Look. im young, and sometimes stupid. But i moved to New York when i was 13 years old. When i got here, i met this guy. We became really close friends. But the minute i met him, i fell...hard. It's been over 4 years since then, and i still cannot think of any other guy but him. I have been in other relationships since then, and did fall in love with someone else. During that time period, i forced myself to think of my friend as that, just a friend. Meanwhile, the guy i was dating and i broke up. And i noticed that the entire time the one guy i couldnt get out of my head, was my friend.
I dont know what to do. In a way i want to get over my friend, But i like him so much. I dont want to call it love with the fear of getting hurt, but i dont know what else to call it. He's the kind of guy who you cant just tell them that you like them. He tells his friends that he doesnt want to ruin our friendship with a relationship. but i dont think it would ruin it.
please help me,im in dire need
2007-03-27 11:48:48 · 23 answers · asked by saratogasool128 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Well, I have been in love with someone I knew it would last long but I told him anyway and I'm not sorry to tell you this but... TAKE A RISK!! Don't worry about getting hurt life is all about risks, you need to take a risk and call him up. Don't tell him right away but just tell him you wanna get together sometime and hang out. If he says yes then you can tell him there. Don't rush it just tell him slowly and explain everything! If he says he can't get together ask him when he is free. (P.S. Smile while talking people can hear it =])
Hope this helps!
~Katie~
2007-03-27 11:57:54 · answer #1 · answered by charmedmagick28 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This story is about two very important men in my life, Chris and James. Yes, I have loved someone that I could never been with! This maybe be quite long because I remember it all as if it were yesterday! I know exactly how you feel. This guy, Chris, moved to the town I lived in. So instantly I fell for Chris...hard, like you said. I had never liked anyone like this before! We became great friends and were never apart. It was practically like we were dating. All of our friends said that dating was just the next obvious step and that we were perfect for eachother! Well, same thing happened, he said he didn't want to ruin our amazing friendship that we had and that he didn't want to do anything to put it in danger. Now I smiled and said that I understood, but inside my heart was breaking and I wanted to scream at him, "what's wrong with you? Can you see that I love you? I know that you love me too, you're just scared that's all!" I mean I just couldn't accept this because I had had everything all planned out...we would be high school sweet hearts, date through college, and get married when I graduated. Well, we went on being friends and had our moments to were I thought we would be together forever. The really big crush came when he got a girlfriend. I was devistated and didn't know what I was going to do. I felt as if I had lost my best friend forever. So what did I do? I jumped into a relationship just to try to hide the pain. Chris was one year older than me and when he graduated he moved to Colorado to go to college. Colorado is five states away from where I live. So, once again my heart was broke. I went and visited him a couple times and we had our moments to where I thought he really wanted me this time. Well anyway, we didn't drift apart or lose contact; in fact, we are still best friends today. Eventually, and it took about two years after he left, I saw how different we really where as he changed during college and I changed during college. I hadn't had a boyfriend since my little rebound over Chris, and while I was at college I met this absolutally amazing guy named James. We became friends and I was worried that I was going down the same path as before. I was wrong, we started dating and pretty soon Chris just became my best friend that I called every couple days or so. James was soo patient with me. He knew what had happened with me and Chris and let me move at my pace and he didn't want me to jump into anything that I wasn't ready for. Well, James and I got married on June 3, 2006, and now I am expecting the first additions of our family...twins! Two girls to be named Faith Marie and Hope Renae. And Chris? He has a girlfriend and I can tell that he loves her...the way that James loves me and Chris was also a groomsman in our wedding and is going to be the girls' godfather (James and Chris became quite good friends)! Well, my story had a happy ending, but what I'm trying to say is eventhough you might feel like this guy is the love of your life, he may not be. If you really do love him and you think he loves you too, wait and TALK to him, he'll understand if he really cares about you in any way. But don't wait forever and waste away the best years of your life. They are to precious and no guy is worth that. Good luck and I hope my story helps you!
2007-03-27 20:07:05 · answer #2 · answered by sjs1908 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well lady, I wouldn't like to be in your situation.
I haven't felt exactly the same but I've been illusioned with someone already taken or someone who's just impossible...but in your case I think it's just a matter of talking with him. Go ahead, talk to him about your deepest feelings, and see what happens. If he says again: I don't think it will work, I don't want to ruin our friendship, tell him to give it a try. If you guys don't give it a shot, you will never know if it's gonna work!
Be smooth when telling him about what you really feel. Tell him you keep thinking about him even when being with other guys, that you think he's the most special someone you've ever met.
And even if he says: no no no no, you would need to accept it and give some space for yourself to get over him for a while.
But hopefully he will give you an opportunity! Be positive but be realistic as well hun. Good luck! :D
2007-03-27 19:11:15 · answer #3 · answered by bloodymary24 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Totally I met someone online on Myspace and I still havent met him. Im desperate to do so but I need a makeover first. That doesnt come neither. LIfe sucks. I feel just exactly like you. Im in dire need too to finally meet this guy. YOu thinks he looks cute?
www.myspace.com/agallahdonbishop
He's from Brooklyn, New York.
2007-03-27 18:53:46 · answer #4 · answered by d8jk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
10 years afterward, I still felt something for someone I had a crush on when I was 5! It's gone now. There is no such thing as a guy that you can't just tell. Tell him, and see what happens. Whatever happens is probably for the best.
You never know, perhaps you can't have him now. If so, get on with your life, and perhaps one day he'll come chasing you!
2007-03-27 18:53:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a wonderful time in your life, although I am sure you're not feelin' it right now. Have you heard the saying "If it is to be, it is up to me"? Life is way too short to worry about loosing a friend because you love him...sounds silly doesn't it? Well it is. Ask him to go to dinner with you tell him how you feel. True friends will remain true friend, no matter what. If it does not work out agree before your get romantically involved
that no matter what you will remain friends for life! Make sure you love yourself before you ask him to.
2007-03-27 18:58:12 · answer #6 · answered by keepin'' it real 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All ya gotta do is be like "Hey, rate these girls 1-10," ( some name) and then he'll say wahteva. And so on. And then after maby 4 or 5 girls say your name. But my point is, if you like this guy you should take a shot. Actually tha 1-10 thing works for me like a charm. They always say there answer. And if he doesn't like you, then just try to move on with your life. Ya like that????
2007-03-27 18:56:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes.
But...This isn't about me.
It's about you and how young you still are.
Here's my quick story...
I was attracted to my (now) wife when I was 12. Her best friend and my best friend were bro and sis. We would see eachother at their house. I was interrested but her big bro was a jerk. So, I didn't persue. I was bummed. Later, after high school we re-met at a party, fell in love, and married to this day.
So...You are young, life may have you cross his path again, you never know.
2007-03-27 18:54:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should talk to him and tell him how you feel. You can't know unless you try. He might be telling his friends that because he thinks you don't want to be more than friends. And, if all he wants is still your friendship, at least you'd know for sure and you'd be able to move past it.
2007-03-27 18:57:03 · answer #9 · answered by okwriting 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That kind of love is actually lust. You are young, it is hard to accept that this guy is not wanting a relationship, but you have to accept it and just keep him in your memory. Someday you will meet a guy that really is worth your attention and you will know it!
2007-03-27 18:55:05 · answer #10 · answered by desertflower 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋