Would YOU MARRY FOR money with no looks, or looks and NO MONEY?

Question

Explain your reasons and really think about that option because one or the other could change your life dramatically depending on how your use to living. Men and WOMEN both

Answer 1

I married for LOVE--nothing else matters.
He actually had very little money, and average looks, but I bet we're a lot happier than someone who marries for the reasons YOU listed!!!

Answer 2

Is this what you young people do today? Choose between these two sad options? Neither is appropriate! Either way, you'll end up divorced because you said nothing about the ONLY reason to marry..... LOVE. When you love someone and being with them makes you the happiest you've ever been in your life, and loving them makes you feel powerful and wonderful, and doing things for this person is your top priority, and caring about your own self is the lowest thing on your list...THEN, you are in love and ready to marry. And not a minute before that.

Answer 3

I am a man, married for more than 10 years.

I got married only because I loved her and she told me the same. She told me that nothing else would make her happier than being married to me. To be honest, I wasn't attracted to her for looks, and she had no money.

But I realized very soon that she also came with a lot of low self esteem. She has been overly concerned about not looking good, and very bitter about having a poor childhood and never having had money to afford anything. As a result, she has been very obsessed with looks, and doing things to attract male attention to feel beautiful. In money matters, she has had no self control and has got us broke a few times.

When I look back, I feel that when you marry someone good looking, they are likely to have a better self esteem, and someone who has had parents who were financially comfortable, then he/she would not have felt so deprived in their childhood, and would probably be better at managing money in their adult life.

I still love her and we are still married. But I have had to deal with a lot of emotional pain caused by her involvment with other men, and indiscretion with the money. I am wiser now, and am feeling better than I was a couple of years ago, but financially I have a lot to sort out. Trust was also quite badly eroded, and I am slowly healing.

To make this long answer short, there are risks in marrying in someone who may not be very good looking or is very poor.

Answer 4

i know this from experience...
my mom was dating this man (when i was a teenager) and he was a prominent lawyer and had a really nice house and really nice cars and a boat and the whole rich guy thing going.
well he had been dating my mother for several weeks and then he offered to marry her and give my sister and me his last name(you know an official adoption as HIS children) so my mother chose to say no and end the relationship.
Up until recently we never talked about it but maybe a month ago i asked about that guy...and she said that he was too fat and had a short winkie, and that he wasn't her type (in the physical asspect)
I told her she was real dumb and if that were me, that i would forgo the looks to have constant financial security for me and my children. that love is a thing that can be cultured in a relationship like that.
Now my husband may not be a brad pitt or anything but just like i said before, he's hard working and focused on giving me and my kids a secure financial future.
Because looks maybe something but they fade with time and this world "runs" on money.

Answer 5

Marry someone you really love I would chose no money but looks because you'll can work together people everyday fall in love and our poor and make in the end it will work it self out but marring somone just for money first of all your not attracted to them your probley going to cheat and then what all this for money when you can be with someone you just like being with thats the person you should want to stay with money or not.

Answer 6

Well, I tried the personality-no money...

I have never had the opportunity for the good looks- no money so not sure there....although I know looks goes away....no money usually just mulitplies.

I have also been lucky to not know UGLY and no money.

I have no idea what it would be like even think about money and any of the above.

I CAN tell you this....Money makes Good people better and bad people worse....looks have nothing to do with it.

Answer 7

I would marry for love. I have been married two times and both men are good looking. Neither one of them had money when I married them and they are hard workers and they have given me a home. Money is not everything. I have a friend who married her first husband for his money and she never loved him and they are now divorced.

Answer 8

There has to be some chemistry. I have dated a few not so good looking guys that had tons on charisma. I would say money and no looks. Looks could be gone overnight.

Answer 9

Neither is an option, i would marry for love only...

So...... i guesss, then id be marrying for looks with no money eh, cause no matter what he looked like he would be the most georgous man on the earth...... to me !

Answer 10

Neither. I have always looked at what is inside not outside. If you are choosing a partner by either category of importance you've already lost the concept of what's important in a lifelong marriage.