ever happened to me. they gave me the confidence that i was never given. they are still my friends to this day and we are all grown up.

Answer 6

I don't know where you are from. In Australia there is kids help line. I don't know what you have were you live but I Would try to talk to someone. You seem to have a lot of problems from your past that you need to sort through. It's good that you know this and want some help. Don't let your past controll your future. Talk to someone about all this so you can be the kid you want to be. Good luck

Answer 7

I didn't have much of a childhood either. My heart goes out to you sweetie, really it does. But you are still a child, and you deserve to be one. Here is something that might help you, do some research on what kinds of Big Sister programs there are in your area, and hook up with a montor. These are usually women in their early twenties who have a lot going for themselves. They hang out with you and give advice like a big sister.

Answer 8

Look up your local library on the Internet. Most now have family nights, teen nights, etc. Go there.
Go to church and join a Sunday School class.
Find an after school program.

Answer 9

you are still a child. learn to ride a bike on your own! who do you live with? talk to them, or the school nurse.

Answer 10

talk to an adult u trust about what your feeling and maybe they can help you get out of this isolated stage in your life

Answer 11

Little by little just start talking to people,don't change who you are the person no ones see.Be yourself