I have been married for almost 4 years. My husand and I have a 2 year old daughter. I am currently 6 months pregnant, I have put on a lot of weight which I am suppose to but the problem is my husband is acting up. He is not attracted to me, ignores me, avoids having sex, and is bored talking to me. Do you think he is cheating on me? What can I do to change that?
2007-03-27 11:42:51 · 20 answers · asked by lina 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm sorry your hubby is putting you through this. he's obviously self centered. i don't know for sure if he's cheating, but it sure sounds like it. Why don't you show him that others are attracted to you. Most men love pregnant women. Show him that!
2007-03-27 11:47:03 · answer #1 · answered by lilmama 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
i don't think he is cheating on you, i do think that maybe you two are growing apart-you can't fix it really i would know. But you should tell him your ignoring me and your being-whatever is going on. Then once you find out whatever you need to find out-if he is cheating on you-you have to ask yourself would you if you had a pregnant wife at home and aren't getting along very well (if that's the case) would you cheat? Because if you love him you should make an effort to keep him with you because ask yourself will u be able to forget him? Or could you like another person more than him-but if he's cheating on u and actin biznotchey about it dump his ace-i mean i know you are probably worried if you do your baby won't grow up right but my parents got divorced and it never mattered to me-really i still get to see him so-make the decision u think is best good luck
2007-03-27 11:55:22 · answer #2 · answered by norma s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Focus on making YOU more attractive for you. So you have put on weight. If you are pregnant then that's normal. But have a plan in place to take that weight off once you deliver your baby. Just because you are pregnant (and i'm not saying this to be mean) doesnt mean that you can also go out in public looking like you did not put time into yourself. Wear something nice, make sure that your hair is done, nails, makeup..the whole nine. maybe that will help. :o)
2007-03-27 12:25:51 · answer #3 · answered by cfalways 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you didn't get pregnant by yourself, sweetie, and he can't carry the baby instead of you, so it is HIS JOB to be supportive, loyal and kind while you carry his child inside you. It is also his job to help you take care of the 2 year old when he gets home from work. He needs to be reading bedtime stories, and giving baths, and picking up toys with her. He needs, in short, to act like a husband and a father. If he TELLS you that he is bored with you, turned off by you, etc., yes, maybe he is cheating. You should sit down with him and tell him he needs to grow up and act like a husband and father or give you support payments and leave your home. His choice. And, frankly, if he doesn't shape up, I'd talk to his parents about his behavior if you are close to them. Maybe they can talk to him about this. What he is doing is wrong. As for you...make sure you aren't nagging and whining. Sometimes hormones do that to us women. Talk to your doctor about it. Also, try to talk to your husband about things other than the baby and the daughter. Talk to him about world news, sports, etc. Try to set aside time on the weekends to do things together. Get a babysitter and go out together so he feels like you remember he's around. But your husband has to know that you are pregnant and,thus, dealing with all these hormonal changes and he has to be supportive right now.
2007-03-27 12:01:32 · answer #4 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Was this a planned pregnancy or an oops or intentional on your part without his consent?
Does he normally avoid you when he is angry at you? Perhaps he has some resentment toward you and the child you are carrying.
You can't change your husband only how you respond to his words/behavior. If he hasn't come right out and told you that he finds you boring and unattractive then please don't assume that it is true. Engage him in conversation in an area that he likes - baseball, Nascar? Plan an outing that you know he would enjoy. Iniate sex.
2007-03-27 12:04:00 · answer #5 · answered by Stefka 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't worry.
this may or may not have happened before when you were pregnant with your first child.
men can be...how do i say... repulsed by some pregnant women. but if you are still suspicious slightly, then try looking in his pockets, wallets, etc. for maybe pictures, condoms, anything. if that doesn't convince you, then don't be one of those emotional preggies who's always like YOU HATE ME?!! AW WAHHH! WELL YOU KNOW WHAT I HATE YOU! NO NO WAIT NO I DON'T I DIDN'T MEAN THAT I WAS JUST KIDDING PLEASE DON'T LEAVE ME OR CHEAT ON ME!! OH IF I EVER FIND OUT YOU EVEN THOUGHT OF LEAVING ME THEN I'LL KILL YOU!!! i'm the oldest of 5. i've seen this happen many times. maybe you can confront him and be very serious about it. but only once. otherwise, you'll annoy him and you might fight.
2007-03-27 12:39:41 · answer #6 · answered by Stacy L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he sounds like a bit of a jerk, and insensitive to boot. I found my wife to be very attractive when she was pregnant, (3 times by me), and I always tried to keep her happy and do things for her. It's natural for a woman to feel depressed about the gained weight, but true love does not see it as a weight gain, but as an almost spiritual thing, the creation of a new life. is he acting different now than he did the first time?
2007-03-27 11:48:57 · answer #7 · answered by billyjoemikey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sit down, have a chat and get it all off your chest. you cant carry on as you are and it isnt fair to either of you. sorry, but it doesnt seem as if there is an easier option. just dont be aggressive. be honest, open and explain what you actually mean and how you feel. he might be feeling something similar and if not, what have you got to lose, and he might not even realise how you are feeling? why not try when the kiddie is in bed and you are both chilled out on a weekend and not a school night!
2007-03-27 12:06:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Asal,
You and only you can change his behavior or not! A husband should love his woman no matter what fat or skinny. Tell him you want a divorce and see how he acts. Then tell him you are going to have to pay me child support and spousal support and see how his love changes. Reverse Psychology 101! He's the culpret so he better change or you'll own him.
2007-03-27 12:09:59 · answer #9 · answered by beamer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first trimester is missionary sex, Second trimester is doggy style and the third trimester you have sex Coyote style that is where the man sits and howls around the howl, you sound like you are at the stage in child birth,,,
I think a pregnant woman is sexy,, I think men think by having sex with a pregnant woman they can harm the kid,, possibly poke a eye out or be bitten,,, wont happen,, talk to him about this,
2007-03-27 11:54:49 · answer #10 · answered by rich2481 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nice husband!! Tell him you want to get therapy and go. He helped get you pregnant and now your not what he wants. Great! I would talk my butt off to him and see where his head is. If he is cheating I know what I would do. But that's not the question. What a jerk.
2007-03-27 11:48:13 · answer #11 · answered by Rosa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋